Good Girls and Bad Girls - are they the same

[Henry]

How come the entire thread wasnt moved to the Flame Room? Very odd.

[Jeff S]

Because in the opinion of the moderator, me - the discussions about standards for accepting foreign women as potential brides has interest and validity to all readers, old timers and newbies alike, even if there is a wide variation in opinion about those standards. Discussions about other poster's opinions do not.

[todobien]

These things do get a lot of responses b/c there are many strong opinions on this topic. Zon starts with an interesting way to put this in perspective regarding culture of Colombia.

I am open to saying nothing is 100%. That is you cannot "paint broad strokes" and say b/c a woman took money for sex she will never be a good mate.

I know in the States I was dating a girl who soon had to tell me she danced at Thee Doll House which is a Bikini/Pasties type place. And she had a business hiring other girls for Bachelor parties. We continued to date and she was a lot of fun doing very "down to earth" things like going canoeing with me etc.

She is with someone now whom she is very loyal to.

I think the deeper issue is how do you relate to her on a conversation level after a long time of being with her. Also do you respect her despite her past and never bring it up again in your mind or against her.

I also think all these things will flush themselves out with time.

So my answer would be "yes" I believe their are some women like this that would make good partners. To say anymore would be a book.

[dennislevy]

Todobien

That s a very thoughtful response....which I agree with...in part.

I ahve tried to treat women based on how they act with me.....and I don t condemn their past life or behavior. On the other hand, I ve never (to the best of my knowledge!) dated nn exotic dancer or stripper or working girl and ive never been a client of a prostitute.

But foiur years ago when I still lived in the US, I fell in love with a American woman (a high school history teacher) who wasn t a bad woman ...butr she was mentlaly unstabe. Icredibly book smart, in that way a wonderful fitr for me, beautiful, terrific physical chemistry and I ignored the red glags.

And Im here to say...that when a woman acts out of a man s norms.....then its best to fold your hand and move on before getting too involved.  because stretching or changing your norms to accomodate her....doesnt work.   It was a very painful lesson....

but in retrospect it has enabled me to evaulate the possiiblites of a relationship with any Colombian woman (and I live in Bogota). becuae their a lot of women here with issues....and as soon as I see evidence of some issues...I ll politley terminate withte woman.

     

[fathertime]

And Im here to say...that when a woman acts out of a man s norms.....then its best to fold your hand and move on before getting too involved.  because stretching or changing your norms to accomodate her....doesnt work.   It was a very painful lesson....

but in retrospect it has enabled me to evaulate the possiiblites of a relationship with any Colombian woman (and I live in Bogota). becuae their a lot of women here with issues....and as soon as I see evidence of some issues...I ll politley terminate withte woman

Careful about overcompensating in the other direction dennislevy.   The bad experience with the high school teacher should not be universally applied to all women that have insecurities/issues.  If it were, I doubt there will be any women remaining to choose from, if you know what I mean!   Some issues can be viewed as harmless foibles. 

Fathertime!

[Jason1]

Careful about overcompensating in the other direction dennislevy.   The bad experience with the high school teacher should not be universally applied to all women that have insecurities/issues.  If it were, I doubt there will be any women remaining to choose from, if you know what I mean!   Some issues can be viewed as harmless foibles. 

Fathertime!

  There are alot of women everywhere with issues,especially here in the US.I think you just need to find a woman who's issues you can live with.