Author Topic: What is the "proper" way to move on when you see red flags? (Read 2889 times)

texassingledad · « **on:** April 07, 2009, 09:14:51 PM »

I mean do you send a letter just saying that you have decided it just wouldn't work between you two or what? I tried this with one and she just kept emailing me wanting to know why and who I was talking to and yada yada yada. I finally had to block her. I was trying to be polite and not be rude. But I also do not want to keep being bombarded when I want to move on.

Oh the red flags were she was jealous after talking only total of probably 12 hours. Wanted to know why I hadnt canceled my Columbian Cupid account, who was I talking too besides her. She was also ready to get married ASAP.

Thanks,
Les

no comment · « **Reply #1 on:** April 07, 2009, 09:47:17 PM »

Most reasonably attractive women probably have correspondence with several guys. If the exchanges get infrequent or stop the normal ones will just move on. Seems like you got a head case with one but you handled it like a gentleman and just blocked her.
Maybe she'll turn up in Texas like the Glen Close character in Fatal Attraction and fix you some rabbit stew.

Shadow_mas · « **Reply #2 on:** April 08, 2009, 01:57:32 AM »

If she still talks to you after you made it clear not to have interest, show her profiles of other women and ask what she thinks of it. After all if she wants to be friends she should understan that.

Planet-Love.com · « **Reply #2 on:** April 08, 2009, 01:57:32 AM »

Researcher · « **Reply #3 on:** April 08, 2009, 04:34:22 AM »

Sounds like you did the right thing. If you are truly not interested in her and made that clear then don't play games with her or keep in contact with her. I usually ended it face to face if I could and if I had been with her for a while, I definitly ended it face to face. After that receiving a letter or email from them really didn't mean much but I still would reply only to say I wasn't going to change my mind and not to contact me anymore. After that I just didn't respond anymore.

Researcher

raycjs · « **Reply #4 on:** April 08, 2009, 09:49:14 AM »

Texas

you did the right thing it always pay to be polite and honest when you say good bye
and you will find most of them to be very jealous.I believe the best thing you can do is not to play games just tell her like it is.

Best of luck to you

ray

Bob_S · « **Reply #5 on:** April 08, 2009, 12:46:10 PM »

And if polite doesn't work because she's a psycho stalker beast, ask her for nudie pics. If that doesn't drive her off, post them here. Then upload them to easyskanks dot com. She'll be so busy fending off hordes of offers from other guys, she won't have time to pester you anymore.

KingDphax · « **Reply #6 on:** April 08, 2009, 02:20:23 PM »

"Show her profiles of other women and ask what she thinks of it."

Hello Taxas Single Dad: I don't agree with the above advice. Nevertheless, be kind and nice. Life could be MUCH WORSE
than one woman continuing to send you messages.

Unfortunately Texas Single Dad, I see right through this one and I have TWO questions. They are ONLY questions. Don't get bent out of shape: #1 Is this an opportunity to stroke your ego? #2 Are you ATTRACTED to the woman??

My guess is that you are not REALLY attracted to the woman. My guess is that you would be quite FLATTERED that she loves
you after 12 hours of talking. I know I woiuld. What is the age of the woman? What country? Does she have kids?

Shadow_mas · « **Reply #7 on:** April 08, 2009, 03:43:27 PM »

Apart from the advise being obviously made as a joke, it is possible to have a friendly relationship with women without the pressure of 'having' to change it in to something else. I have in the past exchanged profiles with a woman who, after meeting, was nothing more than a friend. However to use this as a tactic to get rid of a jealous woman is not to be advised.

texassingledad · « **Reply #8 on:** April 08, 2009, 05:27:33 PM »

KingDphax- Looks like you need an Opthamologist because you are blind. I wouldn't know what there is to see thru. I am 43 years old and quit playing games a long, long time ago. I don't have time for them.

This was a simple question seeking advice because I have never dealt with Colombian women or the culture. But am trying to learn. So was asking others that have the experience what is the best to do.

But since you seem to think you are the Authority on most of the topics on this forum I will stroke your ego and fill you in on the rest you wanted to know. ( Sounds like you may be needing it for a book?)

