Good wife material

[searcher2012]

Hi
 
I have read in many posts here about guys saying "oh latinas like sex like its going out of style". The poster Zon especially seems to imply they are sex machines.
 
Well I am looking for wife material. I would like a normal relationship and develop it normally not jump in the sack with the first girls i meet because thats not my goal....i can do that anywhere if i desired.
 
What are the odds BAQ has good wife material ladies?
 
what about bogota? what about cali?
 
Be honest please. i dont  buy all latinas are sexual nymphos... there has to be some good clean ladies interested in a family not just sex.
 
 

[V_Man]

I am no expert but this is my (limited) personal experience.

I think you need to talk with these ladies a little and you will figure it out.

The women will not leap into the sack with first gringo they meet. Not at all.
In fact there are plenty of gringos that most women would not touch with a barge pole.
If you realistic about what you want and what you go chasing after - then you will find most of those women genuinely want a family. I.e. be a little selective and realistic in the first place.

However I have found that if there is some mutal attraction then these Colombianas tell me exactly what they would like to do with me in the bedroom (and a few other rooms as well). However I do not get the feeling that these women are "easy" or not serious about a long term relationship. I don't have that impression at all. It simply means that they have seen enough of me and talked to me enough to want to progress things to the next level.

In addition there is a certain element of posessiveness. They want to monopolise all of my time so that I'm not tempted by some other woman.

There are 6 women in 4 cities that want to meet me at the airport, take me to a hotel or their homes and stay with me. I've only meet one of these women before. If I really wanted to do that I could probably line up a few others. Now if I can have these options from the opposite time zone, with my limited Spanish then I imagine it must be a walk in the park for you guys in the USA. However I don't think for one minute that any of these ladies is insincere or not serious about wanting a loving committed marriage. And they certainly wouldn't want me to take advantage of the situation.

I think you are getting the two things mixed up.
Things may move at a different pace than you are used to but that may not carry the same meaning as in your culture.

It's possible for a lady to want to sleep with you and also be serious about a long term future. No doubt you've been there, done that in your own culture. Perhaps Latin ladies simply arrive at that stage in a relationship faster than you are used to. Remember that latins in general are simply more direct with you about their feelings. That doesn't mean they leap into bed with anyone. It means they feel that way about you. Hence you could be leaping to conclusions that may not apply.

[Gato4Astrid]

Hi
 
I have read in many posts here about guys saying "oh latinas like sex like its going out of style". The poster Zon especially seems to imply they are sex machines.
 
Well I am looking for wife material. I would like a normal relationship and develop it normally not jump in the sack with the first girls i meet because thats not my goal....i can do that anywhere if i desired.
 
What are the odds BAQ has good wife material ladies?
 
what about bogota? what about cali?
 
Be honest please. i dont  buy all latinas are sexual nymphos... there has to be some good clean ladies interested in a family not just sex.

There are many good wife material ladies in Colombia.   My girlfriend is from Medellin and she is the "good wife material"

[Researcher]

     I met many ladies during my wife hunt and there are alot of misconceptions going around lately. Many ladies I met were what you are looking for. I met my wife in Bogota and she is wife material.Many guys here met their wives in Baq. and they seem to be good ladies also.

    Researcher

[raycjs]

when i was looking 90% of the girls i met in BAQ where good women not looking to jump in bed on the first date. i had no interest in having random sex with these girls. i was looking for a long term relationship. i have a great women now and she is everything i was looking for and we did not jump in to bed the first day we met. the real good ones will take there time because they do not want you to think they go from guy to guy. if you are serious about finding a good women you should not have any problems in BAQ
 
Best of luck to you
 
Ray

[Jeff S]

There are two camps here on PL, those who are interested in dating and having fun and those who look overseas for a devoted, old fashioned wife. No matter which camp you are in, what you find in many places in the world is a far more target rich environment than you do in the US.


Seek and ye shall find.


Just out of curiosity - why have you "chosen" Colombia? Even if you like the latina look and attitude, you're limiting yourself to less than 10% of Latin America population-wise, and the portion that has most been affected by many gringos from both camps above.

[opusone]

If she isn't happy within herself, all bets are off. There are innumerable amounts of latinas that are "wife material". Finding one that is already happy way before she even became your wife is another story.

[JimD]

What are the odds BAQ has good wife material ladies?
 
what about bogota? what about cali?
 

That´s like saying do women from Indianapolis make better wives than women from Dayton or Tucson. There´s no difference in "wife quality" whatsoever between the women of different major cities. The only thing that can be definitively stated is that the agencies in Bogotá have traditionally had the reputation of  having more somewhat older, better educated profesional women than Barranquilla and Cali. I think that is like the difference you might expect between women from an agency in New York City and one in St. Louis.
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The real difference you´ll find among women of Colombia is between city girls (which make up about 99% the women we meet) and pueblo girls and of course even more so with real campesinas like girls who live on a coffee finca in the country.

