taking a break from online dating sites

[InnocentVixen]

A lot has happened and my plans have changed, I'm moving to Puerto Vallarta next week! (well somewhere around that area anyways) my guess is that job hunting and looking for a place will take plenty of my time until I settle, that should take me a month or so.

There is someone I've been communicating with for about 3 weeks, I wouldn't say I like him, but he is nice and fun, not bad looking and he surprises me pretty often (in a good way). He is not the personality I'm usually attracted to but I find myself talking to him almost every night, he admitted he doesn't really like writing but enjoys it when it's me and a few days ago he said he'd like to meet me someday, my answer to that was asking how serious he was, that I wasn't sure it was a good idea (he mentioned before that he joined the site on a whim, you could almost say a friend dared him to and that he wasn't expecting much) and this is what he said:

To be honest i'm at a point where i'm not looking for anything in particular but i'm exploring all avenues and if i meet the right person then perhaps! But if anything i enjoy talking to you...

So I told him that if by the time I'm settled he is still interested, we could start talking about that. It seems I'll be talking only to him for a while, unless I met someone verrrry interesting before I leave but I doubt it.

Your opinions on this guy?

[Jeff S]

Have fun in your move to Jalisco (or maybe Nyarit?) Like many tourist places in Mexico, they have their pluses and minuses. I love the ocean around Puerto Vallarta.

I think it's a good sign to have someone not single mindedly focused on finding someone, but rather interested in having fun, meeting people and if the chemistry is right, move on to the next stage. These women and men who are all-out on a serious hunt are a bit scary IMO. We see some of the men on this board on occasion, and hear all sorts of stories.

In the book and movie, "Under the Tuscan Sun" the older lady tells the younger women focused on finding a new husband a story about when she was a little girl she used to run around trying to catch ladybugs until she was so tired she'd fall asleep on the grass in the sun, and when she awoke there would always be many ladybugs crawling on her when she awoke. it's not something you can force successfully.

- Jeff

[Jamie]

Don’t think you should take a break. How difficult is it to keep your options open and respond to potential candidates. As long as you state why you are slow and short with your responses most guys won’t have a problem with that. As for this particular guy if you can’t even say you like him I am not sure why you would bother.

You should get an indicator from a guy fairly early on what point would he commit to a visit once he feels there is potential with a particular person and how long does he think that would take. If you don’t get an answer in what you feel is a suitable time frame then you decide if it would be worth to keep a dialogue. I have seen guys write for over 2 years and still not visit the girl they are writing.

I have fond memories of Puerto Vallarta with one exception. I was swimming and jet skiing in the sea for a couple of hours and after I was done I was asked, “why I was swimming when they had the red warning flag out” and I said, “I didn’t think the water was very rough.” Only to find out the red flag was for a high pollution alert.  And to think I was worried about not drinking the tap water.

[InnocentVixen]

My godfather offered one of his cabins, they are actually in Nayarit (but really really close) but I'll be job hunting in Puerto Vallarta and Nuevo Vallarta and hoping to find a place in Bucerias, because like I mentioned before I prefer small towns.

@Jeff S:
Haven't read that book or watched the movie but the comment of the old lady is very sweet and probably true, thank you for sharing

@Jamie:
I guess adding some sort of note to my profile could be an option, that way if I was interested they would understand why it took me so long to answer; and why would I bother? because I am very picky and it's hard to get my attention... specially keep it, this guy somehow managed to get it to some degree and is keeping it, so that is why I gave him my phone number, not a bother at all. I don't think I need to worry about him being one of those guys that just write, maybe it was the language barrier and made it sound like that, it was me the one asking for more time before we meet.

I've seen how excited some guys get saying "I found the one" but I think it doesn't work the same for everyone, I don't think I can say I like someone (enough to be in a relationship with) without looking into his eyes first, I don't fall in love easily either so for me saying that I like someone is sort of a big deal, and yes, I am aware I am strange 

[Bob_S]

I don't think I can say I like someone (enough to be in a relationship with) without looking into his eyes first, I don't fall in love easily either so for me saying that I like someone is sort of a big deal, and yes, I am aware I am strange 

Not strange.  It makes perfect sense.  What you have is a pen pal.  It is one of the rules of the game, don't fall in love with a photo, and it extends to writing as well if you have good sense.  You should not be saying he is mi amour if you have not seen each other in person yet.
My wife and I were pen pals for about a year before we met in person.  And even then, it took us about 9 months before we decided it was our fate to be together and we couldn't live without each other.  So, just to say, there is no rush, especially if you want to find the right match.