Did You Give (Or Are You Planning On Giving) Your Girl A Laptop?

[raycjs]

AB
 
i gave my Girl a laptop so she can do her school work, keep in touch with her Friends and family in Colombia, and read the local news. she has never abused it nor do i think she ever will.
 
 
Ray

[Alabamaboy!]

AB
 
i gave my Girl a laptop so she can do her school work, keep in touch with her Friends and family in Colombia, and read the local news. she has never abused it nor do i think she ever will.
 
 
Ray

Ray,

Hopefully all will go well with my wife's interview. If so, then she will be here soon. I told her to leave her laptop there and I have another here for her. So she will be able to communicate and webcam with her folks so she does not get too homesick.

[raycjs]

AB
 
i wish you the best of luck.... my girl calls home once a week and speaks to her family and that is a big help. she also stays in touch via the internet all of these things help keep her happy. if your girl ever wants to speak to mine fell free to give her our number....
 
i wish you both all the best......
 
 
Ray

[Alabamaboy!]

Ray,
 
Thanks. Will do.
 
 

[jm21-2]

Well, if a girl wants to screw around not having a laptop will not stop her.  She might borrow her friend's or sister's computer, or just go to an internet cafe.
 

Agreed.

[Colgando]

hahahahahahha too funny 

That is hilarious.

[Colgando]

I met this girl online I really like but I think she´s a prepago so I´m just going to buy her a calculator.

That is funny

[Colgando]

Kind of scared the write this because I have noticed that there are some guys that actually have a serious or exclusive relationship with a Latina eventhough they have spent little or no appreciable time together. But I bought my first Colombian wife a computer 12 years ago so I don't see a problem with it if you know what you are doing.

However I have recently spent quality time with a calena that had two laptops and a brand new blackberry all bought by her gringo boyfriend. So buyer beware.

Every other woman I had a serious relationship with already had a computer at home or lived in my apartment in Cali so obviously they were free to use the computers and whatever else was there. 

For the wife hunters that can carry  on a conversation in Spanish I would highly recommend talking your girl into getting high speed Internet in her home if she doesn't already have it and then getting a ooma device so she can call you any time and you her for next to nothing.
If you have a blackberry and you buy her one you can exchange pins and text each other a 100 times a day if you want for free.
If you have a poor little one buy her a kindle with free lifetime 3G and yes it works in Colombia and the newer ones have a web browser. You can't chat but she can send you emails to you everyday for the rest of her life or until it gets stolen. Jajaja

I am curious Calipro, are you married, do you live in Colombia? You have been at this for at least 12 years so I am curious as to your experience? You had at least a 1st Colombian wife?


Thanks for sharing!

[Colgando]

I guess his handle says it all CaliPRO. 

 

[Quixote9]

If you give her your computer, put some spyware on it and see what she is up to online 


Hey, its your computer after all.  Might be the cheapest way to find out if she is for real.  In my experience I think most guys would be pretty upset to learn what their girl is saying to other guys online. And I think most Colombian girls wouldn't hesitate to hack into your computer to spy on you if given the chance.


I am sure most guys will disagree. I have never done this myself.  But at this point I no longer can continue to overly romanticize the need for complete trust in a relationship as we are taught we are expected to have in Western Chick Flicks.  I would rather have certainty than trust.

[robert angel]

This topic would be far more interesting if it had originally been titled:
"Did She Give (Or Does Your Girl Plan To Give You) A Lap Dance?" 

[Alabamaboy!]

And I think most Colombian girls wouldn't hesitate to hack into your computer to spy on you if given the chance.

I think this is true. Even my little honey bunny wife is a good detective. When she was here last year she would come to my office to "study English". So she would take her laptop into my inner office and stay there for the afternoon.

After she returned to BAQ, she confessed that she had found two pics of me with my ex in the office and it really pissed her off. That is amazing to me because before she came, I had scoured that office to throw away any phone numbers, pics, whatever things from other women. And she still found something! Quite the investigator. I told her maybe if she spent less time studying English than looking through all my [snip] she would have maybe learned a little English and avoided getting sent back to Colombia.

I still have not found those pics. She says they are still there somewhere, but I have not been able to find them. She said they were hidden. Yeah right.

