Latin relationship drama

[V_Man]

If it is not too personal, I would love to hear about some of the mini dramas that guys have had with their Latin wives and novias. It is a very Latin thing to make a mountain out of a mole hill.

That is not to say that Western women don't also make a huge drama about stuff. Having experienced both it seems to me it is somehow different with a Latina. It all seems faster, more intense and much more quickly resolved as well.

Then the positive feels also more intense, more unreserved and somehow more genuine as well.

Western women seem to me to have dramas that are very deep seated and they either resolve it earlier in life or they never let it go. Even other women agree with me on this one. However maybe my viewpoint is screwed. Perhaps it is just that I really don't tolerate it from Western women any more. They don't make it worth the effort.

Maybe I'm being unfair with this comparison. In LA I am sure though, that small things can quickly become huge dramas. It is a definite Latin thing.

I am a very relaxed sort of guy. Therefore I can't decide if this is a good or bad thing about a relationship with a Latina. It certainly is part of the deal. Part of me thinks "man I don't need drama in my life" and part of me finds it a little amusing. The make up sex practically motivates me to push the same button!!!!

I mean part of me does see the funny side of a very simple thing suddenly being the end of the world.

My current novia is actually tranquilla by latin standards.

I'll give you an example of someone else that did not effect my relationship.
It was not my girl at the time. It was her sister. The sister was cooking in the kitchen and she cut her finger. Not to the bone or anything but it was more than a scratch. Of course 3 women have to get involved. They seemed to me to be winding each other up. There was such a fuss in machine gun Spanish that I was quite worried until I figured out what had actually occured. Well I'll spare you the details but I discover that this justifies a call out by the paramedics to the home.  I was not stupid enough to suggest a band aid would be sufficient.

So just imagine what happens when you do or say something that lights a fuse under your sweet little Latin darling.

Oh and trust me the fuse can be surprisingly short. You thought that she was quick to make up her mind she wanted to be your lover. Yeah well that was her being cautious. Jajaja!

A naughty part of me would like to just sit back and watch the fireworks go off like with the episode with the sister. Secretely I wish I had time to grab some pop corn, a beer and a comfy chair. However my instincts tell me that this is a time to show a little back bone instead. Hence I have remained calm and caring but at the same time I have stepped up to the line and held ground until the storm passes. These are not the times to turn into a door mat as tempting as that may be. However don't ask me for advice. I'm learning as I go along.

I'd love to learn what other guys have experienced and how you handled it.

[beginthebeguin]

V_man wait let me nuke some popcorn and pull up a chair too. Can I take notes as well? jajajajajaja

[mudd]

ahhhh yes, the latin drama  lol. its something to see and witness in person. i have also noticed that they seem to whip up the drama into a frenzy for whatever reason, mostly in my own opinion, to make them seem more important " look at me, feel sorry for me" thing.


 seen many times when a mother, novia or any other female women in a family gets anything remotely resembling the flu, to rush to the hospital like they are on their death bed and one foot in the grave, only to be released the next day from the hospital like nothing ever happened, talk about drama queens lol.


my novia cut her foot on the bottom of the shower door, she comes out crying and dripping blood and acting like somebody just cut off her foot      so  i tell her to sit on the bed and i get some paper towles and have a look. she calls her mom, her sister and just about any female family member who will answer their phone lol. so the cut wasnt very deep but it was on the bottom of the foot which is a problem because every time she would step on  her foot, the cut would open up, so instead of just using a band aid and having it bleed for a day, i walked up to the local carulla super market and found some super glue. i come back, clean and dry the cut and make the mistake    of telling her what im going to do with he super glue lol, she says " are you drunk?"  hahaha


so i explain multiple times that we do this all the time and it works. so i apply the glue, let it dry and tell her to walk around on it,   what do you know, works fine. no blood and doesnt hurt any more. three days later, cut was healed and she had no problem walking on it.

[InnocentVixen]

Ah yes, the drama! have seen enough in my lifetime to give up on novelas after watching a couple because it was all the same to me, it just got boring, you will notice that women that love novelas the most seem to be the most dramatic too, enjoy gossip and some go as far as getting married to "the bad guy" to be able to play the victim more often, their friends will say "pobresita" I just ignore them, they don't seem to like this, as long it's not a lady that is just trying to get all the attention I think it's ok to have a somewhat short fuse, it's something you learn to deal with and like Vman said, it's a button that you will only push if you want to once you know your lady enough.


