Introducing myself, Latin vs Asian

[benjio]

I m glad you connected with Gato.....Im going to give you the same advice that I gave him.....a couple of years back.
 
He didnt take it...but that s fine.
 
If you re deaf, obviously communication is vital, yes? You said you wanted a woman who could converse and conversing face to face is different then doing IM on the internet
 
So a woman has to be able to sign, or maybe...she is also deaf and she has always signed........
 
.it would seem to me that that is more important at least to start with then the size of her boobs or her butt.
 
There are a lot of schools for the deaf in the world....yes?
Are there singles sites for deaf people?-----I assume so.
is there an international professional society for teachers of the deaf?
 
Why dont you start digging and do an internet search there has got to be latinas somwhere..... in the US or Mexico  or South America who are teachers in deaf schools or she is deaf and is on a deaf singles site AND  she s got the age and the physical package you re looking for.
 
If you find women like that who understand your world.....I respectfully believe you ll have a lot more traction then chatting with women on the Internet, just because they are in the PI or Colombia.   

Good luck!

I know of a school for the deaf and blind in Bogota but I haven't heard of any others in Colombia. I'd be very suprised if there were nothing in Medellin. I think even if a girl wasn't deaf, learning to sign in order to communicate with you would be the equivalent of her learning English in any other circumstance. I think that's a reasonable sacrifice if and when the relationship evolved to that level. Of course if she were coming to the U.S. to live with you, she'd need to learn English too...but like I said, if she really loves you, those are small sacrifices.

[Gato4Astrid]

I m glad you connected with Gato.....Im going to give you the same advice that I gave him.....a couple of years back.
 
He didnt take it...but that s fine.
 

WTF are you on about?  I remembered you told me that it is impossible for me to find a colombiana wife because of 3 reasons


1 - I do not speak Spanish
2 - I am from UK
3 - I am deaf


Look at my picture in my atavar!!   And what about you?  STILL LOOKING!!

[dennislevy]

Gato

I never said it would be impossible, I said it would be a challenge.


The last time you accused me of telling you it was impossible, I said put up the post where I used the word impossible....


You didn t.


The advice I was referring to was maybe seek out a latina who understood your world, because she was deaf OR she taught deaf people.


YOU claim to have improved your Spanish.....congratulations.....

That to suggest that I said it was impossible because you re British is just silly.  Many colombianas are looking for a CAUCASIAN FOREIGNER.


If  I understand all your posts correctly, what you have found  is a long distance amiga slash novia who you see very infrequently.... When you marry her and or you have her and  her kids in England...I ll be the first to congratulate you.

yes, Im still looking....and I ve had an enormous amount of fun doing it.


Have a good day.


Dennis






 

[Fuzzyone]

Hello, my name is Ken and I was born deaf.  I grew up here in the rural area in Eastern NC.  Needless to say, farming life really bored me to death so when I turned 18, I left the state to live in big cities for more than 10 years.  I was in a relationship with this woman from Boston (We lived together in Washington DC for 4 years) and she probably was the gem but at end of the 4th year, she suddenly had different desire and goal pursuing her doctorate degree so we split.  Because I could not find anyone even closer to her I never settled for anything less making it difficult to find a good woman for myself.  I actually waited 8 long years hoping that she and I would get back together, but it never happened.  She married an old man and I don't know her reason but I am pretty sure it was for love rather than social status (And I am still hoping it is!) because she is now a licensed doctor.  Eventually I got real tired of life in big city I moved back to home here in Eastern NC and in a way, I already built some good assets for myself that I am able to live in the rural area with comfortable.  I am not saying I am rich because I am not.  Just able to live alright even with economic hardship but I am doing well. 


So now my soulmate is married to someone else, I explored local women around here but unfortunately the choice is really limited.  I think there is too many men to women ratio out here.  I did manage to meet beautiful woman from Ohio but we were together (she moved in) for three months and I find her to be more spoiled and demanding than my last three ex she had to go!  So now I decided to explore meeting someone oversea.  I came cross this website Blossoms and always wanted to be with beautiful latin women because of their dark hair, dark eyes, and olive tan skin.  Well, I end up getting overwhelmed with many single ladies from Philippines and I talked with many women on the website.  I find that major of them are conservative which is not what I look for in my woman.  Some are simply looking for money regardless of whether you will be her boyfriend or not (yea, I can detect it before I fall victim and I never send money, period!).  I will say that I did met very few nice women from PH and still talk with them for more than a year now.  They are even on my facebook and they have begged me to come visit them.  I refused but that was until I found out that my college mate's brother moved to PH in Cagayan De Oro so I contacted him about PH and got most of his feedback saying that many women out there are looking and all.  He agreed that if I was to come and visit, he would look out for me.  So I know I will be in good hand if I decide to visit PH.


