Typical attitude of a Colombian Lady?

[Jeff S]

Yes, she can get by without English in English optional places, but the idea that without English she won't become Americanized, so don't encourage her to learn it, is faulty IMO. Her character, education and convictions are what will shape her attitudes and actions, not whether she becomes English fluent, or never speaks a word of it. To not encourage her to learn English is doing her a disservice. Maybe she can get by, but she'll get by that much better with it than without it.

[Alabamaboy!]

Any talk about money like that, even if she is trying to pass it off as a joke, is grounds for immediate dismissal from serious consideration.

There are women in Colombia who are really not interested in cash. But you have to sort through a few to find those gems.

The best advice I can give you is don't be afraid to cut them loose as soon as they do something stupid like talk about money issues like that. Don't waste your time with nonsense like that.

Especially if she is already in her 40's. Unless she looks like Sofia Vergara, nobody is going to be interested in her in Colombia, and her leverage is not very strong when there are 10's of thousands of younger, hotter, less financially motivated women to be had.

[utopiacowboy]

"Especially if she is already in her 40's. Unless she looks like Sofia Vergara, nobody is going to be interested in her in Colombia, and her leverage is not very strong when there are 10's of thousands of younger, hotter, less financially motivated women to be had."

Even then, Colombian men would not be interested in marrying a woman that old. For something on the side, yes. She has no leverage, none, no matter how hot she is.

[InnocentVixen]

reminder: never been to Colombia!
but this is my point of view as human female 

Height a problem? I seriously doubt it, there is too many of us shorties that love tall men, maybe she has not met someone as tall as you, so the thought "careful what you wish for" might cross her mind the first time she looks at you in person (happened to me!) but as long as you are not a scary guy everything should be fine. Since you are very fit I would encourage you to look for younger women, remember that age does not = maturity

I think no matter how much or how little money you have, you should focus on personality and compatibility first, being honest is great but it doesn't mean you have to give every little detail as soon as you meet, leave the financial details for last.

Sometimes I wonder when I read some posts, like right now, if a man met someone nice and compatible that he is attracted to but she happens to have higher education (or english level for that matter) or comes from a higher status than expected, is it reason enough to look somewhere else? it's good to be careful but just curious...

[dennislevy]

I live in Colombia and I htink there are wellover 22,000,000 females here...and I think that there are some basic attitues that are ocmmon.
1.  The majority of unbnmarried, divorced, separated women im most stratos and especially if they have kids  have need for economic stability .Most gringos who dont understand or realize how many women live close to the edge...They may look godd in their photos, have jeans with a sharp crease and polished boots that that is the facade.....for them there is a need to get through the week or the rest of the month. I know the kind of women I like and can attract...and I ve almost never have had a woman try me for money with a hard luck story (which  may or may not be true) ...but when they do, it is because because Im out of my dating pool....but I m not put off, I ignore it with the unspoken understanding that whatever we had...just ended.
2. Colombian women just like anybody are shaped by their family and environment. The family is a key influence, economic and social status is another, and their perspective on their their life as a colombiana is another. Their attiufes aobut foreign men may come form a variety fo sourses, TV, the movies, stories from women friends who dated foreign men, etc.   Ive had a couple fo women flat out write to me and tell me that htey are not interested in a North American and they didnt know anything aobut me.
3. if a Colombian womans spoke close to or flawless colloquial English i wouldn t make any assumptions aabout her, the two things I would say with certainity and I say them as a man who speaks fluent Spanish and tesaches English in Bogota...is that such a woman has exceptional motivation, or spend considerable time in an Englsu speakign environment...or both.  It takes a high level of personal motivation to learn another language well and even more to speak it at an exceptionally fluent level.

I ve said this a gazillion times on this forum, if you want to have success here and there is no guarantee...but you will increase your chances
1, if you speak passable to excellent Spanish. ive ehard every excusable excuse form men....but in an age where you can learn another lanugae on the Internet witout paying...there are no excuses.
2. You are realistic about yourself and the kind of an age of women you can attract. A good rule of thimb is you can date 10 years younger here then in the States. Im 5 11 , 240 and bald and not particualrly good looking and I odn t want to waste money on women who arent possibilities. But I had 4 dates with three different women this weekend amd I wa sinvitedo to the women s homes for a second and a third date. 
The most valuable thign you can do (especially if you speak spanish) is to ask questions, polite, not too direct, but designed to give you some idea of the woman s lifk. You arent going to get that if you ask her what kind of man she is looking for. Cause dollars to donutes to start off with, you are going to get the usual cliches....and some you may not understand.   
   

[robert angel]

We're all running some generalizations here, but I think most people who can speak a second or more language/s fluently are likely to have a higher level of education and got there with intelligence, drive and determination. In turn, those attributes and genetics that helped make it possible probably came from the family.

Yea, women usually end up with male mate taller than themselves, but I know plenty of couples, even home grown in the USA, who seem happy with the guy being somewhat shorter than the wife.

I'm a good foot taller than my wife and that's never been an issue. It kind of bugs her in photographs and we compensate sometimes there, but actually it looks cute. Her ladies 5 and a half size foot compared to my guy's size 11 make a funny-cute picture, as does her elegant, tiny hand on top of mine.

What I dislike about it all, is those tiny, ill equipped toilet arrangements they have back in her homeland!

[dennislevy]

Just a short o[snip]er point to Utopia Cowboys contention that women over 40 don t get married here...and when I say married, i mean a church or ciivl ceremony with anotary formalized by reliigous tradition or law.

They do not in droves...but it happens......and they marry both men.  Some younger men prefer to marry women who  are er because they provide stability, in other words a sugar mama...I recently met a newly married couple in Bogota , he is 42, he had been divorced for several years, his new bride s 52, she looked aobut 43 or 44, well preserved.

[dennislevy]

whoops that didnt make much sense.

Just a short counterpoint to UC s contnetion that women over 40 in Colombia don tmarry.

They do, not a lot, but they do, to men both older and younger.

[utopiacowboy]

whoops that didnt make much sense.

Just a short counterpoint to UC s contnetion that women over 40 in Colombia don tmarry.

They do, not a lot, but they do, to men both older and younger.

When I met my wife she was 42 and still very attractive but she was quite candid in saying that no Colombian would ever marry her at that age. Maybe an exaggeration but roughly accurate.

[dennislevy]

UC

From her photo..your wife isnt just attractive.....she s gorgeous.

And as I recall, your wife was a widow with three young uns..and you made them your family....which tells me you re exceptional.

But you re right, I don t think any Colombian man would accept the responsiiblity for a marriage committment to a woman with three chiuldren still at home.

The general colombiano attitude is........... they are your kids...............they are your problem.