The ex gf was pretty good too. I remember going to the bathroom in the hotel room we were staying at in Rodadero, and I came back to make a phone call to my office, and I noticed that all the call logs on my Blackberry had been erased. And text messages too! On this one I had actually removed anything that might have gotten me in trouble. But she still had to do her investigation and "slash and burn" techniques. That was one of the "red flag" moments that made me feel that she was just a little too whack for me. When I questioned her about it, she said I was crazy and did not do it. But I know she did because I had just made a couple call attempts which were re-dialed from the list of previous calls before I jumped in the shower. And she pulled all that off in a matter of about 10 min.

[Quixote9]

Yes Alabama boy,


Every girl in Colombia I have dated has gone thru all my computer files, my cell phone's address book and text messages and call logs, gone thru my email and facebook, checked every photo on my video camera and digital camera.  Plus they delete every photo or contact they don't like without telling you.  I have been confronted numerous times about old photos I had no idea I still had and believed I had deleted.  I have had a girlfriend delete ALL the photos/video of my Barranquilla Carnival experience because she found one old photo she did not like on the Internal memory of my camera (I never use the internal memory as it only holds about 5 pics, but I guess a translator took a pic of me with some girl I met once thru an agency and saved it too the internal memory, well girlfriend checked the internal memory and found this 4 year old pic and got pissed and hit "delete all" because she doesn't understand English)


Same girlfriend demanded my Facebook password to "prove I had nothing to hide", I didn't give a [snip] because I am not a cheater (although I did resent the intrusion of privacy I have to admit it was kind of an ego boost that she was that jealous and thought I had all these women after me) Well, she would go online facebook or my messenger posing as me and talk to EVERY girl I had on my contact list pretending to be me and trying to get information from these girls about when the last time I had written them and what my relationship was with them.  Well, all these girls I had dated suddenly start thinking I am into them again and start messaging me ALL the freaking time.  Talking about how much they miss me and how happy they are I had messaged them.... which I had not done!  I knew I should have been pissed when I found out the truth, but I kind of found my GF's jealousy kind of amusing.   


Then same GF months later claims she found photos of me with other girls "Hidden" on my Facebook.  She claimed I had promised I had deleted them all.  Actually what happened was that she had said that it would embarrass her in front of her friends and family if they saw photos  of other girls on my facebook, so she would not set me as "in a relationship with" on facebook.   So I thought, ok, I will just set all the old albums to "private" and no problem.  She sees the photos are no longer visible and thanks me and changes her page to show that we are in a relationship.  She HAS my facebook password for 6 months and goes through EVERY message I send or recieve.. so there is no way in which I was hiding the existance of these photos.  But one day she suddenly stops answering my calls and I get a long email telling me what a liar I am and how I have broken her heart, and how she has NEVER met anyone as deceptive as me in her entire life (I guess this includes her ex-BFs who cheated on her with half of BAQ) Well, she confronts me with these photos and I am like... I never told you I deleted them! I gave you my password to Facebook, I wasn't hiding anything!!!  But she kept insisting I was a liar blah blah blah.  I ended up kissing her ass for about a month, her holding her grudge over me on every conversation, even though I knew I had never intended to hide anything.


Well I never asked her for her passwords, she kept offering to give them to me but I said I trusted her... well turns out that her passwords were for dummy accounts she had created just for me, and that she had a bunch of other accounts she had "blocked" me from seeing.  On those other accounts she was doing all the kinds of thing she kept accusing me of doing... so I guess she had manufactured the whole arguement to convince herself I was doing the same kind of bull crap she was was doing and therefore she was justified in lying and sneaking around.  She even pretended she couldn't pay her internet access, because she wanted me to start paying her internet (she wanted like a year paid in advance, and later $800 for "lifetime" free internet).  Well I wouldn't do it,  because everything sounded like a bunch of BS (I knew her sister's BF paid for internet but they just kept the money and stole wi-fi from their aunt next door).  I also knew there was no such thing as "lifetime free internet" for $800 and that you did not need to pay for a year's internet in advance as she claimed.  There was a freaking internet cafe across the street with "30.000 pesos/week wi-fi access" written in letters 10 inches high all over the front of the building... so how could she claim it was impossible to pay for internet per month like in the USA?  I knew it was a scam because her sister needed money to avoid her boss/BF from finding out she had stolen a bunch of money from him (I had already refused to "loan" money to her sister for this... $800, the same exact amount as Lifetime free internet  )  So she would go online using her other accounts and not answer me on skype because she had to pretend she didn't have internet.  Well,  I just called her with my cell phone (about $10 a night every night for a month) and she started getting upset that I would spend $300 a month on phone calls but not send her money for internet.  Well, I insisted I wasn't going to send any money.  I would rather pay $300 for calls under my own control than throw away $800 on god know where the money would actually go.  I would have just ended it, but I had already paid in advance for airfare/hotel to the Carnival in BAQ, so I figured I would tough it out until the end of my trip and find out what was really going on with her.


