Hi just looking for some advice on my girlfriend

[gak528]

Hi to everyone, I am new to this forum stuff, Well I met a girl on LPS in October of last year, we talked and everything for a long time, then I want to go see her January everything was great, I stayed there for close to 2 months with her she seemed perfect she even cried at the airport when I left. I got back from Lima on Feb. 20th, less then a month later she joined 2 sites, AFA and Matching sys and attended 1 social for afa, and we where engaged at that time, we even had video at lps of us, I had not been using the internet for a while, so I did not know about it, she told me she went joined afa before she met me, and she attended the social after October, but the only socials i know of in Lima Peru for afa are in march is that right? and I checked her time of joining and it was around the march time, I have a feeling of being played, My really good female friend that i have known for about 3 years told me to just let her go, and date on of my friends Amiga's, well thank you very much for listening to my story if you have any advice you would like to share please, I look forward to hearing others opinions on my problem.

Thank you very much for your time

Gary

you know truth really hurts sometimes

[Ray]

Hi Gary,

If you were officially engaged and she is still going out, then you have a problem. If you have a feeling you are being played, then listen to those feelings.

Have you told her how you feel about this behavior?

If she doesn't care and only gives lame excuses, I would dump her pronto...

Ray

[sean126]

Well...I looked on AFA's website and for next year they have a tour to lima in March and Oct.  They don't have the dates for the tours already finished.  Best thing to do is to contact them and ask them.  I don't know if they will respond, but couldn't hurt.
Make sure when looking at her profile that it shows the date she joined and not when she updated her profile or picture.  The agency may have changed it on their own to make it look like a newer profile.

Like RR said, if you feel like your being played then you very well may be.  Couldn't hurt to do a little investigating first.  Like...say, perhaps use a friend's credit card and email address and buy her email address through AFA and then write her pretending to be someone else and send a fake picture with it.  Ask her when she joined, how long she's been single, when is the last time she had a boyfriend and such.  That's ONE way of doing it, if you feel like going through all that trouble.

[bigstew33]

Wow Sean you put some thought into that

[sean126]

    I've got a million of them.

Actually, this particular James Bond, Ninja type move was actually used.  It wasn't through and agency or anything...but I kinda told a fib about who I was with a fake picture attached to a girl pretending to be my friend.  I thought she was going to die when I busted her. 

[gak528]

Hi thanks for the great advice and help, I do really care about here, it is just so hard when the trust seems to be fading away, I think it sounds a little cold but I need to know the truth about her, I looked at the new members link to find out when she joined, not on her profile.

She met have been telling the truth about going in October then to the social, i have a lot to think about on this, this really sucks, I do love her, but then again, maybe it would just be easier on me to let her go with the wind, and take some advice from my Amiga that lives in Lima,Peru who i have known for about 3 years and maybe meet one of her friends, this my second girlfriend I have had from Lima, the first one lied a lot also.

Thanks for the good advice from everyone and good luck to all of us gringos not to get played.

[fathertime]

this my second girlfriend I have had from Lima, the first one lied a lot also.

A girlfriend that "Lies a lot" is not any type of friend at all!  On the limited information you have given, my advice...Move on and find a woman who can be honest with you.

Fathertime!

[utopiacowboy]

You don't want a woman that you have any doubts about. If you can't trust her with your life, kick her to the curb. If I wanted a woman I couldn't trust, who would spend all my money and make me feel bad about myself, I'd stick to gringas.

[doombug]

this my second girlfriend I have had from Lima, the first one lied a lot also.

I, too, found a Liema while in Lima.

I eventually reneged on bringing her to the States, so we're square.

[EbonyPrince]

Life's way too short and there is way too many people to be worrying about someone that you have doubts about.

Rather than losing sleep and possible time, I would move on.  One thing I learned in life, is that you have to always trust your instincts.  They may be wrong sometime.  Since they're designed to protect you, you will be more right than wrong in most cases.

[william3rd]

Cut her in the clear. You and she are not on the same page.

ENGAGED means something. HONESTY means something.

The first lie should be the last. And dating while engaged is not engaged. That is called looking to move up or upgrade. So apparently you are not good enough for her.

UNLESS- she is just taking a page from Romance Tour 101- BSing the New Girlfriend -and just "validating her feelings for you" by going out with other men.

[Dan Las Vegas]

Kick her to the curb and move on!!!! This is too difficult and expensive of a process to waste time on women that lie or that you have doubts about. If she is going to socials or putting her profile up on other sites, that would be more than enough for me to call it quits and move on.