Question about race

[Link]

Hi everyone,

Just found this site the other day and want to express my appreciation to all the contributors for their valuable info. Like many of you, I strongly desire to marry someone from a different country with a different background and culture.

As you can probably tell, I'm particularly interested in Asian women. It seems that many posters here are caucasian and issues of interracial relationships have been mentioned on the board before. I'm wondering if anyone has any insight on how men of other races would be perceived as potential husbands. In my case, I am of Pakistani background but I've grown up in Canada. I have a good white-collar job so I have the means to take care of a wife and family and provide financial stability. I think most likely women looking for western husbands expect western men to be caucasian (which I'm guessing they usually are in this case), so I was wondering if any cultural predjudices might limit my opportunities for success?

I made a profile on Cherry Blossoms to check it out and got a lot of smiles/chat requests from Filipinas so it seems like it might not be a huge issue there, but I wonder about other areas like China/Japan/Thailand/Vietnam?

[Jeff S]

Hi Link and Welcome. I don't see why it would make a difference. You're going to run up against resistance from some fathers in many of the countries, but you'd get that no matter how light or dark your skin is. They can't bear to see their daughters married off to foreign devils. Your behaviour, not your origin will be the determining factor in how you're percieved. A polite, respectful dark skinned person will do far better with Asian ladies than a loud obnoxious caucasian (and you'll see plenty of them in Asia unfortunately.) Depending on whether or not you're religious might be a bigger factor and may influence where you look. The white collar Pakastanis I know are very secular so it doesn't matter, but if you're devout, you might do better in a place like Indonesia where many of the women are themselves Moslem.

- Jeff

[william3rd]

Thais are very complex when it comes to race.

In part it is a matter of appearance-the lighter you are, the better it is for the children.

It is also a matter of Nationality. There is also a pecking order that seems to have Chinese at the top and then moving down into the European races and then further to other races and nationalities.

Finally there is a matter of face and the view of many old style Thais that the only women who will consort with foreigners are women of low morals.

The rise of mixed nationality movie stars and the internet has removed a lot of the stigma from inter-racial marriages but it is still there. The best approach for Thailand is to communicate with prospective mates first and see which ones you establish affinity with. Dont bother going over just hoping for introductions.

[Bear]

Not sure if I understood where you were looking in particular but my experience with Filipinas is that they would prefer first a caucasion but lacking they'd marry the first guy at their door with a ring and live happily ever after.

You shouldn't have a problem.

The Bear Family

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Thanks for the replies. That's a good point about religion. Technically I am muslim, but I'm not religious. It looks like there will be some Filipinas that are off limits since they are looking for Catholic husbands, but still there are many others who don't seem to have a strong religious requirement.

Also thanks william3rd for the post about Thailand. I find Thai culture to be quite interesting also.

[drjoker69]

If you are Muslim, then race doesn't matter if she is a devout Muslim. All that matters to her is that you are also Muslim. She will not care if you are black, white, or other.

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Mr Cupid advertises a matchmaking service where he'll help you find a Muslim bride. He guarantees her virginity by medical examination and everything is all inclusive; the wedding banquet, the gifts to the girl's family, etc. It may seem draconian to require virginity and those medical tests are dubious but I've read a lot of posts on here and it seems that a lot of guys have unwittingly married ex-prostitutes. Marrying a virgin will avoid this.

Thanks and Cheers,
drjoker69.