The Mog is Back (but with bad news)

[Jonnie]

Rather than make blanket, stereotyping statements condemning all Filipinas...

I am an AW hater so I'm not going to be able to see a good wife here - they don't exist.  

:shock:

jonnie

[doombug]

Rather than make blanket, stereotyping statements condemning all Filipinas...

I am an AW hater so I'm not going to be able to see a good wife here - they don't exist.  

:shock:

jonnie

You caught that too :lol:

[stefang]

For the guys that have good wives and family you are lucky to have survived. For others the truth is American laws don't care about men anymore. Look at Vawa, look at women that can get you tossed out of your house with a false abuse claim and then proceed to divorce you and cause up to 90% of your wealth to be destroyed.

Is it really worth it, taking the chance of marriage here? I think Shadow is smart he is staying in the Philippines instead of pro women America. I was still thinking of marriage last year but the spring changed me because of some financial problems and having one of those God fearing Pinays asking for money pretty much set me in my ways of no marriage until laws change or expatriate when I can afford it. Life is not bad single especially here where women are so easy to begin with.

Children and family would be nice but when you think of the massive amounts of money and debt that must be repaid almost all children born today will have a lower standard of living than their parents did. Schools can't educate kids correctly since too much Feminist ideals are put into their minds and boys being drugged to calm them into zombies.

So if you remain single you can make the escape or even enjoy life and the world in exploration. I guess I made it to the age where independence is more valued than the odds of succesful modern marriage.

[Bear]

Rather than make blanket, stereotyping statements condemning all Filipinas...

I am an AW hater so I'm not going to be able to see a good wife here - they don't exist.  

:shock:

jonnie

You caught that too :lol:

I said I was a AW hater didn't I?

[doombug]

So if you remain single you can make the escape or even enjoy life and the world in exploration. I guess I made it to the age where independence is more valued than the odds of succesful modern marriage.

Right on!

Travel for the sake of travel.

To all those who are tied down, struggling, and in doubt:

Thanks for the lessons.

[Keith]

Im not sure what you (montrealer) were talking about. Your original post seemed cryptic, and the syntax confusing and meaningless to the original issue -- but maybe it's just me. In the beginning my wife was timid and shy and scared. Little by little she saw there were other filipinos here. We passed some in the grocery store. We met some at the asian store. I always thought it would make her happy to meet as many as she could, to have friends and acquaintences from her country. Never did I realize the competitiveness that there is between these filipinas. I thought that it would make her feel less homesick to have friends. These "friends" are what eventually left me alone with a broken heart. To the new guys that are considering the Philippines, I feel sorry for you. I did not heed the warnings either -- but now I realize the truth. If you cant make it here, with an American woman, then the only way your relationship will survive is if you can provide the things that the filipina cannot get there in her country. After I was laid off from my job, my wife and I were suddenly equalized. We both became pitiful wage slaves, slogging to our thankless, low paying jobs day after day, night after night, no money to go out, just surviving. Meanwhile, her filipina friends were travelling back to the RP every year, going on trips to Florida and other places, driving new cars, living in nice suburban houses. So guys considering this jump, if you can provide these things for your wives-to-be then more power to you -- but know that this is the ONLY reason they are with you. The funny this about my sad story is that for all the filipino/american couples we met, that we had dinner with and went to picnics or movies with, not one stepped in to offer to help us stay together; nobody. So much for the strong family and friends. My little family of two , my wife and I, is now only a family of one. I would never go through this again. Never. What a horrible experience. I would not recommend any American guy go this route.
If you cant find a girl here, then you cant find a girl. And if you need to rely on money and material possessions to get one from 8000 miles away, you will end up just like the sorry case I am now.

Hi Mog,

My wife and I read your story and we are both sorry that this happened to you.  But I have to agree with Ray.  Some of the guys here know my story.  My first wife was a Filipina also.  Things turned really bad after she found out that she was pregnant with our Daughter.  She became a completely different person and yes the Police showed up at my place a couple of times too.  To make a long story short my ex pinay wife tried to take every thing I owned as well as our Daughter away from me.  But the Scot-Irish in me fought like hell until she and her jackass attorney finally gave up.  ( Sorry Stephen not all attornies are jackassess).

Mog, you can't paint all filipinas with the same brush.  Yes, there are some bad ones out there but I have to say the good ones out number the bad ones.  I never gave up hope.  I went back to the Philippines and met a lady that was not only 100x better than my first wife but a whole lot prettier than my first wife and younger too.  I know your feeling like crap now but give it some time.  If you don't want another Pinay for a wife that is your choice.  But I think if you are still open to the idea you can find a really good one in the Philippines.  

Keith and Anecita  

[The Mog Finally Returns]

Thanks Keith, I appreciate the kind words. It's funny how this world works, where the words of a stranger are the kindest words I have received. There is a nice Filipina lady that shops at the store I work at and she said she has a filipina friend she will try to introduce me to.
As my divorce got closer (its only a few days away I guess) I got sadder and sadder, thinking about every place my little wife and I had been, everything we had done. But it seems to be going the other way now, I am starting to think that if she couldnt find it in her heart to get me another chance, and would stick by me in good times and bad, then maybe it just wasnt meant to be. I guess I could hope for the rest of my life that my little wife will come back to me, or I can move on and see if I can meet someone else. Thank you everyone, for all of your support through these trying and emotionally difficult  times.

[lookin for love]

I'm new here, but I can sure sympathyze with you on this one. Hurts like hell. Hope you have no kids together. It isn't just foreign gals that do this, as I can say from sad experience.

-L F L

[El Pegado]

That was cruel to kick a man when he is down!