So I met a girl.. And I am going to Thailand to meet her.

[Bob_S]

And if you think that having a woman who has a mind of her own and the ability to speak it with clarity gets old, I know for a fact that the other type gets old a heck of a lot quicker. Women like that are just plain boring.

I think there's a conflict of terms here.  A woman who can express her opinions is not necessarily the same as a "fiery" woman.  I think I understand what you are saying.  You want a woman who can confidently express her opinion when it matters to her.  If she can't, you know she has an opinion anyway that she is keeping to herself and will sandbag you with it later, whining how you never considered her opinion (that she never expressed but that's beside the point).

But a fiery woman will always seek more fuel for her fire.  And it will eventually consume you.  You won't be able to go out for ice cream together without he commenting on how your choice of a chocolate ice cream cone is wrong because the chocolate here is so inferior to the chocolate ice cream at some place back in her home town and she knows chocolate and it's unhealthy for you for this or that reason and so on...  At some point you're going to want to tell her to shut the eff up, and now you're an abusive bastard blah blah blah.

[AsphaltVoyager]

But a fiery woman will always seek more fuel for her fire.  And it will eventually consume you.

Yes, your point is well taken. Howver, that's not the kind of fiery I was talking about. I don't mean argumentative just for the sake of being argumentative. If that's what I wanted, I would just seek an AW. So, let's go with your paragraph A's definition.

You want a woman who can confidently express her opinion when it matters to her.

But, add to that, a playful nature, someone who knows how to keep the fun in life.

[robert angel]

I like how many  Asian women will tell you privately how they feel offended and/or how they wish you'd handled it, whereas American women often don't care nearly as much and may lash out with broadsides and make you out to be a buffon of sorts.

For that matter, when's the last time you saw an Asian man or woman beat the bejesus out of one of their children in Wal-mart?

[Celtic_Jorge]

I like how many  Asian women will tell you privately how they feel offended and/or how they wish you'd handled it,

'
Exactly my experience with my last Thai girlfriend.  She never tried to punish me by embarrassing me,


As for a mini-update..  I'm starting to really reaccess things.  I live in a very high-cost area.  The price for a apartment is $1300 and up, just for a studio.  She basically needs me to send money to her family every month, since she won't be able to work.  My salary is liveable for one person, maybe two, if we actually cook, and don't get takeaway and dine out 5 times per week.  But its still really low.. Lets just say the average is 70k in my area, and I only get between 40-50.

I just don't know how this can work.

Also, she says she's working 16 hours a day now, to support her mother, grandmother, and the baby in their family (not hers, another relatives).  So I hardly EVER hear from her, except for the occasional SMS, maybe once per day.

I just don't know what to think.  Maybe this whole thing is just not working out for me.  I don't get any time off from work for a year, and even then its only 7 days.. And in two years I'll get 14.  Not bad for the work I do, mind you. Not bad at all.  But no good for this international dating business.. You blokes talk about getting 4 weeks off per year or more, I could never do that.

Sometimes I think I should really find a way to meet international women HERE in the USA... But I am not sure how. 

Then.. if I really decide this whole relationship can't work.. How to tell the girl I've been talking to, I really don't want to break her heart.  Jasus.......... 

[robert angel]

Sorry to hear, Jorge,

It's real easy for us to sit back, most of us pretty happy with our bird in hand, while you're trying to catch one in quick order, out there in the wild.  It might even seem like we're trying to 'back seat drive' as we give advice from our comfy seats. We know that your conditions and overall situation, while not desperate, just aren't near optimum yet, but better days are ahead.

We know you want it and that you want it to be right. There's a billion plus gals out there mate, and I promise you, it's going to happen for you in time.

Hang in there bud, and keep coming back!

Rob

[AsphaltVoyager]

CJ, I think it's possible to overcome the housing costs and other expenses so that you can still live and be able to help her folks out, too, but if she can't give you more than a text message per day, I just can't see the relationship surviving. How she expected to be able to meet and keep someone inerested in her is a mystery when her days are that long.

Try sitting her down, when you can, and talking with her about this. IF you can't work something more tenable out, then I'm afraid you're going to have to find someone who has time for a relationship and wants one. Sorry, bud. I really hate to see it.

[Celtic_Jorge]

No, I really can't.  Uncle Sam reaches into my pocket every month and takes about 30% of my pay.  Sure, I get some back at the end of the year, but I don't have a choice, it gets deducted out of my cheque.  Just for a one bedroom in my area, I'm paying $1400, and that's for a not-so-great building.

Then there's the $800 bill for heat, power, fuel for the automobile, mobile phones, internet, parking, the television, watching the football on the internet, yadda yadda yadda.  Then I need groceries, and lunch money, and just a smidgen of cash to have a bit of fun with.

Let's see what's left to send her family.  Oh.  Maybe $200.  Not enough, mate.  This just isn't going to work out.  Instead of going to Thailand, I think I am going back to Scotland to catch up with some of my mates and go see the Bhoys play a game.  This international dating thing just isn't going to work for me.

[Ray]

Instead of going to Thailand, I think I am going back to Scotland to catch up with some of my mates and go see the Bhoys play a game.  This international dating thing just isn't going to work for me.

Good decision!

If she is asking you to support all of her relatives before you even met her, just dump her ass!

When you get a job that lets you take more time off for travel, come back and visit us. You’re still young and have plenty of time to find the right mate for you.

I wish you luck Jorge!

Ray

[z_k_g]

This international dating thing just isn't going to work for me.

Jorge, I don't wanna put words in your mouth, but THIS particular woman is not going to work!  Dump her arse and start over.  Find a woman that doesn't require you to jump through these types of financial hoops!

You are looking for a relationship, not a dependent and her family to boot!!

There is a woman out there for you!  Its just not this one!

Have fun in Scotland!!

Zulu

[Dave H]

Instead of going to Thailand, I think I am going back to Scotland to catch up with some of my mates and go see the Bhoys play a game.  This international dating thing just isn't going to work for me.

Hey Celtic_Jorge,

Don't worry about the "international dating thing!" It will all fall into place in due time!

Scotland! That sounds like a good time to me...wish I was going with you! Say hello to 
Billy Connolly if you see him.  I always wanted a pair of those banana boots!

“Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
I'm a schizophrenic,
and so am I.”

Dave

[robert angel]

Yea Jorge,

Go somewhere where you KNOW they'll take care of YOU!