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[thewaitingman]

Where do I begin?

Well, I suppose I could begin by saying hello. So. . Hello. I am a Caucasian male from the United States and I have come to realize something. I find Asian women to be the most beautiful and interesting women. Ranging from the culture, to their upbringing, to their physical appearance. I don't know how I didn't notice it before, but, I have always dreamed of spending the rest of my life with someone that (this isn't a pun) is so far away.

I don't know why I'm here. I've heard of mail-order brides, but I don't know how the system works. I know someone that actually married a MOB, and they have been together for about ten years or so. They're happily married, and have three children. That's what I want. I just don't know how to go about doing it.

I was hoping I could have some questions answered, and maybe given a bit more information on such things. I'm sorry if this post comes off as weird or wishy-washy, but I'm kind of nervous. I've never done this sort of thing before, and I don't know what to put. I'll stop. Foot, meet mouth.

Thanks you, ahead of time.

[william3rd]

First- Asia is a mighty big place and very diverse. You will be better served by deciding WHICH asian country you would like to explore.

Second- Each asian culture is radically different.

Third- Just because your friend has a ten year relationship that worked, your result may well be different depending on your approach. You could have a 10% chance of success if you use the tour agency approach to a much higher percentage through the other methods of search.

So- what country are you looking for?

[jm21-2]

As William said, each culture is different, and then you have different subcultures as well. A city girl from Shanghai bears little resemblance to a country girl from Xinjiang.

I'd suggest reading some of the old posts here, doing some internet searches, read a few books, etc. A lot of guys here go to the PI because there are far fewer problems with language and Asian languages can be very difficult to learn. That didn't really work well for me because I'm a pretty die-hard Atheist and the vast majority of Filipinas are Catholic. Chinese home life is really great imho, very laid back, but there are certainly some drawbacks to Chinese girls.

There's no such thing as a bride delivered to your door. Most guys on the Asian board met their girl over the internet, typically on a dating site. Basically the same as match.com or the other domestic dating sites.

[Jeff S]

I waitingman and welcome. We're glad you decided to post.

Asia is a fascinating place and as the other guys have said, each country is very different from every other. Much more so than the differences between European countries, or Latin American  for instance.

I've always been an advocate for finding the culture that suits you first, then finding a woman in that culture, because you'll become part of it with a foreign bride whether you want to or not, for the rest of your life, so it better be something that suits you.

Anyway, as jm suggested, the archives here have about 10 years worth of trials, tribulations, trip reports, successes and failures. Spending a few weeks reading them all will be an invaluable education you won't be able to find anywhere else.

- Jeff

[Capstone]

Welcome to the board,

As all of the previous posters have already mentioned the first thing that you should probably consider before starting your search is which Asian culture suites you best and would be willing to become a part of for the rest of your life. Myself, I am married to a Chinese woman and I love Chinese culture but I will be the first to admit that Chinese culture, customs, food and mentality is not for everyone. Don't believe any of the hype touting women of one nationality over another because in the end it should all boil down to what you are comfortable with and not what someone else thinks.

I myself believe that going the agency/tour route in Asia is not the best way to go about meeting a potential partner however again that is another personal choice and to each his own. No matter which method that you choose or which country that you decide to focus on, I wish you the best of luck in your search!

BTW - As you will find out as you go through the process there is no such thing as a Mail Order Bride. Meeting, dating and marrying a woman from a foreign country is not something which should be entered into lightly and is a process that will take a lot of patience and investment (both time and money wise). I am not trying to scare you off but am just being honest that it is not some quick and easy process to meet and marry a woman from another country and then bring her back to the US.

Good Luck and keep us updated on which country that you decide to focus on and your progress!!

[Ray]

I know someone that actually married a MOB, and they have been together for about ten years or so. They're happily married, and have three children. That's what I want. I just don't know how to go about doing it.

Hi WM,

Is your friend married to an Asian lady? Why not start by talking with him and his wife? Maybe she has a close friend or relative back home who would be interested in corresponding with you.

Ray

[Bear]

Welcome!

Just curious why you call it MOB?  Did your friend order her my mail?  Touchie subject around here.

Recommend you read some of the achieves and the ask away.  A bit of a bonus is you know a guy married to a girl from overseas so She is probably your first and best source of an introduction.  If she is Filipina most know a few ladies looking and being able to come where a friend is helps relieve some of the stress.

The Bear Family

[piglett]

Welcome to the board "TWM"
You have come to the rite place if you are interesting in learning about Asian ladies.
I placed an add on filipinaheart.com & i had them swarming all over me within 24 hours.
I have been chatting with the lady that i selected & i intend to visit her in January.


good luck in your search
piglett

[Dave H]

Hi thewaitingman,

Welcome to P-L! I agree with the others who suggested that you narrow down the Asian countries to those which best meet your likes and interests. 

Good Luck,

Dave

[piglett]

Hi thewaitingman,

Welcome to P-L! I agree with the others who suggested that you narrow down the Asian countries to those which best meet your likes and interests. 
Good Luck,
Dave

Dave i see you have posted a new picture of yourself
Do you intend to use that primitive weapon to make sure your neighbors don't "liberate" your pet dog & have him for dinner?

he he he 



Oh by the way how are things in your part of the PI.??



piglett

[Dave H]

Dave i see you have posted a new picture of yourself
Do you intend to use that primitive weapon to make sure your neighbors don't "liberate" your pet dog & have him for dinner?

he he he  



Oh by the way how are things in your part of the PI.??


piglett

Hey piglett,

I don't have any dogs...my only pets are tikis (geckos) that climb around on my ceilings and walls. People have purebred dogs in my subdivision, which are not so good for eating! I do have a few pigs at the farm, but they are not pets. I am throwing a  shindig (baptism) this weekend and will  be roasting 3 of my 40 kilo pigs...which will be delicious!  The even smaller ones "lechon de leche" are the tastiest!! It is a suckling pig that has only fed on its mother's milk, 2-6 weeks old. They are all known as pigletts   SO LOOK OUT MAN!!!

Dave

[piglett]

Hey piglett,

I don't have any dogs...my only pets are tikis (geckos) that climb around on my ceilings and walls. People have purebred dogs in my subdivision, which are not so good for eating! I do have a few pigs at the farm, but they are not pets. I am throwing a  shindig (baptism) this weekend and will  be roasting 3 of my 40 kilo pigs...which will be delicious!  The even smaller ones "lechon de leche" are the tastiest!! It is a suckling pig that has only fed on its mother's milk, 2-6 weeks old. They are all known as pigletts  SO LOOK OUT MAN!!!

Dave

Oh no
I guess i will have to steer clear of the PI till the shindig has run it's course
BTW i don't think you would want a 200lb "piglett" .......i wouldn't be at all attractive with an apple stuck in my mouth while i rotated on a spit 

[Dave H]

BTW i don't think you would want a 200lb "piglett"

Hey piglett,

Actually, I had 6 -100 kilo pigs (grain fed) at our piggery (on our farm) last year...a little bigger than you. I didn't get here in time to eat any, but I heard they were quite tasty! Trust me, it is much better to be eaten, ask Ned Beatty!   

Dave

Not for the faint of heart!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yj4LnfkdJDM