One thing I must admit I am amazed at is how mexican men handle all the drama, because they have that raining on them from their mothers, sisters, girlfriend, lovers, daughters, friends and they are completely unaffected by it, some really don't care and can be pretty mean, some get angry which can get a little scary, but a few others though will be amused by it yet will actually bother to give you the space or reassurance you need... I might not be dramatic but I can have a short fuse myself, it might be a bit hard to find but it's there haha, so I appreciate when a guy knows how to handle it.



Funny enough I've met a few guys that are quite the drama queen themselves and this is perhaps the reason they are attracted to latinas. An example that comes to mind is an X saying "I could have been dead for all you know!" when we were arguing about him disappearing on me for a few hours, he was upset I had not searched for him and according to his reasoning I should have turned the matter into a national security thing, I did my best not to laugh at him in his face and start asking him if he was doing some shady biz I should know about to have to worry about his life like that or if he had some terminal sickness for me to have a reason to get that worried instead of thinking he needed some space and patiently wait for him. It's just unreasonable, damn if you do, damn if you don't.

[Jeff S]

Naaaahhhhhh! Some guys who are attracted to Latinas, drama queens? Imagine that.

[whitey]

I'm afraid I don't have much interesting to contribute.  My wife (Barranquillera) is very calm. 

She's never once raised her voice (in anger) in the 4 years I've known her.  Occasionally I do something she doesn't like, and she'll usually sulk a little bit, or tell me a few hours later or the next day or two.  She's always quick to get over whatever it was (so far!).

I have witnessed some drama with people getting sick or injured, similar to what others have mentioned.  My wife has only been sick once in the time we've spent together, and not yet here in Canada, so not too sure what to expect yet.

The last time she was sick, vomiting quite a lot, her mother called the doctor down the street and he was at the house in 10 minutes with a nurse.  Her examined her, gave her a shot for the pain, and an IV with two bags of fluid (the nurse stayed until the the bags were empty).

I was then presented with the bill - $US11!  I sure hope she doesn't think she'll get that kind of treatment here!

Another time, we were having lunch at one of her friend's house.  The mother had a headache, so calls the doctor and he comes over a few minutes with a couple pills for her.  For you guys who haven't spent much time in Colombia yet - yes, this is a true story!

[vikingo]

I have been involved with Latinas for more than 32 years, including a 26 year marriage with a Mexican woman. In all of this time I have known only one woman who didn't have a short fuse and usually kept peace in the house and she is my ex-wifes half-sister. I just thought of her when I read Whitey's story.
God knows, I envy the man... I only know of one incidence when she got mad, it was when she found out about her husband having a gf on the side. When he came home late that night, she was waiting behind the door with a frying pan and hit him over the head as hard as she could. He passed out and she got worried and felt sorry for him. My hat is off to that woman, needless to say.
My current colombiana of almost two years has a very short fuse and there is lots of drama of course which seems to be a part of ill tempered people. Many times I think about replacing her, especially since I'm not getting any younger, I'll be 73 shortly, but when I see her walking about with that wonderful behind and a pair of breasts that could make a grown man cry, I think to myself, putting up with her bad temper is a small price to pay, let's give her an other chance.
I firmly believe the reason for an explosive temper is the Spanish blood most Latinas carry in their veins, the Spanish are well known for their ill temper and the Spanish inherited it during the 800 year long occupation by the Moors, an arabic people who lived across from Spain and the Mediterranian Sea in North Africa. I also believe the tendency to strech the truth a little came frome the same evil source.
I've learned over the years, it's best to leave the house when tempers flare and there is to much drama, especially with the family involved, which can be a big pain by itself. I'll go shopping or visit friends and when I return hours later the sea is calm like nothing ever happened. Getting involved in this crazyness and taking part in  shouting matches is definetely not a good idea. That isn't part of my world, that's where I draw the line.

[V_Man]

I've never experienced any shouting myself but it's early days.
However there are of course a thousand ways to show you are displeased with someone and I have had a couple of those directed at me for no good reason.

The flip side is that the positive passion is a lot stronger and it is there all the time. It is not talked about a huge amount on here but that positive passion is extremely difficult to resist.

[benjio]

I've also dated Latina women all my life...mostly Mexicanas. "Making a mountain out of a mole hill" is definitely synonymous with those relationships although it's not at all attractive to me. But I have to admit, I sometimes do genuinely [snip] up. I came home drunk and needed to be babysat. I didn't call when I should have. I forgot a "first date" anniversary. What can I say, I'm a guy...no one's perfect. The difference between me and a lot of other guys is I REALLY appreciate a woman that respects herself enough not to tolerate it, and makes sure she's adamant about letting me know that. 
 
