New guy but been thinking about this for a while

[piglett]

you guys maybe right colombian women may not be for me.I was under the impression that they were more geared toward family
than the typical american woman . Please keep the advice coming good or bad lol.IT seems some off you guys think the asian girls would fit me better explain the differences if you would thanks guys.

Well I can't really comment about ladies from Columbia because I have never been there & I have also never met any. However if the experienced guys are telling you that they don't think Colombian chicks are for you ......well honestly you may just want to listen Hillbilly.
You sound like a nice guy , maybe too nice because I guess Colombian ladies will probably take you as a wimp & end up walking all over you.
You could try acting like billy bad a*s but in the end you would probably just revert back to being yourself. I am not a good actor , so me myself I wouldn't even bother trying. I figure I am what I am & they will either take me as i am or they will not.

After researching quite a few country's I picked the Philippines.
Why ? well first was that they spoke English, no need to learn another language.
second the divorce rate for Americans that have married ladies from the Philippines is about 10%. & this number includes the stupid GI's that fell in love with bar girls(hookers) & married them too. Unlike the average American woman (AW), ladies from the Philippines will do all they can to make things work if things get a little rough.

My soon to be wife Marily is 27 years old, she is well educated (nurse) & she is a virgin. how do I know ? ....well after a while i asked her. She proudly replied that her husband would find this out for sure on their wedding night. I would take this type of woman all day long over one who has already been through 10 or 15 failed relationships. I say why get a chick with a freight car load of bagage when you can get one who still has a clean slate? ( I bet i catch some heat for saying that ) Oh well bring it on.


happy huntin
piglett

   

[Alabamaboy!]

I don't care what anyone says. Jamie has a great service. Even in this thread alone Fathertime, Pivery, and myself have seemingly found diamonds from his service. I am not sure if Whitey did or not, but his girl is from BAQ I believe. And I know of two others as well that have married good girls from his agency. And I know of two others who failed miserably and they will readily admit it was their own fault because they did not listen to his advice or the advice of his translators.

And don't get me wrong, I don't think Jamie has any real advice on keeping the relationship going or tips for a long marriage. But I do think he has a pretty good grip on things to watch out for at the beginning to avoid making major errors in judgement. And also passing on info from the translators to indicate possible insincere ladies or ones that are just not that interested in you. Thereby saving you a lot of valuable time, money, and energy that could be better used with other ladies.

[Alabamaboy!]

Yeah FT, that is what I should have said. If you are going to live in a small isolated town, you should at least have some way to go to the bigger cities for some action. I am in San Diego right now at a condo I bought so I have somewhere to take my lady to frequently rather than keep her isolated in the much smaller city where I live. Every few weeks would be fine. And by action I am not necessarily meaning clubs. My girl right now is cool with going to the beach, window shopping at the big malls, going to festivals/fairs.

[Alabamaboy!]

Your killing me buddy!  Now that I have been through the whole cycle, I'd say for newbies to pin their ears back, bring the 'elephant balls' and take a shot at a beauty queen if that is what they want/can handle!  I say this based on the fact that I found a young babe that must people would never think a regular man of my age and looks should be entitled to!  Of course I had to sift through a few dozen babes first to find the one I thought was most sincere and that I would be happy with as well.  I hear ya though, what is considered plain woman in Colombia would be a fine babe for the average man here!

Fathertime!

FT I am just saying that a few points off the hottie scale drastically decreases the drama in most cases. I think you hit the jackpot based on the pics of your girl and the things you are posting about your girl. She seems to be well in the 90's on the Hottie Scale, and seems sincere.  And as I spend more time with my girl, I think I have hit the jackpot too. I guess I should have said it like you did....that they better bring the 'elephant balls' if they want to have a good shot with the hotties. A regular, "good guy", without elephant balls or a lot of game will have his hands full with a top notch Colombiana beauty queen. If you have the time, energy, and cash to make the trips, you can find a hottie with a good attitude. But it is not as easy as you might think.

[Alabamaboy!]

Piglett, I can agree with you that there a lot of good Filipinas out there too. My ex is a Filipina, and after the last few years of hunting in Colombia, she sure does not look as bad as I thought she was when I divorced her. And almost all the other Filipinas I know are great gals. Hard workers. And extremely loyal. Not nearly as much drama as the Colombianas. Just from my experiences.

But don't assume that just because a woman is Colombiana that she has a "lot of miles on her". My fiancee was extremely inexperienced in that sort of thing when I first met her. She told me she had only been with two other guys in her life and only about 4 times total between the two of them. And based on her skills at the beginning, I would not doubt those numbers for a moment. And from all that I have learned about her over the past 1 1/2 years, she has always been very timid, shy, and non-promiscuous. And I would say that she is a very beautiful, hot woman. Just because they are Colombiana does not necessarily mean they have had 10-15 failed relationships.

[Jeff S]

How do I need to modify my behavior to be successful in a relationship with a colombiana?

If you need to, you shouldn't be with her, because inevitably, you'll slip back to your "normal" self and all will be for naught.