But right now, my heart is actually set on latina simply because I find them attractive.  By attractive, I mean their nice figure, big ass and sizeable boobs. I prefer the one who is not skinny.  I signed up on RomanceLatina because I found them through Facebook and after contacting with 40+ women, I am now talking with about 7 women and 3 of them actually know little english.  I came cross one woman from Brazil and find her to be more intelligent of all the women I have talked with.  She really carry out interesting subject talking about anything.  She is actually more open and very direct about her like and dislike both in and out of bedroom.  It turned out that we both actually have same interest and same view in life.  She was more than willing to learn sign language and for that I am more than willing to accept the fact she have a daughter and I would take her daughter in.  But the problem is that when I was ready to buy the ticket to visit her, she is nowhere to found so I moved on but last Friday, she surprised me with email wishing me happy birthday when we haven't talked with each other for 3 weeks.  I don't know how to respond to it other than to say "Thanks! Take Care!".


So now it boils down to whether I want to travel to Philippines where I have someone who is American that will watch my back while I am dating few asian women, and most asian women already know english which is advantage compared to Latina in Colombia.  Colombia is cheaper to travel and I have two women offering me to stay at their house while I visit but I insisted that I stay in hotel (because if she lose interest then I would hate to put her in a spot to ask me to leave).  I have even considered some agency like Colombia Romance Tours, I Love Latins Tour (Still fishy on this one), and others.  I found one complaint in the archives against Sam Smith but the guy who said he would "type" two long messages in one thread never finished his 2nd message I am starting to think he was probably just pissed off he messed up and wanted to defer the blame on Sam and on this lady who apparently used him.  One thing about Sam Smith that actually made me think he may be legit is that when I asked him about providing a sign language interpreter who can also speak spanish, he had one of his interpreter email me back and she told me her cousin know ASL and can help me.  I never said anything about ASL (America Sign Language) and for her to say ASL could prove her credibility??  Then I saw a recently video on YouTube (Finally new women in the video) I figured it might be worth a shot??


So as you can see, I am really on the fence trying to decide what to do.  For me, spending $1,000 in a week is a lot of money.  I can be cheapskate sometime because I don't want to spend money that I will end up needing it next week.  I like to live a frugal lifestyle even though I own a land (55 acres), few homes, and a beach house.  As I said, I am not rich but I spend my money wisely so I can still afford to pay high taxes, high insurance (beach property insurance is not cheap and they do not accept monthly payment!!), and all.  Yes, if I want to go on a trip, all I have to do is put it on a plastic and I am off on a vacation.  I am just not sure what I want to do..  1) Meet women I am already talking with online (msn, skype, yahoo using webcam and I have seen all women on webcam) in Colombia or in Philippines.. or 2) Take up expensive agency and risk it out.  If I was to travel to Colombia, it will most likely be a short trip the first time.. maybe a week and meet up with each woman for 1-2 days then make a plan for longer time with the one I feel is better??  But if I was to go to PH, I would plan for a whole month so I can date few women for first week then last 3-4 weeks with the one I have good chemistry with.


Any opinion or input??  Thanks!!

  Hi Ken


    Hey guy to each his own with what you are looking for in a wife. Some guys are looking for a skinny wife some like one with meet on her bones to say. Anyway don't let anyone drive you away from here there is lots of info plus no matter where you go there is most likely a man here that has gone to that area. Good luck!

[wkheathjr]

Bob_S, I got your PM but for some reason I was unable to reply?  You can go ahead and edit to remove what you were asking in PM to me.


Dennis,


While your suggestion might sounds like a good one, it made me cringe.  I do not want to rock your boat but actually you do not know what you are talking about.  Unfortunately, there are thousand of many opinions on how the deaf should be educated.  Some hearing people think we should not learn with sign language but to read lips and learn how to speak.  Some hearing people think we should use English Sign Language which mean you would have to sign every single word as if you are writing/typing english grammar.  Some hearing people support the method of true deaf education which is to use America Sign Language which resemble similar writing structure as spanish, french and such and is made up with 60% of FSL (French Sign Language) and I am suspect of BSL (British) as well.  So with that said, not all deaf people are well-educated because of confusing system and in many cases parents are to blamed too.  Parents just put their "special" children in deaf school without bothering to ask if the education is actually the best one and proved one?  Also, many parents doesn't bother to learn sign language to communicate with their children.  As result, major of deaf people suffer.  That will explain why many of us do not write well or do well in real world.  Major of deaf people in USA is on welfare system because in many case they are not well educated nobody want to hire them for a job.  In few cases, it is simply because hearing people are too ignorant to hire us and let us work. 


