Hola todos!

[johnsonja]

Hey everyone,
I just got done typing out a pretty lengthy introduction only to lose it all when trying to use the spell check.  So, I'm going to make a very abbreviated version of it and respond to questions to fill in the gaps.  Anyway, Ive been married to a Colombiana for almost eight years, but she filed for divorce last October (should be final later this month). I'm a very young looking thirty four year old (I can pass for 27-28) and have been to Colombia once for six weeks in 2007.  My Spanish is limited, but I'm always told my accent is really good for a gringo. I'm pretty familiar with Colombian culture and have now determined to use this divorce as an opportunity to find my dream Colombian wife.  Like many of you, I can't seem to accept the idea of a Westernized woman for a future wife either, and I'm really attracted to the dark hair/dark eyed Latinas.  My ideal would be a 20 something, preferably with no more than one child (I have a 7 yr old daughter myself that lives with me half time), that is looking to be best friends with her faithful monogamous 'Chico Blanco' husband and start a new family, raise kids and grow old with me.  I hope to get my Spanish buttoned down this year in time to make a scouting trip at the end of 2012 or beginning of 2013.  I have a CC profile now and seem to be getting a lot of interests... a few that I'm interested in communicating with too.  I'm hoping to make some friends/prospects on there and visit them when I make the trip to Colombia.  I only have a free account now and am wondering if CC worth the membership fees or are there better sites? Thanks to all the contributors on this forum, I can't tell you enough how encouraged I am to have found this community.  Ciao!

[JWR]

Welcome Johnson....
 
Thank you for coming.  Most guys that crash and burn never come back here.  You made it 8, I made it 10.  Around here, that's a long time.......
 
Take it easy, and take it slow ok.....

[johnsonja]

Yeah, technically it was eight, but it started unravelling around six, and then by the seventh she said she was done... we've just been separated for this last year.  She came to the US at 17 and I met her when she was 22.  Three months after we stated dating, she got pregnant.  I wanted to do the right thing and marry her.  There was a lot of family 'encouragement' on her side as well.  I wasn't all that determined to stay with her until about a year or so after we were married... it seems looking back when she realized how unshakeable my commitment was to her, that's when she started to change for the worse.  Oh, and yes there were a lot of red flags that I ignored early on during dating... the worst being her temper.  I was just trying to get in her pants, so I figured I could put up with it for a while.  Little did I know it would be years!  So, I wouldn't say I'm comming back... I just know what I'm physically attracted to, now I just have to find the whole package. 

[mambocowboy]

If I remember correctly, you can't exchange emails on CC without paying. I think it's definitely worth it, plenty will give you skype or msn addresses so you may only need to pay for a month...

[vikingo]

Hi Johnson, I had a similar experience but I suffered a lot longer. I met this Mexican woman when she was 29, I was 40 at the time. I knew from just about day one that she had an explosive temper, but she had breasts that would make a grown man cry and I couldn't wait to get to know her better. I put up with her horrible temper for four long years, was ready to call it quits, but she got pregnant. She changed immediately to the sweetest woman I have ever known. For your horse lovers out there, you know how a cantancerous mare changes the moment she is with foal (how she hated it being compared to a mare). We had a little girl and I was the happiest man on earth for a few years, but then she got pregnant again, a couple more times and after the last boy she went into a post partum depression and never snapped out of it. Every month she got a little more ornery. I put up with her for 26 long years and when she finally became unbearable and started to affect my health I run away from home, all the way to Cali, Colombia, had never been in South- or Central America before.

[robert angel]

Hey Johnson,

 
Welcome--I know about how it feels to lose a long post--sort of gives me a slow burn. I switched to Windows 7--(just as my friends are beta testing Windows 8--which is coming soon) and with Win. 7, P-L spell check's weird on my computer too--I high light/copy what I'm typing, because it disapears when I click to allow the spell check function  to 'pop up'.
 
I was married to a Filipina (a pretty Americanized Filipina) for 14 years, but the last couple of years, it was pretty cold--we were just going through the motions for the kids, which isn't always as good or noble as it sounds. We never really had heated blowups in front of the kids, but a long ongoing quiet, icy relationship wasn't good for the kids to see either. Looking back, I ignored red flags and at age 30, thought I ought to settle down, when in fact I wasn't ready. I married again to a Filipina who's very, very different than my first wife and we're going on 7 years together--we'll see--so far, so good!
 
The way I see it, there are good gals all over the world--including the USA--it's just that when you get to certain age here in the states, it seems like most of the good ones are 'taken' and stay taken--they're 'keepers'.
 
I think my chances are (were) better overseas and I love and embrace differences among people and cultures. Seems I've been with women from other nations as much as with American women and that most of my relationships from my teenage years on, have been long term. Once I got some years on me, I definitely noticed that transitioning from one quality relationship into another here in the states took a lot more time and effort. The 'dating game' was not fun, with a lot of balks and other false starts.
 
I can't let my self lose energy in being so negative as to judge ALL American women as damaged, never mind all that "Feminazi' stuff. I dunno if ignorance is bliss, but my wife and I pretty much tune out that noise and when we can't help but notice women here that seem--shall we say; "a bit strange", we more often than not get a chuckle out of it and give thanks for what WE have in comparison.
 
If I let things get my goat too much, I figure I'm the one with the problem....
 
Good to have you here--better days are ahead!

[RuseMD]

I met someone through CC and it was a really great experience.