So when I do mess up, there's nothing like a gorgeous latina waving her hands all over the place, screaming spanish so fast it's not at all comprehensible putting me in my place when I've been a bad boy. What's even better is when I get tired of listening to her lecturing for hours on end, grab her all manly like, plant a deep passionate kiss on her, pick her up, carry her to the bed, and ravage her for a couple of hours. Hasn't been one time in my entire life that didn't resolve any prior grievance. Almost to the extent that I'm sure some of my past girlfriends would start arguments just because they were horny. I'm just saying...

[Jeff S]

As a good friend of mine used to say, they can love hard and hate hard.

[Gato4Astrid]

V-man


As you have a novia now, could you update your relationship status in the atavar 

[Pivery]

  I have definitely witnessed some latina drama in my years but almost none of it from my wife. Usually it's from her friends or sisters that seem to take their behavior cues from the many novelas they watch daily. Like Whitey, I have one of the most level-headed tame latinas and when I see her interacting with friends or family I can really see the difference between how she handles things and how the others fly off the handle for any known or unknown reason.
 
As said before, the fiery latin blood is present in all the women, but depending on your luck it would seem you may end up with more or less of it than others. I'm glad I got one with less, that's for sure.
 
Pivery 

[Brazilophile]

What's even better is when I get tired of listening to her lecturing for hours on end, grab her all manly like, plant a deep passionate kiss on her, pick her up, carry her to the bed, and ravage her for a couple of hours. Hasn't been one time in my entire life that didn't resolve any prior grievance. Almost to the extent that I'm sure some of my past girlfriends would start arguments just because they were horny. I'm just saying...

Operant conditioning at its best!  B.F. Skinner would be proud of you.  I wish your example had been in my Psych 101 class!

[Alabamaboy!]

If I were to make a comparison of having a relationship with a Colobmiana vs Filipina, I could do so with a car analogy.  I love cars. And I really love and respect women too. But if I was to describe the difference in the drama/attitude/extremes of dealing with a Colombiana versus a Filipina I would do so as:

Colombiana: More like a Ferrari or Lamborghini. Or even a Cadillac Escalade. Looks great. When it is working it is a super smooth, silky, exciting, exhilarating ride. High maintenance. Frequently breaks down. Make sure you have the extended warranty (or a good Plan B). Can be very impractical. Attracts a lot of attention. Lots of "fun" factor. One minute you are in love with it like choosing it was the best decision you have ever made. The next minute you may be asking yourself what the hell you were thinking.

Filipina: More like a Honda Oddessy, Accord, or Civic. Looks good. Can be sporty or classy. More practical in comparison. More dependable and reliable. Smooth. More mainstream and "normal". Maybe a little less "fun". But much less drama.

Both choices are good. IMO much better than gringas (generally speaking). But they are definitely different ends of the spectrum for the most part.

I would probably make an analogy of marrying a gringa to having an AMC Gremlin or Pacer. Or maybe a Cadillac Cimmaron or a Pontiac Astek.

I hope this does not offend anyone  here because I know a lot of you guys have found great Colombianas who are anything but what I described above. And there are also some high maintenance drama queen Filipinas out there.  I am just giving my input of what I have experienced (generally) over the years after being married to both. And after working with and interacting with a lot of examples of both groups.

[CeeTeeEnn]

Alabamaboy, I discussed this same analogy with some friends here, and reached the following conclusion. A Slavic woman is most like the S class or 7 series - the most sophisticated and prestigious, but you'd better have deep pockets to keep things running. An Asian woman is just as you have described.

But a latina? To obtain one, you turn up to a secret site in an anonymous industrial park that you hear about by word of mouth from someone. A mean looking security guy lets you in. You are vetted, then interrogated, and finally provided with a kit of carbon fibre and exotic parts, with incomplete and incomprehensible instructions written in unintelligible languages. You take the kit home and struggle to put it together. You spend money, time, and your family & friends think you're going crazy. But eventually you make it work and the result is breathtaking! The sheer noise, performance, responsiveness... everybody else on the streets think you should be banned!

