Decisions, Decisions ...

[Zon]

I thought it might be worthwhile to banter about some obvious generalizations - it has been a while, plus there are newbies on the board.  Of course these are generalizations, but generalizations are grounded in truth.  What is your experience?


1, Beauty versus Brains.   Let's face it, there is a LOT MORE of the former, and LOT LESS of the later in Colombia!  Generally speaking, people from the coast have smaller brains (just kidding - but they seem to use them less).   Pretty girls from poorer families tend to have less formed (advanced) decision making, and a difficulty grasping abstracts.  Now, there are certainly plenty of examples of the opposite.  Ever girl I have dated in College was certainly not stupid.  In fact, I have met many young women that were not fortunate to go to college, and many had strong, organized minds.  I guess you need to check under the hood.


2, The perfect age for wife hunters?  It depends on the man.  It depends on the sophistication/ education/ adaptability of the lady.  But, it does seem that women younger 24 - 28, without children are the most adaptable (but, also the ones that are most likely to keep on adapting once they get to the USA.  (Not good for most gringos that have stretched the bounds of compatibility in the first place HAHAHA)  Women in their young 30s can make the transition, the ones that have a college education / experience travelling tend to do better.


3, Times are a changing.   Significant poverty will remain a fact in Colombia for another decade at least, but the economic conditions for many are improving.  The choices available to young women, intelligent, from a family with good values, and very beautiful are better than ever.   All things being equal, few people WANT to leave their home, family, friends, without some significant cause. ( I'm just saying).     Also, age gaps tend to be shrinking - if you look hard.  And, many Colombianas, especially in the big cities are a little more plump than they used to be only 4 years ago.   It is still fortunate, perhaps, that 99.9% of Colombian men tend to behave like dogs (as far as being faithful that is); and a slight majority treat there women like dogs too.   So, as long as a Gringo is not truly wretched, the comparison is favorable.


One last point for those using online crap - the girls with heavy sunglasses (not wanting to be easily noticed?); or suspiciously showcasing their bodies are rarely the stay at home and cook diner type:)

[InnocentVixen]

colombianas... I will not go there...


point 3
Same here in Mexico about the getting heavier and reduced age gaps, it's more noticeable in bigger cities so I would guess in any country if you go to a medium city or sort of big town your chances might be better, for those that like them really young you might want to consider a ranchito.


Heavy "glamorous" sunglasses
Over here at least it means either high maintenance girl or party girl (hiding dark circles from previous night) if it's not sunny... if it's sunny they have the excuse that those sunglasses are all they could find, just like skinny jeans, we don't have much choices when someone decides something is "in" I personally blame China.


Showing too much skin
Indeed, not the housewife type... but do keep in mind that we tend to be more feminine so that doesn't mean go for a slob in sweatpants and over-sized shirt, even business suits are closer to the body over here and there is nothing wrong with that. Taking it literally might be a good idea, a woman that shows off her curves without showing too much skin is probably ok.

[Zon]

so I would guess in any country if you go to a medium city or sort of big town your chances might be better, for those that like them really young you might want to consider a ranchito.

si, claro.  gracias para su direcciones:) probablamente es mejor por mi!  I might need to learn to ride a horse ....

[z_k_g]

point 3
Same here in Mexico about the getting heavier and reduced age gaps, it's more noticeable in bigger cities so I would guess in any country if you go to a medium city or sort of big town your chances might be better, for those that like them really young you might want to consider a ranchito.

This is depressing....

Heavy "glamorous" sunglasses
Over here at least it means either high maintenance girl or party girl (hiding dark circles from previous night) if it's not sunny... if it's sunny they have the excuse that those sunglasses are all they could find, just like skinny jeans, we don't have much choices when someone decides something is "in" I personally blame China.

I like those glasses!!

Showing too much skin
Indeed, not the housewife type... but do keep in mind that we tend to be more feminine so that doesn't mean go for a slob in sweatpants and over-sized shirt, even business suits are closer to the body over here and there is nothing wrong with that. Taking it literally might be a good idea, a woman that shows off her curves without showing too much skin is probably ok.

Please don't change this! 

Latina's really know how to wear the 4 inche heels and mini skirts!!

Zulu

[Researcher]

si, claro.  gracias para su direcciones:) probablamente es mejor por mi!  I might need to learn to ride a horse ....

    Well zon I am glad to see you are opening up to possibilities. Your posts are more balanced now.

      Researcher

[Pivery]

 
 
Some good observations Zon,
 
Over the time you've been on the board your posts have been sorta hit and miss. So nice to see a really good one!
My wife is from the coast but has a sister in Bogota, so there is a difference in the women. More serious and less flashy in Bogota. Very meticulous about their grammer and dressed more conservatively. Not so sure about them using their brains less, but they do seem to be less worried about life and the future.
 
