Latin women in the country....would it work?

[Catfish_King]

hello, I'm new to this site but have always wondered about foreign relationships. I live in the southern U.S. in a very rural town. My choices in women here just aren't the best. I've always been attracted to Latin women but I have never really had the chance to be around them.
About me, my mother is a choctaw indian and my father is white. I was raised with a different background and beliefs that may differ greatly from Latin standards. I have a good job, but it takes up a lot of my time.
I have thought about trying to meet a woman from somewhere like Peru maybe or Mexico, but just can't imagine bringing someone back here....how different it would be for them, I just can't see someone not from here liking it....if that makes sense.
A beautiful Latina woman....turtle jugging in the swamp!?! Not to sound funny or anything, but I just can't see it working. hopefully I'm wrong, like I said before...I just have no idea.
Would it work, or am I just wasting my time? Any insight or information would be greatly appreciated.

[InnocentVixen]

welcome, I don't think you are wasting your time, while I am not sure what you mean with "very rural" I am sure there are even more "rural" places out there, specially outside the states, just make sure you don't choose a girl that dreams of living in Miami or something.

I think you should be less negative... also you mention your job keeps you very busy, make sure you have enough time for a relationship with someone far away and if it works, that you have enough time for your wife.

good luck

[Catfish_King]

by "very rural" I mean what we call the boondocks, nothing but backwoods and swampland in the middle of nowhere. I guess it could be worst though. I'll try and be a little more positive about it and give it a shot. thanks for the reply 

[Jeff S]

Latin America is not the US. Only 6% of Americans live in rural settings while something like 50% of Latin Americans do. There are plenty of Latinas who'll skin your squirrels and go frog gigging in the swamps with you. The ranchitos of central Mexico, and rural parts of other Latin American countries are packed with young, attractive girls who'd jump at the opportunity to meet a country boy. To them, a washing machine, running hot water, and 24 hour a day electricity are the lap of luxury.

[Catfish_King]

Awesome. now thats what I wanna hear. Thanks for the info!

[robert angel]

Depends on the gal and what she's used to. Just be very upfront and real about what she's in for. My wife grew up way out in the country, w/o hot water,  a washer/dryer---not even a conventional stove and electricity would come and go. She went to a University in a bigger city and I think someone who's spent some time in the city after being raised out in the country makes most transitions to life in the USA a bit easier. My wife's family had a TV and watching shows like 'Baywatch' etc, they sort of developed a crazy idea of what life in the USA is like. I don't think there's a nation on earth that doesn't watch Baywatch--ha ha.

But even where she grew up, she always had people around and I've seen cases where foreign women moved to rural paces in the USA w/o anyone anywhere close by and they went stir crazy. Some people have to have that social outlet or they go nuts. And a lot of women will say what you're describing sounds wonderful--anything to get out of their country, so get to know  each other real well via chat and web cams, then in real life, so you get a good, accurate 'gut feeling'  as to if she's up for it, long term. Having kids kinda mitigates the isolation factor, as you're creating your own world there--but be real sure there, cause if it doesn't work out--you'll be paying child support a long, long time. Having family nearby that she gets along with can be helpful--I wish we did.

As said, I don't have family around us, but my wife's chosen basically 2 or 3 friends from her country who live locally, who she talks with just about everyday on the phone and sometimes gets together to eat ethnic foods. She also calls home every day or so, which keeps her happy knowing they're all fine too.

[robert angel]

BTW,
People adjust to almost anything and anyplace as long as the person/s they're around are decent and they adapt.

Go to Alaska and you'll see people from the tropics who've lived there for years.


My wife never fished in her life before and now she often catches as much as me. We never used to have flat head cat fish around here, but they're here now and doing incredibly well--eating some of the good pan fish in the process completely out of existence. Our waters stay warm enough that they grow really big. I'd love to see the wife catch one about 70 pounds. They're out there and that'd be a state record hereabouts and she doesn't weigh a whole lot more than some of those flatheads do!

