In San Diego
Micky s 44 is on point, so are some others in the same vein.
You DON T have to make anything happen. Just go out with women, take them out nicely but not extravagantly and LISTEN to them. if there iis chemistry, it will be as obvious as the butt on a goat. Many Colombian women if they like you.....will NOT be subtle. they will say very directly...what do you think of me?- They will touch your hand, they will put their hand on your thigh under the table....
If a woman calls you amor...forget about calibrating the meaning of the word...go with it....right after that first amor, then she is cielo, corazon, amor, mi vida.....whatever.....they have no meaning...they are just friendly touches, if you hit the sheets with a Colombian woman and you are in the throes......then they are passionte utterances.....not signs of committment.
a Colombian woman may call you papi.....dont read a lot into it....she ll call her 6 year old son...papi
Those words only mean something substantial when you re both committed.....and you know each her on several levels.
You handled the push for money......perfectly. Once again...good Colombian women with pride DO not ask for money!
If you want to give money, thats on you......my rule with very few exceptions and yes, I live here..... is......a committed, exclusive relationship, you are lovers and YOU LIVE TOGETHER.
Since I ve never lived with anyone in three years, i ve given about 200,000 (say 100 bucks total) in 222 and succeding first dates!!!!!!) to women and only once without a sexual relationship, that was 50,000 pesos that I sent someone for a medical emergency for her son and I made sure that I talked with the mother before I sent the money.
We had one date.....there was no chemistry......and she had a glass of juice and i gave her taxi fare home, all in all..... maybe 10,000 pesso more then a dinner date...so I didnt get scammed. And she was 30...which is another reason why i rarely meet younger then about 38
Some of the dire probems that women bring up, no heat medical emergencies, cant pay the rent are legitimate,,,but we get jaded becasue we ve heard the same stuff over and over again.
One strategy...is if you do like someone and you get a request for money and she asks you face to face...rather then say no....ask questions and get specifics about what the request for rmoney is.....then SAY that you will deal directly with whoever.........the landlord, dentist, ....to pay them.
What you willl usually get is....dont you trust me or love me ...or both.
Your response is.....do you want this bill cancelled.....or do you just want money?
And that s usually it..............the end of the relationship.
OK?
Keep the cards and letters coming!
