ColombiaCupid

[JimD]

Once a year is reasonable. Every three months or so is insane. But you need to discuss this with your lady in detail, because even though it is obviously insane to think this is an option, your Colombiana wife may think she is married to a multi-millionare and think it is possible. She may think that it is silly to save for your retirement or kids college fund rather than burn up every penny so she can go back and see her family whenever she wants.

Well said Alabama. That's a pretty accurate description I wonder what kind of reception the post lower down proposing once every two years would get  . And by the way what's the latest on your deal?

[V_Man]

I can understand how a young Colombiana that has not travelled before and sees how relatively wealthy a gringo appears, could have unrealistic expectations about travel.

When I read about the expectations some guys seem to have,.... that's were my comprehension struggles.

For me this travel is a major issue. Perhaps I'll create a new thread about it.

[johnsonja]

I'm curious to know how often guys make trips back to Colombia once they have their Colombiana living in the US.  Maybe I'm completely dreaming here about a once every two years thing...?  I would expect to make a couple trips the first year, and one the next, but eventually I'd like to space out the visits to once every two years (given my current financial situation).  V-man, do you mean you struggle to understand some visiting often or less often?  Do you mean the return trips would be difficult or easy for you (financially or otherwise)?

[Gato4Astrid]

I'm curious to know how often guys make trips back to Colombia once they have their Colombiana living in the US.  Maybe I'm completely dreaming here about a once every two years thing...?  I would expect to make a couple trips the first year, and one the next, but eventually I'd like to space out the visits to once every two years (given my current financial situation).  V-man, do you mean you struggle to understand some visiting often or less often?  Do you mean the return trips would be difficult or easy for you (financially or otherwise)?

It depends really.


A very good friend of my girlfriend is currently living in US for the last 2 years but she hasn't been back to Colombia yet.  1st year was difficult because of without her daughter.  Now, she is there with her daughter (of course + the husband).

[stnmasn]

I'm curious to know how often guys make trips back to Colombia once they have their Colombiana living in the US.  Maybe I'm completely dreaming here about a once every two years thing...?  I would expect to make a couple trips the first year, and one the next, but eventually I'd like to space out the visits to once every two years (given my current financial situation).  V-man, do you mean you struggle to understand some visiting often or less often?  Do you mean the return trips would be difficult or easy for you (financially or otherwise)?

I have found that in a relationship there is much give and take. I thought that in a relationship couples want their media mitad (better half) to be happy in the relationship and I have found that a trip to colombia once a year makes the esposa happy and therefore I am happy also because I LIKE TO SEE THE WOMAN I LOVE HAPPY. In our relationship I am the man, I do what I want, when I want to, (like any colombiana/woman expects or should expect),  and I allow her to do her thing also, (like any colombiana/woman appreciates).


 Is it wrong to think if one can't allow and/or afford to have his esposa  visit Colombia once a year then maybe he shouldn't take her from the country she loves and look for love in his own country.


I also love to visit colombia and try to go as often as possible, usually at least once a year. I sometimes go more than my wife in a year.  Though it has been 13 months since my last visit i have 2 allready booked and probably 3 trips planned this year. No I am far from wealthy. I lay bricks and stones for a living and don't make alot but I know what is important for my family and we live within our means and save for the important things.


If you are fortunate to find a girl with a good family then the main expense is travel and accomodations are basically free,( though I do most of the grocery shopping while down there), and are usually at the home of one of the Colombian family members,( remember "el cuarto del gringo" there is one waiting for you if you can find it).


Colombia is a wonderful place and travelers may be surprised after getting to know colombia that they like to travel there at least once a year also. There is seldom a dull moment when I am there. And always plenty of eye candy which the married guys can still enjoy...we are MEN after all


On the flip side my wife has a cousin who is married to a Brit. and they live in london with their 2 young kids. She hasn't been to colombia in 5 to 6 years and that is because she doesn't care to go. I don't know why...  but I do know she has a very nice family there with whom i am close to and visit with every trip. They are VERY poor so that may be part of her not wanting to go back. I imagine my wifes cousin is not the norm but guys there ARE colombianas down there who would leave and not need to go back every year. So keep that in mind.


One more thing P-L guys.  We are MEN and that is what Latinas understand and expect. They expect their men to be MEN not mice or pu#$ys.  Now I am an sensitive american man i will admit that, (thanks mom), but I am also a MAN (thanks dad). So men be MEN and you will earn much more respect from your latina women in the long run.

[Kiltboy1]

My wife is from Ecuador, not Colombia, but it's all the same . She visits once  year , sometimes I go, sometimes, not, just depends on my work schedule. We always take a family( Wife and our 2 children) vacation somewhere here in the states, usually the beach and next year we are taking a cruise . This works for us, other women might feel the need to go more. My wife talks 3-4 times a week to her family on magicjack . She did the webcam thing at first , but the thing just collects dust now after 5 years of marriage. My son is going to spend the summer in Ecuador and my wife will take him down in June after school is out and I will go to Ecuador in August to bring hm back before school starts. Too expensive for all of us to go as airfares are close to 1K each in the summer months.I agree with the above post that the more young, less experienced a woman is, the more you need to be prepared for multiple trips the first 3-4 years until she settles down into life, job, ect and realizes that the frequent travel is disruptive to normal life.
 
KB

[mudd]

I agree with the above post that the more young, less experienced a woman is, the more you need to be prepared for multiple trips the first 3-4 years until she settles down into life, job, ect and realizes that the frequent travel is disruptive to normal life.

agreed, know many younger coombianas who seem to think that gringos coming to colombia, mostly medellin have a lot of extra money and time and can pretty much just jump on a plane any time they want. had many conversations with 18 to 24 year old ladies, " por qué sólo 10 días, por qué no 20 dias? " younger girls who really havent had a full time job, or part time with going to school dont get it. better to be clear your abilities to travel before it gets serious.

[beginthebeguin]

stnmasn sez

Colombia is a wonderful place and travelers may be surprised after getting to know colombia that they like to travel there at least once a year also. There is seldom a dull moment when I am there. And always plenty of eye candy which the married guys can still enjoy...we are MEN after all

Stnmsn I love your attitude.   

[Gato4Astrid]

agreed, know many younger coombianas who seem to think that gringos coming to colombia, mostly medellin have a lot of extra money and time and can pretty much just jump on a plane any time they want. had many conversations with 18 to 24 year old ladies, " por qué sólo 10 días, por qué no 20 dias? " younger girls who really havent had a full time job, or part time with going to school dont get it. better to be clear your abilities to travel before it gets serious.

They are the same - they think money grow on trees!!