[Jason1]

   My wife is from a big city in Colombia and we now live in a small southern US town.She loves it
here and doesn't want to return.

[Bob_S]

The ranchitos of central Mexico, and rural parts of other Latin American countries are packed with young, attractive girls who'd jump at the opportunity to meet a country boy. To them, a washing machine, running hot water, and 24 hour a day electricity are the lap of luxury.

That's true.  Rural living in America is vastly superior to rural living throughout much of the developing world.  And a fundamental rule of life is: women marry up.  And for millions of available women, what Catfish has is definitely up.  But what I'm wondering is, how is he going to get in touch with them?  The city girls have access to net cafés.  How many of these rural villages in S.A. have internet access that these S.A. country girls can use?  From the trip reports posted by guys here, it doesn't sound like the countryside is buzzing with wi-fi.
So for the Latin America travel vets here, I pose a question: how can Catfish best get in touch and lay the groundwork with rural senoritas?  Is boots on the ground his only option?

[Jeff S]

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[utopiacowboy]

The tiny hamlet near where my mother-in-law has her finca is so poor that they have a small church but no money to pay a priest to say Mass. Nobody has electricity except at the one cantina where everyone sits around watching tv from an extension cord hooked into god-knows-what outlet. They only own the clothes they've got on, many people don't even have shoes, the kids crawl around in the dirt with the dogs and the pigs fighting for any loose scrap of food. People in the worst ghetto in the US are rich compared to these people.

[Catfish_King]

"...small church but no money to pay a priest to say Mass. Nobody has electricity except at the one cantina where everyone sits around watching tv from an extension cord hooked into god-knows-what outlet. They only own the clothes they've got on, many people don't even have shoes, the kids crawl around in the dirt with the dogs and the pigs fighting for any loose scrap of food."

-Sounds like Pine Ridge, South Dakota.

Anyways, thanks for all the information. From the responses I've gotten here, it would seem like dating services in bigger cities might not be the route I should take. But now I'm just wondering how I would go about meeting someone in one of these small villages, to be honest with you....I wouldn't even know how to begin looking for a village or town outside of the U.S.
I saw a show on National Geographic or somewhere about a tribe of people in the Amazon called the Embera(not sure about spelling), but some of those women were beautiful looking and could most likely work circles around me! I would love to meet someone like that.
Does anyone know anything about mexicanmatchmakers.com? Their profiles and photos look like they're legitimate. Some sites I've seen, all the girls look like models from Lowrider magazine....
Thanks again for all the helpful responses.
-Catfish

[Jeff S]

I think Mexican Matchmakers is based in Guadalajara - a major city in Mexico and so very likely most of those women are city girls.

I'm sure there are Mexican communities around where you live. I's start with the church and make some friends. Nearly everyone has relatives and friends back home that they'll introduce you to. When I moved from Santa Barbara (very upscale) to Oxnard (a mostly Mexican farmworker community) I made lots of friends in the Hispanic community, as I spoke some Spanish (at that time it was mostly Italian that I tried to speak with a Mexican accent) and I had one old timer who was constantly bringing young women over to meet me. Whenever we went to a party or out to the clubs, he'd bring total stranger women over to dance with me too. It was funny.

If it were me, I'd get familiar with Amigos.com and make some friends in Mexico - men friends too. Everyone knows or is related to someone interested in meeting a gringo. Just because they have internet access doesn't mean they're an urban sophisticate - many people travel from their rural homes to get jobs in factories or stores, so they're around internet cafes. While agencies may be the thing in other parts of South America, in Mexico they're looked down on, and a lot of girls think it is cheap to list themselves.

