The wife has arrived

[piglett]

Well i am way late but.......................

Congrats Mr & Mrs KFC

will your new wife be posting on the board any time soon?

we can always use a few more ladies to keep us guys straight around here.

what kind of things do the 2 of you have planned for the 1st couple of weeks there in NYC ?

Piglett

[robert angel]

Congrats, Kfc. You and Piglett haven't followed the generally given "A,B,C, type plan" as posted by the veteran's of P-L's, not rigidly following the sometimes ambiguously defined rules of internet dating and marriage, but I think most of us feel good about your chances for happiness, as well as high regards for you as good people. Best wishes.

[Ray]

Congrats, Kfc. You and Piglett haven't followed the generally given "A,B,C, type plan" as posted by the veteran's of P-L's, not rigidly following the sometimes ambiguously defined rules of internet dating and marriage, but I think most of us feel good about your chances for happiness, as well as high regards for you as good people. Best wishes.

HUH?

What did kfc do wrong Robert? Is there anything in particular that you have a problem with and how did you do it differently?

Personally, I think he did virtually everything correctly and can be cited as an example of how to do this.

Now piglett on the other hand…    These two guys aren't even in the same league.   

Ray

[robert angel]

Ray,

You're right-and I apologize, Kfc.

Guess I had a brain freeze there--I thought Kfc had the wedding planned before he flew and actually met his asawa, but looking back, my recall was incorrect. Kfc definitely has an eye and mind for details and planning.

[piglett]

Ray,

You're right-and I apologize, Kfc.

Guess I had a brain freeze there--I thought Kfc had the wedding planned before he flew and actually met his asawa, but looking back, my recall was incorrect. Kfc definitely has an eye and mind for details and planning.

Robert that was me, i was the guy rolling the dice
it all turned out well, & i have never caught my wife in a single lie.
I guess i must have made a wise choice with her.


p i g     

[z_k_g]

Robert that was me, i was the guy rolling the dice
it all turned out well, & i have never caught my wife in a single lie.
I guess i must have made a wise choice with her.


p i g     

Pig,

You rolled dice dude! 

So far...you made a wise move. 

When your wife started to cut ties with the witches and gold diggers, I knew you had a winner.

Much continued luck porky! 

Zulu

[piglett]

Pig,

You rolled dice dude! 
So far...you made a wise move. 
When your wife started to cut ties with the witches and gold diggers, I knew you had a winner.
Much continued luck porky!  :DZulu

I can't hardly believe how many requests Marily has had for money from her family. from her grandparents to many aunties & uncles. I think the only ones that haven't asked for cash are her parents & that may only be because i had a long talk with them & made it clear that i couldn't send 1 peso to them unless it was life or death. I think Marily's eyes are now WIDE OPEN
she says things like why should you give money to my relatives? they have 2 hands & 2 feet let them work. I explained how much it cost to live here & she almost fell on the floor. I told her last week that she is to well all who ask for money that her Kano husband is a cheep dog & only gives her enough for her rent & food
I don't want her family mad at her & i don't care if some take a dislike to me

your porkness
piglett

[robert angel]

Piglett,

It sounds like you've got a good marriage at this point and the fact that you've weathered some storms, so to speak, is a good sign. You've drawn the line on you not being expected to send money to all sorts of friends and family members, something that most of us also have to do, sooner or later--and sooner is better--as you did.

I feel good about your long term chances.

BUT--I think that you'll have to deal with the fact that once Marily's working over here, making a decent wage and you guys are doing fine, that she's almost certainly going to want to send some money home to her parents--money that she earns. My wife does and most of it goes to help with sibling's tuition costs.

While it's great that you've been proactive in making things clear early on, I think you need to 'wait and see'--that it wouldn't be wise to issue a dictate right away saying "No money you make is to be sent home--with or without my permission". Not to say you've done that, or that you intend to do so, but I'm just giving you food for thought beforehand.

I think everything my wife enjoys, her education, upbringing--even the food she eats here--she thanks her parents  for, in one way or another. She feels it's only right and proper to give something back--not to put them into a life of luxury that they never have known, but to make things a bit better. It seems to be the Filipino way. Her brother who's a beginning merchant mariner, does the same.

 I'd hate to see a situation where a guy says 'NO" and then the wife manages to wire money back home behind her husband's back. It happens all the time. I don't keep real close tabs on what my wife sends home personally, but when she gets sad about not having a house of our own for us to stay in over there, I do remind her that perhaps if she didn't send so much home, we'd be a bit closer to that goal. Once again, she's not sending a king's ransom, but it is substantial and I think 90 to 95% of Filipinas who come here also send their parents some money--if not monthly, several times a year.


I just know it's something you'll deal with after she gets here and maybe some other guys here who've been through it, might lend their insights.

[piglett]

BUT--I think that you'll have to deal with the fact that once Marily's working over here, making a decent wage and you guys are doing fine, that she's almost certainly going to want to send some money home to her parents--money that she earns. My wife does and most of it goes to help with sibling's tuition costs.
While it's great that you've been proactive in making things clear early on, I think you need to 'wait and see'--that it wouldn't be wise to issue a dictate right away saying "No money you make is to be sent home--with or without my permission". Not to say you've done that, or that you intend to do so, but I'm just giving you food for thought beforehand.

Oh i have no problem with sending money back to her parents once she is here & everything is on track. I will not however be sending monthly payment.
instead it will be when we have extra piled up & then WE will decide how it is to be spent there.
1ST up on the list is a fish finder for her dad & some improvements to her mothers little store in town (both should put more pesos in their pockets each month)

p i g

[Ray]

Yes, as Robert mentioned, most all Filipinas will want to send some money home to the immediate family.

My advice for any of you guys out there who have a big problem with that is DON'T MARRY A FILIPINA.

Enough said!

Ray

[robert angel]

I know you said "enough said", Ray, but guys need to realize that when you marry a Filipina, you pretty much marry their family too. This might vary some from couple to couple, but if a Filipina doesn't feel a strong allegiance to her own family as is typical, she might not feel a strong allegiance to her husband either, when times get rough...

[indaycare]

Yes, as Robert mentioned, most all Filipinas will want to send some money home to the immediate family.

My advice for any of you guys out there who have a big problem with that is DON'T MARRY A FILIPINA.

Enough said!

Ray

Kuya your the best adviser ever! 

[tessbrittain]

and yes, we send money to the Phils......it makes me happy knowing that I gave money to my parents. My father is retired and has a little Phil. SS income. Whatever I gave them is for eating out or shopping... .It's not that  my parents need it but we want them to have a good life...

Guys, if u think your wife will not  want to send money once they get  here......just wait and see :-)

As long as it's not a big amount, I think it is okay to send some money back home.

Tess