Eventally the inevitable happens - you end up trashed in a ditch, facing hospitalisation, law courts and a massive bill. When you finally come out recovered, you consider a trip to the import showroom for the "sensible" option. You hear the sales blurb, read the figures, agree with the practicality and are about to sign on the dotted line when... something overcomes you and you run out the door and head straight back to the industrial park for second helpings!

That's my take on the Latina analogy.

[whitey]

Alabamaboy, I discussed this same analogy with some friends here, and reached the following conclusion. A Slavic woman is most like the S class or 7 series - the most sophisticated and prestigious, but you'd better have deep pockets to keep things running. An Asian woman is just as you have described.

But a latina? To obtain one, you turn up to a secret site in an anonymous industrial park that you hear about by word of mouth from someone. A mean looking security guy lets you in. You are vetted, then interrogated, and finally provided with a kit of carbon fibre and exotic parts, with incomplete and incomprehensible instructions written in unintelligible languages. You take the kit home and struggle to put it together. You spend money, time, and your family & friends think you're going crazy. But eventually you make it work and the result is breathtaking! The sheer noise, performance, responsiveness... everybody else on the streets think you should be banned!

Eventally the inevitable happens - you end up trashed in a ditch, facing hospitalisation, law courts and a massive bill. When you finally come out recovered, you consider a trip to the import showroom for the "sensible" option. You hear the sales blurb, read the figures, agree with the practicality and are about to sign on the dotted line when... something overcomes you and you run out the door and head straight back to the industrial park for second helpings!

That's my take on the Latina analogy.

OMG!!!  What have I done?!!! Heeeeeeeeelp!!!

[z_k_g]

Almost to the extent that I'm sure some of my past girlfriends would start arguments just because they were horny. I'm just saying...

Nice Benjio!!

Zulu

[z_k_g]

I would probably make an analogy of marrying a gringa to having an AMC Gremlin or Pacer. Or maybe a Cadillac Cimmaron or a Pontiac Astek.

Funny shyt!!

Zulu

[V_Man]

But a latina? To obtain one, you turn up to a secret site in an anonymous industrial park that you hear about by word of mouth from someone. A mean looking security guy lets you in. You are vetted, then interrogated, and finally provided with a kit of carbon fibre and exotic parts, with incomplete and incomprehensible instructions written in unintelligible languages. You take the kit home and struggle to put it together. You spend money, time, and your family & friends think you're going crazy. But eventually you make it work and the result is breathtaking! The sheer noise, performance, responsiveness... everybody else on the streets think you should be banned!

Eventally the inevitable happens - you end up trashed in a ditch, facing hospitalisation, law courts and a massive bill. When you finally come out recovered, you consider a trip to the import showroom for the "sensible" option. You hear the sales blurb, read the figures, agree with the practicality and are about to sign on the dotted line when... something overcomes you and you run out the door and head straight back to the industrial park for second helpings!

Excellent post.
I hope the whole thing is lies because I am still at the stage of being "... provided with a kit of carbon fibre and exotic parts, with incomplete and incomprehensible instructions written in unintelligible languages".

Someone should really slap me around and tell me to stop now.

[JWR]

Ha ha ha....so true, so true......
 
Been to the industrial park a couple trips, and that's it for me.
 
 

Alabamaboy, I discussed this same analogy with some friends here, and reached the following conclusion. A Slavic woman is most like the S class or 7 series - the most sophisticated and prestigious, but you'd better have deep pockets to keep things running. An Asian woman is just as you have described.

But a latina? To obtain one, you turn up to a secret site in an anonymous industrial park that you hear about by word of mouth from someone. A mean looking security guy lets you in. You are vetted, then interrogated, and finally provided with a kit of carbon fibre and exotic parts, with incomplete and incomprehensible instructions written in unintelligible languages. You take the kit home and struggle to put it together. You spend money, time, and your family & friends think you're going crazy. But eventually you make it work and the result is breathtaking! The sheer noise, performance, responsiveness... everybody else on the streets think you should be banned!

Eventally the inevitable happens - you end up trashed in a ditch, facing hospitalisation, law courts and a massive bill. When you finally come out recovered, you consider a trip to the import showroom for the "sensible" option. You hear the sales blurb, read the figures, agree with the practicality and are about to sign on the dotted line when... something overcomes you and you run out the door and head straight back to the industrial park for second helpings!

That's my take on the Latina analogy.

[Alabamaboy!]

Ha ha ha....so true, so true......
 
Been to the industrial park a couple trips, and that's it for me.
 
 

Me too.