But if you had spyware on her laptop, you wouldn't have to even wonder! You would just be able to see through her BS with the click of a button.

[robert angel]

And we have guys here that are worried about their girls not being capable enough to effectively utilize the technology of computers and the internet?

 
Sounds like we should be more concerned about how WELL ABLE = CAPABLE they are in this realm. I think I have a good balance of trust and not having to worry about my wife 'snooping around on my computer trail' but it's my experience that if someone's going to play, that sooner or later, the person/s also using the same computer/s are likely to find out the real deal.
 
You can only hide so much and for so long--sooner or later, you're going to leave something open, unerased or otherwise findable. My wife is, as I see it, appropriately suspicious and concerned about what I do and who I see and how women view me, but she's not a paranoid, 'I spy' suspicious sort of person.
 

I have avoided joining facebook thus far, because I could see it creating problems for me. I think it's good that they're making it harder supposedly for other people to 'tag' your photos, but of course with 'screenshot' and other techno tools, there will always be ways for people to 'appropriate' images and information.

[Alabamaboy!]

Sounds like we should be more concerned about how WELL ABLE = CAPABLE they are in this realm

Exactly. That's why if I have a girl who is too into computers, gadgets, cell phones, etc, then I get away from them like they have the plague. Unfortunately it is not so easy to find a girl who is not an electronics ninja in Colombia.

[opusone]

Kind of scared the write this because I have noticed that there are some guys that actually have a serious or exclusive relationship with a Latina eventhough they have spent little or no appreciable time together. But I bought my first Colombian wife a computer 12 years ago so I don't see a problem with it if you know what you are doing.

However I have recently spent quality time with a calena that had two laptops and a brand new blackberry all bought by her gringo boyfriend. So buyer beware.

Every other woman I had a serious relationship with already had a computer at home or lived in my apartment in Cali so obviously they were free to use the computers and whatever else was there. 

For the wife hunters that can carry  on a conversation in Spanish I would highly recommend talking your girl into getting high speed Internet in her home if she doesn't already have it and then getting a ooma device so she can call you any time and you her for next to nothing.
If you have a blackberry and you buy her one you can exchange pins and text each other a 100 times a day if you want for free.
If you have a poor little one buy her a kindle with free lifetime 3G and yes it works in Colombia and the newer ones have a web browser. You can't chat but she can send you emails to you everyday for the rest of her life or until it gets stolen. Jajaja


Hahaha, I can't tell you how many times I've seen and heard this story. That's a lot of temptation and not to mention attention for a female in Colombia if she's never had direct access to toys like that. Not all Colombianas will invest a million hours on a computer , but, my novia's prima got a laptop from a gringo and lo and behold she's on hi5, badoo , facebook, and we suspect Romance latina. You almost have to give her the laptop with rules attached to it, then enforce them since this is a new and exciting thing for her.If I were to buy a Colombiana who is not used to these kind of things something like that, I would definitely install surveillance  to see what she's doing and GPS in case it got stolen.. This has nothing to do with trust, it's just the magnitude of larceny, and the duration of time you will be away.

[Gato4Astrid]

50% - 50%


My ex-novia, Liz.   I did not buy her new computer.  I gave her my old laptop which I no longer used.  When she received it, she started joining Badoo, and chatted with other guys.  She lied to me that she did not have Internet in her house when I caught her midnight in her time (5am my time).  She told me that she was in her mother's house, and it was only the 2nd time.  Guess what, I woke up EVERY DAY at 5am and appeared offline in msn, and she is online msn!!   She is only appear online when viewing webcams!!   Long story .............


My novia, Astrid.  I bought her new computer, because I believe it is best for her rather than going to the Internet Cafe.   She uses the computer to talk to me at least TWICE a day, and also learns English through LiveMocha.  Worked out that it would break-even in a year.   I took the risk by buying her the computer, but it is worth the risk.   


But things like Blackberry, iPad, fancy mobile phones will not be given.  I don't even own a blackberry phone, iPad so why should I give her one.   She did not even try to ask me for any.

