How forward or not to be when at Jamies first time

[saleens7tt]

Things are going well, we have talked/chatted for 3 hours every night for the past month. We have a wonderful friendship, we both want to know if we will just be friends, or if we will take it to the next level. She is not my novia at this point, but she wants to be, and I want her to be. We are not able to make that kind of a commitment from a distance. I will be seeing her in a few short days, she made the hotel reservations for me and will meet me at the airport. We are both excited to see each other, patiently waiting in mystery of what the future has for us. In the back of my mind, I am already prepared for this to just be a friendship with her, maybe she has done the same, I do not know, keeping everything super positive with her right now. We said we will still be friends no matter what happens. She said she wants to be the queen of my dreams and she does not want me to look at another woman for this. She said she feels complete with me. I feel the same for her, but we will not know for sure until the next time we meet in a few short days. Bro, if she is carinosa, and our physical chemistry is fire, I am in trouble......                    .

  Lmao....if u 2 start a fire in the hotel, keep that shower running 24/7 with nothin' but ice cold h2o.....man, I am happy for u and her and hope it works out for u both.

[Jeff S]

I disagree that this is a game of chance. Nearly everyone who has had their relationship fall apart, then came back here to describe what happens, said that all the signs were there - they just chose to ignore them at the time. The biggest downfall is that too many guys pick women by voluntary traits - appearances, body shape, hairstyles, the way they treat them / dance / are intimate. These are things that can and do change as relationships become too familiar, or can be faked by women on the prowl. Not enough attention is paid intangibles like values, sincerity, loyalty - things that are hard to ascertain about people early on but make all of the difference in the long haul.

[InSanDiego]

one good thing about chatting is you get alot of practice on your Spanish, but more importantly the relationship has to be sustained without the physical rewards we can be blinded by...

[opusone]

I disagree that this is a game of chance. Nearly everyone who has had their relationship fall apart, then came back here to describe what happens, said that all the signs were there - they just chose to ignore them at the time. The biggest downfall is that too many guys pick women by voluntary traits - appearances, body shape, hairstyles, the way they treat them / dance / are intimate. These are things that can and do change as relationships become too familiar, or can be faked by women on the prowl. Not enough attention is paid intangibles like values, sincerity, loyalty - things that are hard to ascertain about people early on but make all of the difference in the long haul.

Jeff,
 What  I am sure you read the entire post. This was my opinion to Saleen concerning him worrying about what he looks like,(black) or whether or not he can dance , sing, or even speak spanish very well. There is s chance he many not be accepted because of these and whole host of  other things . THerefore that's why I said that this is a game of chance. There is a chance him might find one in the agency that likes him for who is, but there is an equally good chance he may find one that likes him, that is outside of the agency .I think he got the drift and welcomed the advice so I guess it wasn't so bad of advice .

[saleens7tt]

Opusone-advice duly noted!!

[Jeff S]

Didn't mean to imply your advice was lacking Opus - just that it is not as chancy as some imagine - if you keep your wits about you.

[opusone]

Didn't mean to imply your advice was lacking Opus - just that it is not as chancy as some imagine - if you keep your wits about you.

You're right Jeff, and I think that's what I was trying to convey to him. To focus on the task at hand and other  "things " will fall into place. I don't know what your feeling is on this, but sometimes I think that some men (not all) who get reports from an agency trip , start generalizing all the women of Barranquilla as having the qualities as the women in the agency. Im dating 2 right now, and I can honestly tell you that I am totally ""F-ing" confused some days, because things are evolving even as we speak . Just when I think i have them figured out , a whirlwind swipes the last thought away. They are not unpredictable with me, but, the Barranquilla mindset of yesterday is not the same as today. Rapid fire changes with the modern costena.