Need advice with Online profile and first introduction email

[crusin2k8]

Hello

This is my first post to the forum,   After many years I have decided to jump in with both feet and pursue my Latina princess,  I have narrowed my focus to three countries, Colombia, Peru, Brazil.  I have started learning the language and I am already making great progress using synergy Spanish and Fluenz. I am a Caucasian  male of European decent, 39  6'3” and weigh about 102 kg, I plan to search from ages 25 to 33,   I plan to start my search using personal sites such as latinlovesearch and romancelatina, 

For any member who had success using on-line personals what site would you recommend and what should I include in my profile? What should I include in the first contact email to make me stand out from the rest?  In the states I just open with something funny and mildly sarcastic in order to get a smile and grab there attention to start a rapport

Any feedback is appreciated and thanks to all for sharing there real life stories,  this site is an absolute wealth of great information and invaluable advice

[utopiacowboy]

I can be pretty sarcastic (a Canadian national trait) but Latinas do not appreciate sarcasm at all. That's not to say that you can't use humor, you should, just watch the sarcasm. I met my wife through amigos.com but it's not the good deal it used to be. Cybercupido.com is the way to go now from what I've heard. A site to learn languages called LiveMocha can also be useful - she practices her English and you your Spanish.

[fathertime]

i found my wife through an agency, but i also had some fun with HI5 website...it is like a myspace for latinas...you can look at the ladies in colombia and pick out a few dozen you like and see what type of response you get.  it is free...i started communicating with a couple but then when i found my wife that all stopped..there are a lot of good looking ladies on there...it is not really a personals site but it can work if you present yourself well.

although i like to use humor...i would just play it fairly straight until you have exchanged small talk for a while... we are not as funny as we think and as the older man, humor is not as valued as being serious, sincere, and intelligent...the humor can come out later and that might be what seals the deal...
my 2cents,
Fathertime!

[Bob_S]

Definitely cut out the humor.  All humor and comedy is culture specific and does not translate well at all.  Starting out, play it straight forward.  Such as,

Hello, my name is Bill.  I live in Stratford-upon-Avon which is a small town about an hour by train northwest of London.  I'm a professional writer and make a comfortable living (a few of my plays have made it to the London stage).  I enjoy going to the theatre, long walks through the park and along the waterfront, weekend games of football with my mates, and hanging out at the local pub after the games.  Though raised in the Church of England, I'm not very religious.  I have not traveled much, but I do speak a little French and Latin.  My friends call me a prince among men, and I am hoping to meet my princess.

[robert angel]

Yes, keep it simple and don't look or sound like you're wealthy.

A lot of women are looking for four guys who I've never met: "Mr. Right", " My King", My Prince", and "Knight in Shining Armor".

Mention of the word 'millionaire' always guarantees a lot of responses, but quantity may exceed quality of responders.

I bought a suit of shining armor for my first trip to the Philippines, but it was a tad bit hot and made getting in and out of the jeepneys somewhat problematic. It took a while to get through security at the airport as well.

Happy Trails to You!

[crusin2k8]

Thanks for the Information!

I have a second question:  Once I have started with a Dialogue, How should I proceed to keep things interesting and fresh until I get down there to meet them in person? After I get a response should I get email and then exchange a few messages before chatting on MSN, Aim? When should I use voice communication such as skype?  How long should the chats be  and what would be good subject matter to establish a rapport:




Thanks to all that have taken the time to reply It is much appreciated!

[braziliangirl]

I'll provide you some tips based on my experience...

Once I have started with a Dialogue, How should I proceed to keep things interesting and fresh until I get down there to meet them in person?

Be yourself. Everything that sounds fake will not be good. Show your interest in a balanced way. Don't make any promises, you'll never know how it will work when you meet her in person. Make good questions. Talk about interesting subjects. Try to find out what do you have in common. Don't write messages that are too long. She will either not be interested in reading it all, or feel they need to write long messages too.

I don't have any problem with humor or sarcasm... But that's just me. You should do what the guys told and wait until after some messages to do that, if it is part of you personality, for sure.

After I get a response should I get email and then exchange a few messages before chatting on MSN, Aim? When should I use voice communication such as skype?  How long should the chats be  and what would be good subject matter to establish a rapport:

Yes. Any guy that asks for my MSN right away would be ignored. I automatically think they asked because they want to see me on the camera. And that, as well as voice communication, is just for when you both feel, which may take some time. Never insist on that!

I'll post again if I remember more.

Best,
braziliangirl

[robert angel]

Re:

>>Any guy that asks for my MSN right away would be ignored<<


I can see your point here. I remember a lot of women who in their first two or three sentences were saying "Have a cam?" or "I have a cam--do you?"

Most, if not all of them were a total waste of time unless you were looking for a quick, cheap thrill and/or a set up to attempt a scam.

It's just good manners to let things take a course that doesn't rush, that allows getting a sense of the other person's personality, before seeing  their appearance. Once you've seen someone live on cam, it changes the way we look at everything to one extent or another.

[braziliangirl]

It's just good manners to let things take a course that doesn't rush, that allows getting a sense of the other person's personality, before seeing  their appearance. Once you've seen someone live on cam, it changes the way we look at everything to one extent or another.

Yep! I do believe faces can be very distracting.

[fathertime]

I’m going to have to disagree with all this silliness about not seeing who you are talking to.  If there was no attraction I never gave two poops about a personality so why waste time?  Usually I saw a picture ahead of time of women I was talking to.   On occasion that did not happen and I pretty much wanted to see the cam or a couple photos…I suppose some people like the mystery and the buildup of not knowing who they are talking to (especially women), but I did not want to waste time or have the buildup, so I thought it was rude if I was denied seeing who I was talking to.   That is not how a man's nature works and I guess I wasn't going to pretend to be stronger than my nature!

Fathertime!

[braziliangirl]

Fathertime,

I was not talking about not showing a picture or never use the camera. I agree the picture should be shown right away, no guy will get interested in a girl because of what she says she is like. The look surely counts on the first contact.

About the camera, I guess it is kind of an intimate thing... I didn't say never. Just wait a little bit...

Best!

[utopiacowboy]

I'm a big fan of Thoreau - I sure like that quote, BrazilianGirl.