How fast should you go???

[bcc_1_2]

never allow anyone to define what your relationship is.  If she is your girlfriend to you and you have become close and you know her personality then she is your girfriend. 

No need to let Webster or common sense get in your way. That's kinda the thing here. This question is not defining something in a relationship. The actual question is... is there a boyfriend girlfriend relationship? According to any common use of the term the answer is no. The internet does complicate things sometimes. You've got to love technology. Chats and webcams can sure help out in the process. The reasons words matter is the meaning behind them. With a girlfriend you might send her money. You might plan to get engaged with a girlfriend. You might engage in adult relations. Now again technology does attempt to rub out the line in the sand because you can actually see her via webcam and hear her voice. Plus I suppose you could even do that "cybering crap" if that is both what you want to do.

But it is important to note that there is no physical contact that can only be accomplished when you actually meet in person. Again with the definition of girlfriend you have time spent together in person and have a comfort level. With a penpal or internet buddy you have actually never met before. A penpal you would meet with some caution. A penpal you wouldn't send money to. With a penpal you don't actually know if it will progress to the stage of girlfriend because you've actually never met. There are countless stories online of both domestic and international meetings where both parties were really excited to meet up and then once they got together there was actually no chemistry.

I'm about to run outta here and pack. I'm excited to meet this girl. But I'm not sending my penpal money. I'm going to meet her with my friend in the motel lobby for the first time. I'm hoping there will be chemistry but I won't know until I am actually with her.

Now I understand heruamen's point. There are a lot of negative people out there that won't be supportive of an international relationship. But again we define things. If you go to Tela, Honduras to meet a woman that is an international relationship that may form. If you go to Dallas, Texas that is a domestic. We have to use some common sense here and yes we do have to define things. You just can't allow people to put a negative connotation to it.

There is a huge difference between penpal and girlfriend. If you switch the words up and everyone knows what you are actually saying it is no big deal. When someone comes on this message board and doesn't know what you are saying then it is a big deal.

Hey newbie would you give your girlfriend $300 bucks? Newbie: yea maybe
Hey newbie would you feel comfortable meeting your girlfriend anywhere? yea she is trustworthy

Ok well you get the idea. Its penpal for a reason. I sure do hope it will work out for me in a few days as it has for all you guys who headed over the pacific. But we shall see when I meet my penpal. 

Words matter. Especially on even more serious issues. As much as NAMBLA might disagree. Man boy love is defined as pedophilia. There are plenty of NAMBLA members that I'm sure would say don't let them define your relationship with boys. Again you can't evade webster. He'll get you every time. And of course if you just misdefine girlfriend no harm done. If you actually happen to be a practicing member of NAMBLA... well your future cell mate will probably help you define yourself in several new ways.

[piglett]

Some advice for you Piglett, don't try and change. Just be yourself, you want the girl to fall in love with you, not who she thinks you are.

There is someone there who will match up with you perfectly. Trust me I know, I communicated with hundreds of girls before I narrowed it down to just one.

I know because you are specifically looking for a girl with a degree (nursing) that it will be a bit tougher but it won't be that hard. Just be true to yourself and don't settle for a girl who you think might not be the one.

It just so happened that most of the girls on my short list were either in the medical field or in IT. The last 10 had 2 IT girls, 1 HRM girl, 1 midwife, and the rest were nurses.

My girl has tons of friends in nursing school if you want me to try and hook you up.

If things don't work out with this girl i will be sure to let U know, thanks for the offer Cbear

[piglett]

Actually, I know a girl that might be a good fit for you. She was on my short list, she is a 27 year old nurse who works for a major publishing company in Asia. She has chinese features and is a tiny girl. She dies her hair blonde but it works for her, she is very sexy.

She is not a virgin but her background is verifiable, she is not a bar girl. She is very submissive. She expects a man who will lead her, she will follow.