So with all that said, your suggest may sound like a good one but you don't know the whole story!!  Gallaudet is the ONLY deaf university in the world!  There is NO other college like Gallaudet exclusively for the deaf in other country!  For a well-educated deaf women, they have to live in metropolitan where people are actually less ignorant than a hillybilly people to get a good job with good salary so finding women in that area who can survive in the countryside is highly unlikely!  Yes, I could settle for someone who is not exactly on the level and is on welfare but I will most likely end up taking care of her like she is my own daughter and the chance of "street smart" is highly unlikely I would become her father preaching and explaining all stuff especially when I will have to read and then communicate with her in our sign language. 


Benjio,
You said that learning sign language would be equivalent to learning English grammar.  The honest answer is that it really depend on each person's intelligent if they are a quick learner or slow learner.  But the bottom line is that sign language actually have the same writing structure as spanish and french that spanish-speaking person will learn sign language a lot quicker than english.  You can sign the word "drink" easily by acting like you are drinking.  Same for eating..  You can even gesture and pick up quickly like "Me Hot", "me eat", hold up a index finger signaling "wait".  That's a good start before picking up.  It's even easier than to learn english.  That is what we call "home sign" because that's how parents and baby start communicating with each other before baby pick up the real word.  If you played Charade game, you know that a person have to act out the word without making the word obviously but in this case you would be playing charade and can "cheat" by giving out the right word- that's how you start learning sign language and it is MORE FUN than learning english grammar!


And I will close this that my ex girlfriend (see pic) who is deaf and here in USA actually just emailed me on my birthday wishing me a happy one and confessed that she actually still have a feeling for me that she would like to give it another run.  I am game for it so we are taking it slow and for this reason I am putting the foreign stuff on hold.  Less expensive and less complicated.  Thanks for your time!!   

[dennislevy]

Ken
Its not the first time someone told me i didnt know what I was talking about!!!! jejejeje
 
I appreciate the effort you put into replying and the information you gave about the state of deaf education. Thank you very much and also for posting the fotos.
 
You look like a very nice couple....and best wishes for happiness and success.
 
 

[JWR]

Me too Ken,  Best of luck, and I hope things work out for you and your GF.

[z_k_g]

And I will close this that my ex girlfriend (see pic) who is deaf and here in USA actually just emailed me on my birthday wishing me a happy one and confessed that she actually still have a feeling for me that she would like to give it another run.  I am game for it so we are taking it slow and for this reason I am putting the foreign stuff on hold.  Less expensive and less complicated.  Thanks for your time!!   

wk,

Good followup!

Just wanna say brother that I wasn't trying to ball bust ya, but wanted to get you to write with more clarity, we can't read your mind or infer what you mean.

You don't seem to have a thin skin so P-L will be a good fit for you and hopefully you will continue to learn and contribute to the forum.

Its great that your sweetie has contacted you.  Much luck, maybe she knows that you are her "soulmate" also.

Keep us updated and be as gracious to her as you would any woman foreign or domestic and P-L can help you with both.

It takes two to have a healthy relationship, do your part.

Oh yeah.....your ex....she's hot! 

Z

[Gato4Astrid]

You said that learning sign language would be equivalent to learning English grammar.  The honest answer is that it really depend on each person's intelligent if they are a quick learner or slow learner.  But the bottom line is that sign language actually have the same writing structure as spanish and french that spanish-speaking person will learn sign language a lot quicker than english.

Yes, as a matter of fact, my novia learns sign language better than English 

[Gato4Astrid]

Major of deaf people in USA is on welfare system because in many case they are not well educated nobody want to hire them for a job.  In few cases, it is simply because hearing people are too ignorant to hire us and let us work. 

I am from UK, no difference here.  Discrimination!!
 
I was in the top of the class for my Mathematics degree but couldn't get a job in that field.  In the end, I had to start my own business but in Fashion! 


I attended a boarding school for the 'intelligent' deaf pupils.  At a point where I have done my research about where/what companies do they work?


All of them work for either:
- government (including postal services, National Health)
- county council (state)
- deaf or disabilities communitues
- their own business, or self-employed
- are still a student
- are unemployed


but none of them work for any business firms.  It proves that the 'business' firms are too ignorant

[alfie]

Regarding Sam Smith, he's a good guy, I met him many years back, and the fact that he's still in business says alot.  If he's willing to help with someone who can interpret with sign language, I'd say go for it.  Colombia is a relatively short trip for you.  Use it as an experience to get your feet wet, and as Fathertime stated, just have fun.  Don't worry about meeting that "special one" on the first trip.  It could take YEARS....but I guarantee, if you have the right attitude, you'll have the time of your life just enjoying the ride.
 
P.S.  I didn't read the entire thread because of the immature bull[snip] that seems to constantly go on here between members, so I didn't see the post you made about getting back with your ex.  She's pretty, so give it a go.  But if things don't work out, give my post some thought.  Good luck!