Divorce!!!

[jmcooper002]

What is the general opinion of Latina's on the topic of divorce. Here in the US it seems that so many enter marriage lightly. Especially the young generation. My best friend says the first marriage is always a practice and the 2nd one is for real. I think he is full of it personally.

I am in a city full of Filipino's and I know overall they don't believe in divorce because they don't have a legal divorce back home and they are predominately catholic. I know that most of LA is overall Catholic so are they less likely to jump on the divorce bandwagon? I hear many stories of the Green card divas that will mary you to come to the US and leave you but I think that is the exception and there are so many good women in LA that just want a good guy, so I am mainly inquiring about the non-scam artist women.

Let me know!

[soltero]

It has been my overall observation that regardless of how they might be when still in country, they tend to change and/or conform once here. The best way to keep your little pride and joy traditional would be to move there, but that is not always an option. Once here, there is no way to know how she may adapt unless you have taken the time to know your woman beforehand, even then, there is no way to be sure.

[David]

So here's a question...

How many of you had got your woman her own attorney so that she was legally responsible for the prenuptual that she signed? I think this is a good to avoid what she can take if you get a divorce.

[Ray]

I am in a city full of Filipino's and I know overall they don't believe in divorce because they don't have a legal divorce back home and they are predominately catholic. I know that most of LA is overall Catholic so are they less likely to jump on the divorce bandwagon?

Well, that's not entirely true.

I personally know many Filipinos, including Catholics, who are divorced.

It is true that divorce is not legal in the Philippines (unless you are Muslim), but you can get a legal annulment if you have a couple thousand dollars and can wait 6 mos to 2 years.

Filipino citizens can legally divorce overseas IF they are married to a non-Filipino and the non-Filipino spouse is the petitioner (filer).

The divorce rate in California (including LA) is very high partly because they have no-fault divorce and it's extremely easy to get one.

Religion probably doesn't play as big a role in divorce rates as you might think.

[utopiacowboy]

My wife's first marriage was not a good one. I asked my wife if her husband had not died if she ever would have divorced him and she said no.

[blockbuster]

 I guess many would not divorce no matter how miserable the marriage because of their society. Somehow that seems sad to me. I believe that even in cultures where the rate of divorce is low, it means nothing but a majority would rather be miserable with a roof over their heads then have the stigma of divorce. I can't imagine having to live my life with someone I don't love.

[Ray]

I can't imagine having to live my life with someone I don't love.

Just because you aren't divorced doesn't mean you have to live together.

There are a lot of guys in the Philippines who have more than one family but only one legal marriage. If you can't get a divorce, you can still disappear and start over with another woman without any legal papers.

A lot of guys won't marry simply because there is no divorce.

[jonno]

 Ray. Any chance of disappearing from my Latina here in usa?

[mudd]

sorry boss, your screwed!!!!   expect a big monthly payment to your ex, unless you get full custody of your child.

[sean126]

Ray. Any chance of disappearing from my Latina here in usa?

Disappear?  what for?  With having a 6 month old baby...don't you think it deserves growing up having a relationship with the mother and the father, even though they are divorced?  I can testify that karma can be extremely rough and unforgiving sometimes if you purposely do the wrong thing.  Not judging, just asking. 

[blockbuster]

If you wanted to "dissapear " from the wife, you should have thought about it 15 months ago before the baby was conceived. what happened between now and then to make things so different? How long did you know her before you both deceided to get engaged? What did she do after she got here that makes you want to run away so badly?

 By the way, I agree with Sean 100%. You can't go anywhere now as you have responsibilities. I hope you tell  more of your story because maybe you'll get guys to think more with the big head. This is not easy. Guys who judge success with marriage to a hottie who are under 2 years of marriage really need more than that in order to start giving others advice.

[michaelb]

I'm going to give jonno the benefit of the doubt.....or let's say maybe the rest of you guys didn't read his post the same as I did. What I read was "Look at this loving woman and beautiful baby. Not a chance that I'm going to disappear! I got too much to stick around for.
(That's the way you meant it, ain't that right?)

[michaelb]

opps...I just read jonno's other thread.....I guess I'll have to retract what I just posted above.

[jmcooper002]

wow I really didn't start this thread as an announcement for future divorcee's.  If I can offer any advice  it would be to stick it out. I remember when my son was born my wife at the time was having major post partum depression so severe it took her out of work and most social activity for about 2 years. She wanted to kill herself all day, and after time she got better. Hang in there because if you ever loved her work on that.

Anyway good luck to Jonno I hope you make the right choice at least for the sake of your young child that deserves both mom and dad, at least for a while.

[Ray]

Ray. Any chance of disappearing from my Latina here in usa?

There's only one way jonno, but I wouldn't recommend it... 

 

[pan de bono]

do any of these MOB marriges work? for every happy married couple there must be three that end in divorce with in a few years.

[sean126]

So far, so good with me.....1 1/2 year marriage.  Together for over 3 years total.  First marriage for both of us.   I'm 38 and she's 30.  She hasn't killed me yet.

[fathertime]

  She hasn't killed me yet.

Just wait until the 2 year mark, unless DT whacks you first!

Fathertime!

[sean126]

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

[fathertime]

do any of these MOB marriges work? for every happy married couple there must be three that end in divorce with in a few years.

Yo Pan,  

In your case, I think you should just go for it man!  We aint' gonna live forever.  Make a smart decision, but be willing to take the risk too!  If others fail, that makes no difference in your specific case.  You deserve some happiness and should not allow other peoples missteps slow you down too much.  

Fathertime!

[Ray]

do any of these MOB marriges work?

No

[Jeff S]

do any of these MOB marriges work? for every happy married couple there must be three that end in divorce with in a few years.

That ratio is about reversed over on the Asian board for whatever reason. The few who had the first one fall apart, like Hum and Howard, got right back up in the saddle and got it right the second time.

[Fuzzyone]

Ray. Any chance of disappearing from my Latina here in usa?

    Normal men take their responsibility as a man and pay their child support. Men that try to escape that responsibility end up in the paper as a deadbeat and jail time because they do catch you sooner or later!

[blockbuster]

Ray's just kidding!