Sending and Receiving Emails

[raycjs]

Can you tell me how long does it take once you have sent emails to the women
i have purchased about a dozen email address. I sent them out last week how long in normal till they respond. Thanks for your help i am new to all of this.

[bigstew33]

I am finding that some may never respond to emails.  You have to remember that most Colombians don't have computers and they have to go to an internet cafes.  Even then doesn't mean they know how to respond to email either.  In the USA Computers are almost like TV's.  Everyone has one, or good access to one. 

[michaelb]

Be aware that some of them aren't going to respond at all. You're just not what they are looking for. Doesn't mean you're a bad guy, doesn't mean the agency is a rip off, doesn't mean the women aren't sincere. As for how long before any of them respond, well not all (I'd even venture the word 'most') of them DON'T have internet in their home, so they either mooch it at work when/if they can or go to a public internet cafe, maybe once a week or so. Remember, they have to go out of their way and pay money to do so. Now, with that said, once you start something with one, she may well go every day IF she's expecting something from you. Did you write in Spanish? Spanish good enough for them to understand? Did you enclose a picture? Those will both speed up and increase the overall number of responses. A week since you sent them? I wouldn't be worrying yet.

[fathertime]

Can you tell me how long does it take once you have sent emails to the women
i have purchased about a dozen email address. I sent them out last week how long in normal till they respond. Thanks for your help i am new to all of this.

With Cali Charm, they also notified my girl by telephone, telling her that I had sent an email.  She responded back the next day. Perhaps you can have whomever you purchased the address from, do the same (Assuming you purchased the email). 

Good luck

Fathertime!

[sean126]

Fathertime is correct.  When I used Jamie's agency, if the girl hadn't responded in a timely manner they called the girl I believe.   I would contact the agency after about 2 weeks from the day you sent it and ask them to either call the girl or give you credit for the unanswered e-mail, so you can write someone else.

It may be hard to believe, but some girl actually refused to answer one of my e-mails.  Yeah, I know....it's a shock   But Jamie was kind enough to contact me and tell me she declined to answer my e-mail and that I could choose someone else to write.

If you didn't go through an agency, then your S.O.L.

I'd say if you don't get a response within 2 weeks time, then she probably won't answer.     

[utopiacowboy]

My wife had a computer and internet access in her apartment so it was easy for her to respond. However, she received hundreds of emails so she only responded if she was really interested. In the Colombian cities there are plenty of internet cafes so it's really not that hard for a woman to check her email. Whether she's got money to pay for it may be a factor.

[raycjs]

So the only way to go is thru an agency? this way they will help with getting the girls to respond
to my emails. Is this correct ? thank again for all your help

[sean126]

Agencies might not be able to get them to respond, but they will let them know that they have an e-mail waiting.  If they choose not to respond, I would think the agency would give you credit for that e-mail.  It may be helpful before you pay an agency, to ask that question....just so you don't have to eat the money.  The situation will definitely come up sooner or later, if you write enough women at an agency.

[raycjs]

I have spoken to Jamie at http://www.latin-wife.com/ and i am going to try his service he offers 30 email address and he also will do follow ups. i am very understated in meeting women from Colombia. So i assume this is the way to go correct to start with emails and then make a trip to Colombia? 

[sean126]

Thats the way I did it.  But others guys will say...just go.  Nothing wrong with that either.

I used Jamie also.  What I did was, about 2 months before I went down...I wrote my top women that I wanted to meet.  Sent them my pictures.  That way, I wouldn't get my hopes up of waiting to meet someone to see if they was interested or not.  I would already have some indication if they were interested or not.  If someone wasn't....I just filled her slot with someone else.  I went down with about 6 or 7 women that were my top picks, who were waiting for me.   I did the grand tour thing.  Met alot of women, had the time of my life.  It was a lot of fun.

[raycjs]

That is what i am planning to do i will write as many as i can and then i will just go and see what it is all about. you guys here are very helpful i am glad i found this site. i speak very little Spanish so i think that i will need the help of an agency and a translator. thank you all again

[Dan Las Vegas]

You might try Amigos.com, Match.com etc. I used this method, wrote a lot of women and received a fair amount of replies. Since I did not speak spanish, I used a web translator to assist. My novia's letters quickly stood out from the rest and after we corresponded for awhile, decided to go to Colombia to meet her. While this worked for me and if my memory is correct, Utopia Cowboy, it might not work for you.

Good luck no matter which method you choose

[bundy_138]

UC-My girl had the same thing happen.  She had a ton of guys email her and she ignored everyone of them.  She said she emailed me back because I was hot!? (Wanna' see a 35 yr old guy blush!) 

You have to play the numbers in the email game.  I tired the email thing and emailed probably 6 or 7 girls.  4 returned my emails....one was crazy, one was psycho, one I had no chemistry with, and the last became my fiance.  The more you email, the more chance you have of getting a response.

Not saying anything negative about you personally, but even if you think you are the best looking guy on earth, you still have to convince her that you are that good looking.  If she is not interested by your photos, you won't get a reply.  I'll be the first to admit that I am shallow and the very first thing I noticed about my girl was her looks.  After we got to know each other better, I love her personality and she is a wonderful human being.  I love everything about her. 

