Why so many divorces!

[drjoker69]

These same guys say that the chances of success will be nil since you've only met the girl for 6 days in Vietnam... how can there be love? Well, again love marriages are a Western product that doesn't work. America, the land of love marriages, has a 50-60% divorce rate. India, the land of arranged marriages, has a 5% divorce rate (one of the lowest in the world). Why? Because, as the ancient Romans said, "love is insanity". There is no logical reason for love. It is just hormones. What happens when the hormones wear off in a couple of years? The marriage ends, that's what. However, if you choose a mate based on logical factors such as compatibility/values and you have no premarital sex (no hormones), then you will marry a total stranger. However, you will grow to love her over time since you are compatible and have similar values. I plan on asking her questions without giving my answer first so I can get at the truth behind her personality and morals. I will bring an Israeli voice activated lie detector with me. I will also bring along a prenuptial agreement, too. Most of all, I will be honest. American MEN AND WOMEN are dishonest. Men always lie and tell the women that they are wealthier than they really are. They buy cars and homes that they cannot afford. They owe mountains of debt. American women always wear makeup to lie visually to a man. She also conceals her personality faults during courtship. As a result, Americans marry a mirage. I have an Indian classmate from school who had an arranged marriage. Her name is Asha. She told me that she showed up at her pre-marriage interview with her husband with no make-up on and discussed each others' faults openly and honestly. There is a sense of urgency to be honest because they only had 15 minutes to decide if they will choose to marry each other. They are not allowed to date before marriage. If they give the thumbs down, then their families will restart the search for a mate for them.

[william3rd]

I thought you were already over there and were back . . . . Are you waiting for the detector to arrive?

[jm21-2]

If it's about compatibility/values, isn't it wiser to spend some time getting to know her? It seems like hormones are the most dangerous at the beginning of a relationship, when almost all you have to judge a person by is looks. I would want to know a lot about the country/culture first, then as much as I could about the woman herself (without delaying too long and missing the chance), before I tied the knot. Can't imagine taking less than 6 weeks vacation, hopefully much more. I guess if you just want a girl who can cook, clean, [snip], and will marry at the drop of a dime, then you don't need to know much...but who wants that, and why not go to some backwards ass town here in the US?

[Ray]

American MEN AND WOMEN are dishonest. Men always lie and tell the women that they are wealthier than they really are. They buy cars and homes that they cannot afford. They owe mountains of debt. American women always wear makeup to lie visually to a man.

                 

Speak for yourself...

[Jeff S]

There is no logical reason for love. It is just hormones. What happens when the hormones wear off in a couple of years? The marriage ends, that's what.

Minior edit: There is no logical reason for love attraction. It is just hormones. What happens when the hormones wear off in a couple of years? The marriage attraction ends, that's what.

It's because love is something you do not something you find or fall into. You do it even when you don't feel like it. Do it over and over day after day, year after year, and guess what after keep doing it, pretty soon you'll start feeling it. Do it not, and THAT"S when marriage ends.

[totem]

America is becoming "balkanized" (divided into many different subgroups, pitting one group vs another), losing it's identity of common values. 

Feminism and the constant belittling/putdowns of males in the media, movies, commercials and educational institutions
 

Here are two VERY good books that address these issues:

Spreading Misandry: The Teaching of Contempt for Men in Popular Culture  by Paul Nathanson and Katherine Young (Paperback - May 31, 2006)

America Balkanized: Immigration's Challenge to Government by Brent A. Nelson (Hardcover - Feb 1994)