You said you are living in the southern US - well the border maquiladora world (Mexican factories doing work mostly for US based companies) hire hundreds of thousands of mostly women, most of whom come from small towns in central Mexico. The Mexican half of the twin plant I managed was in in Tijuana, an electronics manufacturer, had 180 women from 17 to about 40 years old - nearly all single, and nearly all from somewhere else in Mexico. I was in very high demand as a dance partner at the company parties. I know the border towns across from Texas have the bulk of these industries. Finding a Mexican wingman to show you the ropes south of the border shouldn't be difficult.

[Jason1]

    In places like Mexico and Colombia alot of people live in bigger cities to find work and survive.
 Unlike here in the US where we have more of a choice.My wife prefers living in the small town that we live in here to the city where she is from.   

[fathertime]

hello, I'm new to this site but have always wondered about foreign relationships. I live in the southern U.S. in a very rural town. My choices in women here just aren't the best. I've always been attracted to Latin women but I have never really had the chance to be around them.
 
I have thought about trying to meet a woman from somewhere like Peru maybe or Mexico, but just can't imagine bringing someone back here....how different it would be for them, I just can't see someone not from here liking it....if that makes sense.
A beautiful Latina woman....turtle jugging in the swamp!?! Not to sound funny or anything, but I just can't see it working. hopefully I'm wrong, like I said before...I just have no idea.
Would it work, or am I just wasting my time? Any insight or information would be greatly appreciated.

Heck yeah it could work!

I'd be up front to the ladies about where you live and the lifestyle you expect they will be living.  Some will not be interested but others will be, that is if they think YOU are worth it. 

That is a good question though as to where to find a gal that might be more interested in the country lifestyle. When you get some inertia and start really moving on the idea, I'd start contacting agencies and latin dating sites for openers.  My woman was living in the city of Barranquilla and while we currently live in a populated area, she has very little interaction with outside people.  I've come to the conclusion that if I lived in a rural area it would actually be just as good if not better for my lady.  Don't let living in a rural area slow you down in the least.  Now if you are truly out of the house all the time for a job, that is a real factor that a lady might not be too thrilled about at first.  After a few years of marriage, she might consider it a positive.

Good luck,

Fathertime!

[Researcher]

 Good luck with your search Catfish_King.  Sure it would work.The key is finding the right lady for you. Pretty much any woman that moves here from another country is going to need to adjust.The best thing a guy can do is be up front about his situation.


    Researcher

[Jeff S]

I gotta ask catfish, are you a noodler? Now that's something I gotta do sometime.

[robert angel]

When I go fishing, it tends to be an extended day that runs until darkness sets in. If by chance I don't catch anything worth bringing home, I stop at the grocery store on the way home and go to the seafood counter. There, I pick out a nice looking whole fish, get the clerk to wrap it, but THEN, he has to TOSS it over the counter to me--that's important.

Then I unwrap the fish, put it in the cooler and head home. When my wife inquires "Honey--you've been gone all day--did you catch anything?", I can open the cooler and say--"This is the only one I caught, but isn't it a beauty?"

[Dave H]

Hey Rob,

  That might work with my wife too...but her mother would catch on it less than a second! 

Dave

[InnocentVixen]

You said you are living in the southern US - well the border maquiladora world (Mexican factories doing work mostly for US based companies) hire hundreds of thousands of mostly women, most of whom come from small towns in central Mexico.

I think that would be a good option for you, it doesn't necessarily has to be a country girl living in the country... a small town girl will do, even if she moved to a small city to work, as long as she is the kind of girl that loves the country, the good thing about this is that they will have internet access and be a bit more open minded, they might even speak english. I live in a city with a lot of factories near Tijuana and I've met girls like this, they are usually good hard working girls that send money home, homesickness is a good sign they prefer the country to the city!

Another idea came to mind... are you religious? if you befriend a priest (if you are not very religious a catholic priest) and tell him you are looking a lady for a serious relationship I bet he would have a suggestion or 2... or even better an old lady, they love match making  just be careful if you make friends with guys, unless they suggest their sister or cousin odds are they will be party girls.