From my times of visiting and staying in Colombia since 2008 I have noticed the women putting on a little more weight and my wife has told me that the clothing stores have added larger pants and dress sizes. Not a good sign as most guys are not into the plus-sized women that are a norm here in the U.S.
 
Also you are right on in your observation of the men. My brother in law has two girlfriends on the side and pays for love apartments for them both! My sister in law knows about the others but says that it's a part of life and it's just something women need to put up with in order for financial stability.
 
How disgraceful that the men are this way, and I can't imagine doing something like this to my lady but if you have the right one this should not be necessary. Then again if the men weren't such dogs the gringos would have slimmer pickins, so their loss is our gain I guess!
 
Pivery

[aconcepts]

"colombianas... I will not go there..."
 
 
hahahahahaha!
 

Depends what you want and in what part of your life you find yourself - no?
 
Wife?
 
Well you go ugly early and get a woman with education and money - you marry up!
 
The chances of two people falling in love intuitively with each other to me seems slim. Most reports of this are fanciful romanticizing in my experience.
 
Where two people have need for each other makes a relationship last.
 
I think you have to ask yourself if you are interested in quantity or quality?
 
A long lasting relationship where you two are in it to the end is not my thing. I don’t really need hand holding. Not that type. Ideally, yes, but the chances of finding someone who keeps my sexual interest over the long run is slim.
 
Too jaded and yes that is my fault. But if beautiful memories is what makes a man's life good than I will die happy.
 
(Bils / Pats is a barn burner!! Picked off!).
 
 Wow would I ove to have the ideal combination of brains, youth and beauty along with experience and understanding.
 
Now my question is where are you going to find that combo from one person and both of your experience an intuitive love for each other. Slim chance.
 
I think the Latin paradigm is more realistic than the US wish list.
 
You couple up because of need one way or another. That way is usually because of children and/or lifestyle.
 
Love comes and goes. Need and lifestyle present challenges that keep people together during the times of physical boredom and repetition.
 
Just my two colones worth (if that).
 
 
 
 

[InnocentVixen]

"colombianas... I will not go there..."
 
 
hahahahahaha!
 

Depends what you want and in what part of your life you find yourself - no?
 
Wife?

aconcepts, for the record I am a mexican female that has spent long enough posting on this forum to not even try discuss colombianas since the only thing I know about them is what you guys say and Shakira does.


I just enjoy reminding guys on this board that there is more to Latin America than Colombia, nothing against the ladies, whitey is the first example that comes to mind that proves that you can get an amazing lady from there, but then again if I limited myself to post when someone is talking about mexicanas or latinas in general even, I would not have the chance to post often.

[robert angel]

IV,


It's a real shame also that so many people in the USA don't have a clue to the diversity that exists in Mexico-the cultural sophistication in education,  the arts--visual arts, literature, fashion, cinema and so much more. A few of us know a little--Diego Rivera, Frieda, etc--but not much.


It's a small, but still positive sign that higher end gourmet Mexican food restaurants are becoming more popular in some metro markets here.


For too many guys here, I'm afraid you're like a bright diamond--a beautiful light representing your nation, but I am sure there are millions of individuals in Mexico who defy the stereotypes most folks in the USA get from Hollywood and the rest of our 'mainstream media. I wish more of us looked past stereotypes and deeper into the true beauty that exists there.

[InnocentVixen]

Aww Rob, thank you, you sure know how to make a woman blush, send you a big hug! thank you for your kind words

[Jeff S]

There is a substantial difference between the US underclass of mostly poor, uneducated rural illegal immigrants who found it easy to come to the US in the past, and modern educated Mexicans you find in the cities of Mexico It's not just the media painting an unflattering picture. Unfortunately most Norteamericanos think Mexico is more like the Mexican immigrant communities in the US, when it truth, it's very different.

[Fuzzyone]

aconcepts, for the record I am a mexican female that has spent long enough posting on this forum to not even try discuss colombianas since the only thing I know about them is what you guys say and Shakira does.


I just enjoy reminding guys on this board that there is more to Latin America than Colombia, nothing against the ladies, whitey is the first example that comes to mind that proves that you can get an amazing lady from there, but then again if I limited myself to post when someone is talking about mexicanas or latinas in general even, I would not have the chance to post often.

  I for one enjoy very much your post and I hope that you keep posting only because it is refreshing to have a female south of the border here. For too long it has only been a bunch of men arguing with each other on the merits of latin america!

[whitey]

For too many guys here, I'm afraid you're like a bright diamond--a beautiful light representing your nation, but I am sure there are millions of individuals in Mexico who defy the stereotypes most folks in the USA get from Hollywood and the rest of our 'mainstream media. I wish more of us looked past stereotypes and deeper into the true beauty that exists there.

Igualmente!