[InnocentVixen]

What are the odds BAQ has good wife material ladies?
 
what about bogota? what about cali?
 
Be honest please. i dont  buy all latinas are sexual nymphos... there has to be some good clean ladies interested in a family not just sex.

First of all, not all latinas are colombianas, so if you don't like the sound of them, look somewhere else where your odds are better, there is plenty of places in latin america to chose from, so perhaps picking a more conservative country would suit you best.


Honestly? sorry to disappoint but us latinas are in fact all sexual nymphos, I've never met one who is not, the big difference is that some sleep around and some don't, even for the virgin ones, the desire is there for the right man (if it's not she is not interested!), if you want just a family without the sex... I don't think you would keep your wife happy, it comes with the package.


I know you probably mean that you just want a good girl, but I think that if colombia is anything like Mexico, then there is a lot of wife material out there, the problem is they get a lot of players that promise marriage and the girls end up being used, would you count this girls as "dirty"? they are no angels don't get me wrong, but keep in mind some posts here are from guys that like to party and go to bars or go to agencies and do "test drives"

[SJ]

    Wow InnocentVixen it sounds like a tough job but somebody has to do it.

[opusone]

    Wow InnocentVixen it sounds like a tough job but somebody has to do it.

SJ,
The only question you need to answer is, what is a good wife to you? When you go hunting in latin America, every last one of these generalizations  you have read will be fruitless if you have your personal list . You can't rely on one persons opinion for you own happiness. What do you require when looking for a good wife? Conservative? liberal? sexual? fashionable? religious? family oriented? Old? Young? Intelligent? Dumb? naive?

[SJ]

    That is good advice opusone.It is important to know what you want in a good wife or what makes a good wife in your eyes.Every guy may be different.

[V_Man]

I agree with the other posters here.
Some months ago one of the experienced guys made a comment that many of the men doing this don't really know what they want in a wife. They know what they are attracted to but they haven't really thought out what they want in a wife. Or perhaps they do know but they either loose sight of it or don't take the appropriate steps to attract such a woman.

Personally for me, I think I would have found this much more difficult if I didn't know myself and what I want 10 years from now as well as I do.

Honestly? sorry to disappoint but us latinas are in fact all sexual nymphos, I've never met one who is not, the big difference is that some sleep around and some don't...

Yeah I think this partly why the OP is confused.

[Bob_S]

That´s like saying do women from Indianapolis make better wives than women from Dayton or Tucson. There´s no difference in "wife quality" whatsoever between the women of different major cities.

Oh, I dunno.  I can quite confidently say that women from, say, Oklahoma City on average make much better wives than women from Los Angeles.  Though that's not saying very much.

[JimD]

To reiterate my point there is simply no difference in "wife quality" between women from different cities in Colombia and actually I have a friend from a midwestern city who met and married a girl from Los Angeles. It´s been about five years now and he thinks she is very good "wife material".  Generalizations along these lines are always subject to endless exceptions and in the end they just don´t hold water.

[V_Man]

Generalizations along these lines are always subject to endless exceptions and in the end they just don´t hold water.

Bogota has a population of 7.5 million people. Imagine how many exceptions to any generalisation there must be in that population.

[fathertime]

Bogota has a population of 7.5 million people. Imagine how many exceptions to any generalisation there must be in that population.

Exceptions ARE the rule! 


For many men, if they listened to all the 'generalizations' about Colombian women, they would never travel to Colombia.  Obviously many men have listened, because very few will travel there, despite being very attracted to the ladies!


Fathertime!   

[JimD]

For many men, if they listened to all the 'generalizations' about Colombian women, they would never travel to Colombia.  Obviously many men have listened, because very few will travel there, despite being very attracted to the ladies!

I´m not sure what you are trying to say here. We were talking about the error of generalizing that women from some cities make better wives than women from other cities either here or in the US. If it is true that very few men travel here it is probobly due to time constraints, lack of funds, Spanish deficiency or all three.

[fathertime]

I´m not sure what you are trying to say here. We were talking about the error of generalizing that women from some cities make better wives than women from other cities either here or in the US. If it is true that very few men travel here it is probobly due to time constraints, lack of funds, Spanish deficiency or all three.

I don't believe TOO strongly in these types of generalizations, generally speaking.  The exceptions are everywhere if men really looking.  Heck, I believe for the right man, a woman would change from a career girl to a stay at homer, or visa versa...Lots of varibles, if Bogota has 7.5 million people, that is a  of potential exceptions. 


I think time constraints lack of funds are usually just an excuse for most men.  I have numerous single friends that have money and time and love the way the ladies look.  Something scares them off though and I think it is a couple stereotypes. 
1.  Colombia is very dangerous and they might get kidnapped.
2. They are going to get scammed by a beautiful woman.


-hey either of these things could happen, but I'm convinced that for the most part the ladies can be managed whereas the crime can happen to anybody.


Fathertime! 

[Big_Al]

  That's a good observation fathertime.It applies to Colombia very well.