If you want, I will give you her contact info.

man i am tempted to take you up on that offer but i have tried to talk to more that 1 at a time & it is hard to keep each girls info straight in your head .
so for now atleast i will see how things go with "Marily"
I will be loyal to her but if it starts to look like things are not going well then hell yes i will be looking to pick up another pinay penpal

thanks piglett

[Ray]

No need to let Webster or common sense get in your way. That's kinda the thing here. This question is not defining something in a relationship. The actual question is... is there a boyfriend girlfriend relationship? According to any common use of the term the answer is no. The internet does complicate things sometimes. You've got to love technology. Chats and webcams can sure help out in the process. The reasons words matter is the meaning behind them. With a girlfriend you might send her money. You might plan to get engaged with a girlfriend. You might engage in adult relations. Now again technology does attempt to rub out the line in the sand because you can actually see her via webcam and hear her voice. Plus I suppose you could even do that "cybering crap" if that is both what you want to do.

But it is important to note that there is no physical contact that can only be accomplished when you actually meet in person. Again with the definition of girlfriend you have time spent together in person and have a comfort level. With a penpal or internet buddy you have actually never met before. A penpal you would meet with some caution. A penpal you wouldn't send money to. With a penpal you don't actually know if it will progress to the stage of girlfriend because you've actually never met. There are countless stories online of both domestic and international meetings where both parties were really excited to meet up and then once they got together there was actually no chemistry.

I'm about to run outta here and pack. I'm excited to meet this girl. But I'm not sending my penpal money. I'm going to meet her with my friend in the motel lobby for the first time. I'm hoping there will be chemistry but I won't know until I am actually with her.

Now I understand heruamen's point. There are a lot of negative people out there that won't be supportive of an international relationship. But again we define things. If you go to Tela, Honduras to meet a woman that is an international relationship that may form. If you go to Dallas, Texas that is a domestic. We have to use some common sense here and yes we do have to define things. You just can't allow people to put a negative connotation to it.

There is a huge difference between penpal and girlfriend. If you switch the words up and everyone knows what you are actually saying it is no big deal. When someone comes on this message board and doesn't know what you are saying then it is a big deal.

Hey newbie would you give your girlfriend $300 bucks? Newbie: yea maybe
Hey newbie would you feel comfortable meeting your girlfriend anywhere? yea she is trustworthy

Ok well you get the idea. Its penpal for a reason. I sure do hope it will work out for me in a few days as it has for all you guys who headed over the pacific. But we shall see when I meet my penpal. 

Words matter. Especially on even more serious issues. As much as NAMBLA might disagree. Man boy love is defined as pedophilia. There are plenty of NAMBLA members that I'm sure would say don't let them define your relationship with boys. Again you can't evade webster. He'll get you every time. And of course if you just misdefine girlfriend no harm done. If you actually happen to be a practicing member of NAMBLA... well your future cell mate will probably help you define yourself in several new ways.

What the hell is this moron yapping about?? NAMBLA? Pedophilia?  Cybering Crap? Words Matter? SHEESH! What has this guy been smoking?

But you're right about one thing. There are a lot of negative people out there and you're one of them. The real question is, why do you care what some other guy calls his significant other? And why do you care how old she is?

My advice to you is to get your nose out of other peoples' relationships and worry about you own back yard.

And while you're at it Newbie, why don't YOU stick YOUR nose in a dictionary. Maybe you'll learn something!

[piglett]

O H  S H * T  H E R E  W E  G O  A G A I N !!!

[Shadow_mas]

What the hell is this moron yapping about??

Ray, you are free to give your valued opinion, but I would prefer that you use some less strong qualifications.

[jm21-2]

Ah Ray, the famed master-baiter of PL.

[Ray]

Ah Ray, the famed master-baiter of PL.

Oh boy, more wisdom from the peanut gallery.

Can you spell  H Y P O C R I T E ?     

[Dave H]

I am of the opinion that we may have several females masquerading as men on this board.

Dave

[piglett]

I am of the opinion that we may have several females masquerading as men on this board.

Dave

You may be on to something here
But it's hard saying not knowing

[stevjulietb]

I think its hard and tucked!

Steveb

[Ray]