[opusone]

50% - 50%


My ex-novia, Liz.   I did not buy her new computer.  I gave her my old laptop which I no longer used.  When she received it, she started joining Badoo, and chatted with other guys.  She lied to me that she did not have Internet in her house when I caught her midnight in her time (5am my time).  She told me that she was in her mother's house, and it was only the 2nd time.  Guess what, I woke up EVERY DAY at 5am and appeared offline in msn, and she is online msn!!   She is only appear online when viewing webcams!!   Long story .............


My novia, Astrid.  I bought her new computer, because I believe it is best for her rather than going to the Internet Cafe.   She uses the computer to talk to me at least TWICE a day, and also learns English through LiveMocha.  Worked out that it would break-even in a year.   I took the risk by buying her the computer, but it is worth the risk.   


But things like Blackberry, iPad, fancy mobile phones will not be given.  I don't even own a blackberry phone, iPad so why should I give her one.   She did not even try to ask me for any.

THis is exactly what I was talking about in my post above. I'm glad you got out of there Gato. Some guys get blinded by these girls and lose all sense of logic.

[whitey]

Wow, there are sure some nasty, jealous women out there!
 
 Just to add some balance for those newbies who might be reading, my wife has NEVER done any of that stuff ... or at least ... I've never caught her and she's never questioned me about photos or asked for my passwords.

In my 11 trips, I've had two 6 week visits with her where we shared her room in her house, my laptop readily accessible all the time.  As far as I can tell, she's never touched it to go snooping ... not that she would find anything anyway.  Oh, except for some pictures of Robert in his underwear that he emailed me. 

Shortly after we got married I opened a bank account here for her, and gave her the debit card so she would have access to money in Colombia whenever it was necessary.  I also am using the account to save for her airfare, and for clothes and other things she will need when she gets here.  The account had $CDN2,000 in it when I gave her the debit card, and a year later has about $1,750 in it.  The only time she has withdrawn money was to pay for visa related expenses.

 
 

[robert angel]

LOL--Whitey--I thought we had a pact to keep those pics secret forever!
 
Actually  lot of stuff we think we've hidden, deleted or erased isn't really as 'gone' as you might think. Earlier this week, I was deleting a lot of stuff from my mail server at work--Microsoft's 'Outlook' Mail Server system. Then I clicked up a cue to empty my 'deleted files folder' and it asked me if I REALLY wanted to PERMANENTALLY delete them, I purposefully clicked YES.
 

A couple days later, I realized I really needed a couple things that I made 'disappear'--some things dated back to 2009 and 2010 . My mailbox work limit fills up really fast and I am always choosing things to dump. They were things I thought that'd never be needed again, but they were suddenly needed.
 

I called a tech guy and within ten minutes, the files were brought back from 'oblivion', saving me hours, if not days, of work.
 

 
Consider everything you do or have done on your computer to be 'forever' as long as there are pieces, even 'little pieces' of your hard drive that they can reconstruct and analyze. No ball peen hammer, not even fire, will eliminate some degree of data retrieval.
 

 
The only way to completely remove info from your computer (not from existence, as it may have 'migrated' on you) is to put your hard drive in acid and liquefy the damn thing.
 

But then, speaking of 'existence', there are loads of companies that 'data mine' and save ALL kinds of personal data, including facebook info, court records-- all the naughty places on-line that you've been to--all KINDS of personal info, including stuff posted here, on google and yahoo, as well as on other search engines-- (which otherwise would time out and disappear eventually).
 
If you thought that only Santa truly knows 'who's been naughty or nice'--well Virginia, there is NO Santa Claus, but there are others, who know if you have or not...

 
Microsoft lends itself quite well to all of this, and Mozilla Firefox, instead of Internet Explorer helps a little bit, but if 'they' want your info bad enough, they'll get it from there too.
 

 
Information storage costs money, but there are companies, with thousands of acres of land, with computers all 'daisy chain linked', buried underground, in someplaces where cows and graze the grass that grows above them, where earthquakes are rare and the computers there do nothing but save 'dirt' and information night and day, on everything and on all of us and sell it, for a price, to who ever wants it. And the US Govt. and many Fortune 500 companies are typically the first in line.
 

 
I live in a military town, and I don't see as many  officers, in their well starched suits and shiney shoes, coming to my door asking questions about my neighbors, before they up their security clearance these days. They don't need to--most everything they want/need to know can be found via computers.

 
I think my internet service provider knows more about me than I do....