Marriage Report - 4 years to my Medellin Babe

[canadianguy]

Hey,

I haven't posted here in 3 years but wanted to give an update and tell you all that everything is going great. We'll be married for 4 years coming this April 26th.
 It took me a while to remember my password to sign into this site but felt it was important to let those who are skeptical that you can marry a great woman from a foreign country with success.

 I have some brothers and friends that are single but have yet to go to Colombia, it's strange because they're jealous(in a good way) of our marriage but continue to date the spoiled, overweight and angry North American women.
 
I have posted before in detail about how we met ,look for "Medellin trip report" in my previous posts to give you an idea about our story.
 
 anyway, good luck and hope you all the best.
 
 Geo

[InnocentVixen]

congratulations, you guys seem like a beautiful happy couple

[Jeff S]

Hey cg. Nice to see you back. Thanks for the update. Happy to hear you guys are doing well.


Don't be a stranger!


- Jeff

[whitey]

The crash and burn stories are entertaining and instructive, but it's great to hear about the success stories too!

Yes, it's amazing how some (actually almost all) guys, even when presented with a better option, are too scared or set in their ways to look outside the box at women from other countries.

Happy 4 years ... coming up on 2 years myself in the summer ...

Whitey

[Kiltboy1]

Congrats CG
 
Glad to hear all is great. Like Whitey said, many crash and burn stories but good to hear the ones that stick. I too had 5 years in March and it gets better each day and loads more fun . Come back and post  sometime
 
KB

[fathertime]

 I have some brothers and friends that are single but have yet to go to Colombia, it's strange because they're jealous(in a good way) of our marriage but continue to date the spoiled, overweight and angry North American women.
 
 
 Geo

Thanks for the report Canadianguy and congratulations!   


 I've noticed the same thing with my single friends...maybe some men recognize that they would not be able to make a marriage work and they would prefer to not bother to give it a go. 


Fathertime! 

[Fuzzyone]

Hey,

I haven't posted here in 3 years but wanted to give an update and tell you all that everything is going great. We'll be married for 4 years coming this April 26th.
 It took me a while to remember my password to sign into this site but felt it was important to let those who are skeptical that you can marry a great woman from a foreign country with success.

 I have some brothers and friends that are single but have yet to go to Colombia, it's strange because they're jealous(in a good way) of our marriage but continue to date the spoiled, overweight and angry North American women.
 
I have posted before in detail about how we met ,look for "Medellin trip report" in my previous posts to give you an idea about our story.
 
 anyway, good luck and hope you all the best.
 
 Geo

  Wow


    I wondered where you disappeared to. It is great to hear everything is great for you and your wife. I guess some guys have all the luck   I think your friends are scared it is a big step to do what some of us have done. Think about it you fly to Colombia to meet a woman that might be your future mate or could be your future nightmare. Anyways Congratulations on your marriage!

[Chris F]

Big Congrats on hitting the three year mark!!! I hope you continue to post more often again!!

[Ray]

 
 
 
   
 
 
 

[aconcepts]

"but continue to date the spoiled, overweight and angry North American women."


Well put


I had a friend come down recently that was not like the above but I do agree with the stereotype, but like any stereotype there is the anti-stereotype. Thanks God she was it. But then again she is an in shpe vegetarian bi sexual yoga freak college student... How many of those are there?



its nice to hear about marital bliss anywhere anytime being that it seems to be a waning commodity. Got rug rats?!?


I like rug rats.

[raycjs]

Congratulation on your 4 years.... wish you many more... i have a few friends that talk all the time about meeting someone as great as i did... but none of them want to put in the time and effort it takes...
 
 
Ray

[mudd]

very cool, one of the few who actually made it long term. may i ask the age dif and if your wife had kids before you met ?

[aconcepts]

What is a "Commercial" member?

[Bob_S]

What is a "Commercial" member?

Someone like an agency owner, travel agents, real estate brokers, or anyone who offers legitimate and legal services to wife hunters.

[dennislevy]

Congratulations!


I am also married to a paisa, we re celebrating our 8th day of marriage!


Best wishes for many years of future happiness to you both!


Dennis

[fathertime]

I had a friend come down recently that was not like the above but I do agree with the stereotype, but like any stereotype there is the anti-stereotype. Thanks God she was it. But then again she is an in shpe vegetarian bi sexual yoga freak college student... How many of those are there?

Hey Aconcepts!
I see oodles of beautiful ladies in the USA...but I realized that I was too old and had been too old for a while...and I understand that...You should see Vegas on Friday or Saturday night around 12:00 midnight at the bellagio...or any other large joint....  Most all those gals are looking for a young child-free stud, and I really don't see anything wrong with that... Colombian ladies and perhaps other countries like the one you are in are much more open minded thank goodness...It would be a terrible thing to be on the outside looking in, especially since at least I feel, I make a better husband being slightly older than I did when I was younger! 


Fathertime!   

[aconcepts]

Most all those gals are looking for a young child-free stud, and I really don't see anything wrong with that...


Neither do I if you see them as playmates rather than marriage material.


The problem is as I see it the majority of American women see a fantasy life as a playmate rather than an honorable mother and wife.


You know there is that recognition by Latinas here that guys in their mid thirties on up are ready to support and appreciate a young women.


They are not so young stud fixated like the US. I really believe Zon has it right when he says that women there make men miserable and in turn that makes them miserable. Its a lose lose situation.