It is better to have a few dates lined up before you get there and then set up a few when you get there.  I would hate to fly all the way to Colombia, meet a girl for the first time there, and then not have anything to talk about.  I wanted to know the person I was writing to before I got there.  That way I didn't waste my time.  Everybody here has a different approach, just use what works best for you and use your best judgement.

Bundy

[utopiacowboy]

You might try Amigos.com, Match.com etc. I used this method, wrote a lot of women and received a fair amount of replies. Since I did not speak spanish, I used a web translator to assist. My novia's letters quickly stood out from the rest and after we corresponded for awhile, decided to go to Colombia to meet her. While this worked for me and if my memory is correct, Utopia Cowboy, it might not work for you.

Good luck no matter which method you choose

Si, yo tambien, Senor.

[RJS]

FWIW and since i'm no longer using the sites, Latinamericancupid.com is by far the best imo. I got WAYYYYYYYYYYY more hits on it than on match.com or cybercupido. I can only assume it's because there's more activity there because i used the same photos and descriptions and this was over a 3 month period. I If I logged in on a saturday morning to LAcupid.com, for instance, i was pretty much guaranteed to get 10 guinos during that time. I didn't like amigos so didn't sign-up.

In the end, only one has held my interest though. I've spent about 20 hours online with her in the last week and a bit alone. All the other girls i was talking to are now unimportant to me. This girl is a bit shorter than i normally like, but has a very pretty face, good work ethic/education, and an awesome personality. All it took was a webcam to snap me out of my obsession for tall chicks.

At this point, I'm basically gambling my whole trip on her being awesome. I want to spend as much time with possible with her since I can't go down to peru as often as some other people because of my horrible schedule.

As far as emails are concerned, imo, the girl you're going to click with will show significantly more interest than the norm. This girl sends me long emails, asks lots of questions, and actually answers all of mine. With other girls i got a lot of short and fast replies that didn't always answer everything and that I don't think merited significant interest.

[utopiacowboy]

"At this point, I'm basically gambling my whole trip on her being awesome. I want to spend as much time with possible with her since I can't go down to peru as often as some other people because of my horrible schedule.

As far as emails are concerned, imo, the girl you're going to click with will show significantly more interest than the norm. This girl sends me long emails, asks lots of questions, and actually answers all of mine. With other girls i got a lot of short and fast replies that didn't always answer everything and that I don't think merited significant interest."

I did exactly the same thing and I am still nuts about my lovely wife even after four years of marriage.

[raycjs]

when you use the web site's www.latinamericancupid.com and the others do you write to them in spanish or english. i am a member of this site and i was going to start to write to some of the girls on there. thanks for your help

[michaelb]

Spanish, of course, if you can. If you can't, use one of those on line translators like Babelfish....but if you do, be aware that they aren't 100% accurate (particulary with idiomatic expressions) so send both the translation and the original English, this will accomplish a couple or three things: 1. (If the translation works out perfectly) she won't think 'Wow, this guy really knows Spanish!' and get her hopes too high. 2. (If the translation doesn't come through the program so great) She will see that it was from a computer and won't think your Spanish is that horrible. 3. If there is something not clear from the computerized translation, she will have the English to show a human translator (who will hopefully do better than the computer).

When using a translating program, use simple and direct sentences and try to get the English grammar correct, such as "We enjoyed ourselves very much" instead of "Dude! We was chillin". Also, go back and LOOK at the Spanish generated. Even if you don't know enough Spanish to tell if it is correct or not, if you see any English words in it, your either lucked into a cognate, or more likely, put in a word the translation program didn't know and you need to rephrase that part.

[utopiacowboy]

That's very good advice above. That's exactly how I started.

[RJS]

If you're serious about this you definitely should be learning spanish sooner rather than later. It's pointless to go down there if you can't communicate imo. It helps if the girl you're interested in is already learning english though (she'll haev to eventually). It really helps in conversation if she can use english words when you don't understand something. I spoke to girls that said they spoke english but never did to me. I'm trying to lean spanish, but if they can't be bothered to try to speak english, even when they say they can in their profile, it's a flag that it won't work imo. I want a girl to meet me half way.

I used a program called wordmagic to write my profiles. It's a lot better than the free sites because you can go word by word of your translation to select the precise meaning you're trying to convey. I think in a profile it's important to convey the type of guy you really are, and not just put some generic description, so getting the words right are important. FWIW, I put a lot of work in to my letters, getting the spanish as close to perfect as I could, using proper grammar, being descriptive, etc. In the end, the girl I'm going to meet loved that. She said she never responded to guys she felt were using a shotgun approach.

[raycjs]

Thank you for all your advise i am going to start to learn Spanish and when i write i will use a translation program. i did notice on this web site www.latinamericancupid.com that they translate your profile for you and when it show up it is in English and Spanish. when i search for the girls on this site there profile is also in Spanish and English. I am planning on taking this very serous so again thanks for all your help and advice. i am in this for the long haul that is why i am asking so many questions.