Casting His Stones....

[tjay]

...About another website

Speaking of their wives (or girlfriends), I wonder how many of them actually read what they write, or how many of them show it off. I know if I acted like them, I would be pretty embarrased.

Montrealer, I think your own wife/girlfriend would be extremely embarassed by the nature of your posts in the other forum.

How would your conservative, evangelical Christian wife feel about your propensity to criminal behavior (i.e. Cuban cigar smuggling) in addition to your graphic, photoshop manipulated pictures with graphic, cartoonish, homosexual themes? Good, I would imagine?

Although I'm not a member of the website that is in question, I do read it for its relevance and useful advice, and take special note to people who post in both forums...

[Montrealer]

Montrealer, I think your own wife/girlfriend would be extremely embarassed by the nature of your posts in the other forum.

She would be embarrassed and probably ashamed.  That's why she'll probably never read it.  Heck, I'm embarrassed and ashamed by some of the stuff I put on that sight, including the photos.

But since you've been following both sites, you'll probably notice that none of my actions are unprovoked.  It's easy to get dragged down to someones level.

[catz]

Montrealer, I think your own wife/girlfriend would be extremely embarassed by the nature of your posts in the other forum.

She would be embarrassed and probably ashamed.  That's why she'll probably never read it.  Heck, I'm embarrassed and ashamed by some of the stuff I put on that sight, including the photos.

But since you've been following both sites, you'll probably notice that none of my actions are unprovoked.  It's easy to get dragged down to someones level.

Montrealer,

 My wife reads the forums that I post to. I told her when she arrived that I would not hide things from her so I showed her where I posted and she even has her own ID on one of the forums so she can post as well. We've had a lot of conversations about what I posted so that I could explain to her what I was trying to say. It really clued me in to how my words could be/have been misread by others.

 Open and honest communication with your lady are first and foremost in this type of relationship. She'll have enough trouble with all the changes she'll have to deal with already. Not trying to chastise you, but if you could not show her what you write it might be worth rethinking it before you write the post. Bringing yourself down to the level of others is never a good idea.

Catz

[Montrealer]

Open and honest communication with your lady are first and foremost in this type of relationship. She'll have enough trouble with all the changes she'll have to deal with already. Not trying to chastise you, but if you could not show her what you write it might be worth rethinking it before you write the post. Bringing yourself down to the level of others is never a good idea.

Very true and well said.  Luckily she's not here for another few weeks.  I probably still won't let her read some of the stuff that I have written in the past.  But maybe the future posts when she comes, which will probably be less since I'll have less free time on my hands.  I don't know if I would want to expose her to some of the stuff written on the forums.

I too believe in honesty in relationships as well and it is one of the cornerstones following communication.  I dount she'll ever want to post on these types of forums, but I'll let her know they exist and leave it up to her.

Thanks for putting me in check.  Need that sometimes.

[papi]

Monty, marriage does not have to be an open book. Everyone has some secrets. Don't show your wife the forums!

[Montrealer]

I'm going to tell her they exist and leave it up to her.  Knowing her, she probably won't want to know.  She's not into gossip and trashtalk.  She's got her network of online friends in some Yahoo room anyways, so that should keep her busy hopefully.

Marriage should be an open book.  I know I wouldn't want my wife to keep a secret from me.  Generally when people keep a secret from someone is out of fear of hurting them, and I'd rather know the truth and be hurt, than to not know and live a lie.  IMHO

[papi]

Monty, I have listened to experts report that not everything should be discussed. You are over 21, do what you want. my advice. don't discuss the forums with your wife. enjoy her...and forget about unhealthy activities which at times this can be

[Houndog]

Monty,

Believe me on this, if you are on the Internet SHE IS GOING TO WANT TO KNOW WHY & TO WHOM!!! She is even going to want to know who the female Telemarketer that called is while you were at work & even female that may have dialed a wrong number(which of course you will probably have no idea what she's talking about), but better be ready to do a lenghty explanation of!!!!

You're getting some Solid Advice Above and if I was you I would take serious note of it! Especially if she doesn't read fluid english.

HD

[Montrealer]

I work from home and am on the PC all day. so I'm not too worried about it.  Plus, she'll probably be at school during the day, so I'm not too worried.

Plus when the telemarketers call I speak to them in spanish only, so she'll know what's going on.  Telemarketes are my most favorite people in the world, always good for some fun:D

[Nicks]

What about this:

Wife comes home, wants to check her e-mails. She has recieved a foto from colombia, and while its down loaded she out of curiosity looks at the HISTORY tab of your browser. And look, something called www.goodwife.com shows up. Hmmmm  what could that be, why does my hubby want to read about Good Wifes? She reads a while then.....

MONTREALER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Que Coño is this!!!???

Just be careful my friend

Rgds

Nick

[utopiacowboy]

My wife has no interest in any of the internet forums. She thinks they're for idiots with too much time on their hands. Sometimes I'll tell her what people post which only reinforces her opinion.