The woman is Colombian, she is 28 years old. And no she doesn't have children. I WAS initialy attracted to her. Hence why I started comunicating with her. But became UNattracted to her when she sharted to exhibit her jealousy behavior. Hence not wanting to comunicate with her anymore.

Sorry to dissapoint you that this was simple and not nearly as complicated as you wished it were.

Good luck in the future with your psyco-babble on someone else.

texassingledad

texassingledad · « **Reply #9 on:** April 08, 2009, 05:37:17 PM »

Your Royal Highness (KingDphax)- Yes I would say that and many other things to your face.

texassingledad

Ray · « **Reply #10 on:** April 08, 2009, 07:05:21 PM »

Maria · « **Reply #11 on:** April 08, 2009, 07:41:30 PM »

Hey Texas, I would just hit her with the truth. Probably nobody ever has or she is new to all this or she is a pro and that is how she makes other naive men fall for it.
I know you have serious intentions. SO being polite is the way to go.

I don't agree with a jealous attitude of someone you are just corresponding with.
Tell her that you liked her at first but what makes her think you would commit to woman you have never met in person? ask her if that sounds normal or right to her. Tell her you do not expect her to be committed to you either. And that her questioning has only pushed you away. So to please stop writting you. At least until she learns to take it easy and to be patient and let things take its course.

But honestly stay away ...

FL

Jamie · « **Reply #12 on:** April 08, 2009, 10:43:13 PM »

Quote from: texassingledad on April 07, 2009, 09:14:51 PM

I mean do you send a letter just saying that you have decided it just wouldn't work between you two or what? I tried this with one and she just kept emailing me wanting to know why and who I was talking to and yada yada yada. I finally had to block her. I was trying to be polite and not be rude. But I also do not want to keep being bombarded when I want to move on.

Oh the red flags were she was jealous after talking only total of probably 12 hours. Wanted to know why I hadnt canceled my Columbian Cupid account, who was I talking too besides her. She was also ready to get married ASAP.

Sounds like you met someone emotionally disturbed. Donâ€™t worry about how to deal with the loonies you did all that you needed to do, which from what I have seen is more than what most people would do.

Planet-Love.com · « **Reply #12 on:** April 08, 2009, 10:43:13 PM »

Jeff S · « **Reply #13 on:** April 09, 2009, 08:03:59 AM »

Quote from: FindaLatina on April 08, 2009, 07:41:30 PM

Hey Texas, I would just hit her with the truth. Probably nobody ever has or she is new to all this or she is a pro and that is how she makes other naive men fall for it.
I know you have serious intentions. SO being polite is the way to go.

I don't agree with a jealous attitude of someone you are just corresponding with.
Tell her that you liked her at first but what makes her think you would commit to woman you have never met in person? ask her if that sounds normal or right to her. Tell her you do not expect her to be committed to you either. And that her questioning has only pushed you away. So to please stop writting you. At least until she learns to take it easy and to be patient and let things take its course.

But honestly stay away ...

FL

InnocentVixen · « **Reply #14 on:** April 09, 2009, 06:57:00 PM »

I think all this gentlemen are wise

honesty always works, wether is to answer a loony or a nice person that for whatever reason you think it wouldn't work.

I would just like to add that if you are talking with someone that is not very fluent in english, be as clear as possible! if she didn't understand clearly she might keep her hopes up and keep messaging you... and if you keep answering out of politeness it will just waste both of your time

mis 2 centavitos caballeros

Researcher · « **Reply #15 on:** April 10, 2009, 03:47:14 AM »

I have to agree. Being honest with her is the best way even if she gets mad at you. I always tried to end relationships in person and I got pretty good at ducking frying pans. Just be careful of the psychos.

Researcher

KingDphax · « **Reply #16 on:** April 11, 2009, 01:10:41 PM »

Hello Texas Single Dad:

I asked you NOT to get bent out of shape. Thanks for your reply. You did at least answer my question...something that few have done. I didn't read all of the rest of the negativity. I don't have time.

Finally, Don't have such THIN skin. If people are going to learn and not waste time
(I hope people are not wasting time on this site) a little challenge is necessary.

-King Dphax
"Survival Guide for Single Men"

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