I was associated with the Miss Costa Rica 2012 pageant and I interviewed maybe 1/3 of the 75 original contestants which were narrowed down to 20 and then 10. Now I know Johanna Solano who I have tremendous respect as a human and not to mention one of the top 10 most beautiful in the Miss Universe in Brazil 2011. Anyways, every woman said that they wanted children and every woman said they believe motherhood to be the most important part of their self definition. Every one! They all held tremendous respect for their mothers and the sacrifice they made by being there for them.


Now can you say American women hold motherhood in such high esteem? Also the contestants said that if they had the means even though they have the education they would either work to help others or stay at home and make a beautiful home for their family or combine the two.


My point is that money and making more and more of it was not a goal. Happiness and family was the goal.


Ticas with class obviously have a much different self definition than gringas.


By the way on a drunken evening a guy friend of mine (Tico) said to me that he thought Americans did not know what is important in life.


I am one opinionated SOB and I know it, so here goes: to me the reason most US malez do not know what is important in life is the American woman.


Why? Because men live for women in one way or another. You may not marry one but they are central to our need to procreate. When they show no honor, that is no self sacrifice and instead try to act like a man and lose their femininity, they also lose family values. Family and motherhood is a core feminine value. When american women see being a homemaker and a mother as a second class role, then men become lost.


Why?


Because we want honorable women, that is self sacrificing women that we can hold in the highest esteem. What do we get: Hollywood whore value women.


Now I enjoy a good role probably more than most, but I would not marry my playmate. I am smart enough to know the difference between fun material and mother of my children material.


In the US its all about status symbols and money, especially for women. They no longer even want those symbols to represent their quality of life, They want them to show off to their girlfriends. Hollywood whore values have corrupted the American woman to such an extent they they really believe that they are goddesses be worshiped.


I I'll be damned if you US men don't lay down and worship them. Women are to be loved. God is to be worshiped.


As I have said before, here in Costa Rica men have a strong brotherhood. They don't back-stab each other over women. Sex is readily available. In the US women have cornered the market on sex and many use it with in a committed relationship to manipulate. Yes they with hold it. They give it. But they don't give it as a celebration of two people, they gibe it to get. They don't give it freely. Its really veiled prostitution. American women prostitute themselves inside committed relationships to get what they want; to manipulate.


That is Hollywood whore values. That is why some people run airplanes into buildings because they do not want Hollywood whore values corrupting the women in their culture. That is how important women are to men. That is why bottom line i believe that women dictate culture and therefore I lay the corpse of the unnatural US culture on their doorstep.


I think that the relationships that last (marriages) last because the women are honorable. What I mean by honorable is they put family before themselves. That is a heart of gold. If I ran across one of the heart of gold honorable women that fit my lifestyle i would give a committed relationship a chance. And I have a lot to lose and not that many great years left... So I am not going to share them with the wrong woman (selfish).

[Researcher]

   Congrats CanadianGuy. I am approaching the magical 5th year myself.

    Researcher

[canadianguy]

Hey guys, thanks for the all the replies...didn't expect so many.

No she doesn't have kids or do I and we don't want any.

I'm now 39 and she's 41 , ya! an older woman.

Geo

[mudd]

Hey guys, thanks for the all the replies...didn't expect so many.

No she
doesn't have kids or do I and we don't want any.

I'm now 39 and she's 41
, ya! an older woman.

Geo

 
geo, now i see why you are doing so well, your one of the few guys who didnt try to bring back a tenie bopper with a 20 plus age dif .  nice to see a guy who thinks straight 

[fathertime]

I think that the relationships that last (marriages) last because the women are honorable. What I mean by honorable is they put family before themselves. That is a heart of gold. If I ran across one of the heart of gold honorable women that fit my lifestyle i would give a committed relationship a chance. And I have a lot to lose and not that many great years left... So I am not going to share them with the wrong woman (selfish).

Well Aconcepts that was an interesting post...I agree with quite a bit of what you said about femininity and motherhood...
 
My feeling is, most of the women we run across may  not be  our ideal at first, but they can become our ideal, with time and evidence through actions that the man is a patient/generous man that is deserving. Do you know what I'm saying?  For you, maybe you just have to put out and show you are a man that is worthy of a woman conforming her attitudes to what you want.  I hope you take what I'm saying as something to think about, rather than a knock on your being.   


I've been shaped and done some shaping in marriage and have tried to make our marriage ideal for my wife and I.  I suppose one thing to ascertain early on is, if the woman is going to be shape-able and capable enough to be worth the effort.  My feeling is that there are quite a few of them that are. 




 Fathertime!

[aconcepts]

Ok - i get it. Remodeling is acceptable if the foundation is string. Some women are tear down quality. It is not effort effective to remodel (change) them.


I capable of changing if its warranted. yes I understand compromise. Its just that I don't want to sellout. Like most things its a matter of value and what satisfies ones self definition. Married is cool but being married hardly define who I am/ Other people are different and I respect that. I want to be married for the right reasons. Not just for the badge/label. Not just for company when it can easily turn out to be bad company! You know what I mean.


BTW I think these are important issues we are discussing and I am not trying to be right. I could give a crap about being right. I just want to learn really. So don't take any of the crap I write as definitive. Its not...

[V_Man]

Congrats Cguy!!
I would like to learn more about real marriages to latinas, particularly the ones that last. The good and the bad. Lessons learnt, Etc. It would be really useful.