[whitey]

I don't care what anyone says. Jamie has a great service. Even in this thread alone Fathertime, Pivery, and myself have seemingly found diamonds from his service. I am not sure if Whitey did or not, but his girl is from BAQ I believe. And I know of two others as well that have married good girls from his agency. And I know of two others who failed miserably and they will readily admit it was their own fault because they did not listen to his advice or the advice of his translators.

My fiance is from Barranquilla.  We met online through a mutual friend.  At the time, I had never been to Colombia and wanted someone to practice Spanish with.  She was interested in practicing English.  After 9 months of emails and later MSN chats/videos, I went to see her and "the rest is history".

I don't know anything about Jamie's agency other than what I read, but I do know that my fiance's sister is at the agency.  She is GOLD, and any man would be lucky to win her love.  University educated, hard working, honest, great character, doesn't sleep around, etc, etc.

While she has a nice figure and face, she may not be the super hotty that someone would pick first out of the catalogue.  She dresses modestly, and wouldn't be posing provacatively or busting out of her bra.

Alabamaboy has good advice when he says not to go for the 9's and 10's.  Especially not the ones from estrado 5 or 6, unless you can provide a similar lifestyle for them in gringolandia ... which takes serious bucks.

[whitey]

If you need to, you shouldn't be with her, because inevitably, you'll slip back to your "normal" self and all will be for naught.

True Jeff.  I actually felt I had to modify my behavior much more with my ex-wife (Canadian) than with my Colombian fiance.

My relationship now is much more natural.  She expects me to be the man and she's happy being a strong but loving and feminine woman.  Quite a switch from being half man, half woman with no respect as we're expected to be in North America now.

[Pivery]

 Hillbilly,

While I cannot tell you where to go or what type of woman to choose (as this is your decision to make), I can tell you that there are beautiful and family-oriented
women in every corner of the globe. Some guys decide on an Asian woman while some choose a Latina. You and only you can decide on what type of lady you feel
most compatible with. No one here can make this choice for you. We are all going to have a personal opinion based on our experiences, but it's only that-a personal
opinion. If you go to somewhere in South America, it is best that you have enough Spanish in you that you are able to ask directions or hold down a minor conversation
if you need to with someone there. Even if you go with an agency and have a translator, you're not going to want her around all the time and it also shows the women
there that you have enough respect in them and their country to be learning the language.

So regardless of where you decide, do your homework on the country, it's people, it's customs and obviously it's language. Flying down to (insert country here), pointing
your finger at a woman, throwing her over your shoulder and reboarding the plane isn't gong to happen. The men who are lucky enough to have a woman reached that point
from many trips, lots of studying the country and sifting through a few bad apples. There is no easy way of doing this, but the rewards are much more than the work that lies
ahead for you.

Again, good luck!

Pivery

[robert angel]

I'll give credit to the guys who are into the 'chase' 'machismo' and the 'give and take' that seems to come more with the territory of pursuing women from Colombia/L.A., versus most of Asia (sans Thailand) where the 'game' seems a bit more subdued to me. Yea, those elements are there too, but in a very different way.

I just am not into drama and don't like to worry (too much) about what might or might not be unfolding if I'm gone from home for a while. I'm not saying that you have to be a lion tamer or anything and yes, there are all kinds of women everywhere. It just seems to me there are more elements of intrigue, dramas and undercurrents and a feeling that you have to constantly let her know 'who's boss' down there, compared to, say the Philippines.

My wife likes me being the boss, although she knows I value and solicit her advice on many topics. If I didn't show initiative and direction, it wouldn't be long before she took the role on.

Boy was she glad when I told her "No--you're NOT taking any computer classes this summer--we need more time together and we're cutting back our work hours too!!" That said, 'to each his own'--some people thrive on the dynamics that seem to exist in many areas 'south of the border'.

[Alabamaboy!]

I do miss many things about my relationship with my ex wife who was Filipina. Like Robert says, there is very little drama. Nothing at all like a relationship with a Colombiana. Almost all Filipinas I have met were wonderful, hardworking, honest people.

My ex however was not hardworking and was addicted to shopping. And was not such a good mother. She just was not interested in doing a lot with the kids. She prefers to let them, and me, do our thing while she sits on the couch watching the Filipino channel and buying things from the internet. BUT SHE IS NOT A TYPICAL FILIPINA IN THAT RESPECT.

I never fought with my Filipina ex. I would ask her to do something, she would just look at me, when I ask her if she was going to do it or if she understood what I was talking about she would say "yes". But in the end she would not do it. She would do what she wanted to do.

I never, ever, ever worried about her cheating on me though. I don't think you need to worry too much about that thing unless you meet your girl at the go-go bars next to where the military bases used to be.

[utopiacowboy]

To some of us it comes naturally. When I had a ranch, I had a small herd of horses and with horses, you have to let them know who is boss or they will walk all over you. In effect you have to be the leader of the herd. You can't be a brute either. Colombianas are the way most women used to be and in that way, they remind me of horses. They are very emotional beings.